Not being attractive to women (is this the reason?)

Partying and doing drugs is only attractive to a particular type of girl, so if you want a girlfriend who is shallow and has few values, carry on. How many guys like that are actually having meaningful relationships? Very few, if they are always pulling loads of girls.

Stop worrying about a girlfriend, it can come over as desperate. And when things settle down, expand your social circle by doing things that interest you, so you find people with something in common and can learn how to speak with girls as friends, rather than as potential dates.

It’s obvious that this is female advice. Clearly out of touch with what normal everyday guys struggle through to find success with women, whether that be at school/college, uni or beyond.

The majority of girls at universities in this country do initiate relationships through partying and alcohol/drugs. It’s useless to suggest that a guy will get anywhere with girls if he avoids that. Put yourself out there (as the saying goes) and what better way to do that than take part in things where plenty of girls hang out? Unless you want to go for the bookworm/nerd/social outcast type of girl, in which case good luck.

Something else blatantly obvious to all the guys out there who have tried developing a connection with a girl. Girls want to be spoken to in a certain way for them to develop interest in a guy. Talk to them like friends, you end up in the friend zone which is hard to get out of.

There isn't just one way to start a relationship. I don't know of any relationships personally (that ended in a real relationship) that started with partying, alcohol or drugs. Parties aren't the only places to find women and women are not just split into party girls and social outcasts. It's also important to have a level of friendship in any lasting relationship and many relationships do stem from friendship

Of course there are plenty of ways to start relationships. But at uni, the only acceptable way to most girls is to party hard. That’s exactly my point: no one is looking for a “real relationship” at uni when the majority of them start with partying. My best advice to the OP is to seek out casual relationships and things that don’t have to last very long. At least he gets the experience of dealing with women instead of struggling to get anywhere with them. I think it’s better to have multiple short-term relationships one after another and keep seeking out something more long term when you’re ready for it, instead of spending years out of the game just sitting watching opportunities go by because you avoided partying. Relationships come from friendships yes, and where are friendships at uni cemented? Over alcohol in nightclubs with loud music. I think you’ll find in fact that it is only sociable girls or outcasts - there is no in-between. You can tell a lot about a girl by how she behaves while socialising, whether that’s in a nightclub or not.

It’s obvious that this is female advice. Clearly out of touch with what normal everyday guys struggle through to find success with women, whether that be at school/college, uni or beyond.

The majority of girls at universities in this country do initiate relationships through partying and alcohol/drugs. It’s useless to suggest that a guy will get anywhere with girls if he avoids that. Put yourself out there (as the saying goes) and what better way to do that than take part in things where plenty of girls hang out? Unless you want to go for the bookworm/nerd/social outcast type of girl, in which case good luck.

Something else blatantly obvious to all the guys out there who have tried developing a connection with a girl. Girls want to be spoken to in a certain way for them to develop interest in a guy. Talk to them like friends, you end up in the friend zone which is hard to get out of.

Of course there are plenty of ways to start relationships. But at uni, the only acceptable way to most girls is to party hard. That’s exactly my point: no one is looking for a “real relationship” at uni when the majority of them start with partying. My best advice to the OP is to seek out casual relationships and things that don’t have to last very long. At least he gets the experience of dealing with women instead of struggling to get anywhere with them. I think it’s better to have multiple short-term relationships one after another and keep seeking out something more long term when you’re ready for it, instead of spending years out of the game just sitting watching opportunities go by because you avoided partying. Relationships come from friendships yes, and where are friendships at uni cemented? Over alcohol in nightclubs with loud music. I think you’ll find in fact that it is only sociable girls or outcasts - there is no in-between. You can tell a lot about a girl by how she behaves while socialising, whether that’s in a nightclub or not.

asif's advice is great btw.
Like guys, most girls have no idea what they want.
What i will say though is that the defining difference between you and the guys who you're talking about is charisma and NOTHING else