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Muslims at University!

Well, I am a Muslim. Although I do have a firm belief in God, I don't obey all his laws. The reasoning behind his laws is to enable people with doubts to increase their belief.

Well, when I go out, I love to have a hell of a time, and began drinking and social smoking (this, not very often) at about 18 whilst out with my friends.

I'm about to attend a university with around 50% are muslims, and it's very worrying for me. I don't want to be casted out of certain social groups for what I do.

I'd like to ask to the Muslims at University on here, what would you think of another muslim who drinks and smokes, but is a genuinely very nice person whom you could get along with very well?

I've already met one or two muslims who are like me, and we ended up being very good friends. Although I'd NEVER tell me Secondary School muslim friends about it, as they'd be ashamed.

Any replies are welcome, don't ridicule me though.

I wanted this to be anonymous, and the only forum TO do it in was in here. Mods see fit to move it, please do!

Reply 1

randdom

20

I am personally not a muslim but I have a number of friends who are. Some of them drink and some of them don't. I haven't really seen that the ones who drink have any particular problems with being judged.

Reply 2

MancStudent098

13

Out of interest which university is it you're about to attend?

Reply 3

chriise

7

you'll probably find a group of very practicing muslims (most of them in the isoc) and a circle of non-practicing.. so i'm sure you'll find your group.

Reply 4

robbo3045

17

At my University the busiest nights are the asian and muslim music nights. And working on the bar, i have realised that most Muslims order alcoholic drinks rather than soft ones. So dont worry about it.

Reply 5

RyanT

15

I had a flatmate in my first year who was a muslim from Pakistan. I frequently saw him in the student nightclub at 2 o clock in the morning full of scanty clothed girls and everyone was drunk.

It's not that big a deal. Muslims in Turkey have been drinking for years. I'm not a muslim myself but you will find a lot of people like you at university and also amongst those who don't drink a considerable number will be doing it out of peer-pressure and probably won't have any problems with you drinking yourself.

Reply 6

Josephine88

Is it going to be Queen Mary university ? :P

Reply 7

musti123

11

With such people you can try to convince them not to. But don't judge them. There are many sins worse than drinking etc. (for example missing prayers), before judging we should look at ourselves. Realise whilst they may be sinning, there niceness etc is something which if done correctly will still be rewarded. When making friends with these types of people think this, is their behaviour affecting you negatively, or are you affecting them positively, and judge on this. p.s. at the very least ask them not to drink or smoke or womanise etc in front of you and not to talk about it, respecting you as a Muslim.

Reply 8

Elvendork

13

Anonymous

Well, I am a Muslim. Although I do have a firm belief in God, I don't obey all his laws. The reasoning behind his laws is to enable people with doubts to increase their belief.

Well, when I go out, I love to have a hell of a time, and began drinking and social smoking (this, not very often) at about 18 whilst out with my friends.

I'm about to attend a university with around 50% are muslims, and it's very worrying for me. I don't want to be casted out of certain social groups for what I do.

I'd like to ask to the Muslims at University on here, what would you think of another muslim who drinks and smokes, but is a genuinely very nice person whom you could get along with very well?

I've already met one or two muslims who are like me, and we ended up being very good friends. Although I'd NEVER tell me Secondary School muslim friends about it, as they'd be ashamed.

Any replies are welcome, don't ridicule me though.

I wanted this to be anonymous, and the only forum TO do it in was in here. Mods see fit to move it, please do!

What university is it?

Reply 9

34253

2

Most of the Muslims I know at university (not too many) don't drink or smoke or anything of the sort. Some of the Muslims I know at home do though, but they're hardly practising to be honest. Recent surveys from the times show that a lot of Muslim's at university are pretty hard line on a lot of subjects, so i'm guessing drinking alcohol could get you ostracised? I fail to see why you have to hang around with Muslim's anyway, i'm Christian and I hang around with the Christian's who are alright and have lots of other friends from different backgrounds; it's called integration.

Reply 10

wackysparkle

14

Anonymous

Well, I am a Muslim. Although I do have a firm belief in God, I don't obey all his laws. The reasoning behind his laws is to enable people with doubts to increase their belief.

Well, when I go out, I love to have a hell of a time, and began drinking and social smoking (this, not very often) at about 18 whilst out with my friends.

I'm about to attend a university with around 50% are muslims, and it's very worrying for me. I don't want to be casted out of certain social groups for what I do.

I'd like to ask to the Muslims at University on here, what would you think of another muslim who drinks and smokes, but is a genuinely very nice person whom you could get along with very well?

I've already met one or two muslims who are like me, and we ended up being very good friends. Although I'd NEVER tell me Secondary School muslim friends about it, as they'd be ashamed.

Any replies are welcome, don't ridicule me though.

I wanted this to be anonymous, and the only forum TO do it in was in here. Mods see fit to move it, please do!

Hey there, first off I'm a muslim too.

I'd say don't worry! There are plenty of different types of social circles that you can get into.
Personally I don't drink and smoke but I have friends who do and respect me for that.
I too don't have firm beliefs on everything in our religion, but that's alright with me really..it's about finding yourself and interpreting religion as you will - a belief shared by more people than just me.

Muslims I know are in variety - there are some who are more religious than me, some who probably are in relationships but don't smoke/drink. There are some who don't eat halal meat but follow the laws of the religion - and there are even some who are muslim by religion but not by practice.

So really, don't worry about it at all - at uni there are a multitude of people, each with different beliefs and customs - and not only religion, even personality, culture etc - so don't think that religion is everything :smile:

. And most of all, hang out with people you can relate to and get along with!

Reply 11

Rei

14

chriise

you'll probably find a group of very practicing muslims (most of them in the isoc) and a circle of non-practicing.. so i'm sure you'll find your group.

This is true..

And seriously, 50% are muslim?! If they're all practising, you've got a problem :biggrin:

Reply 12

Pheonixx

15

i know many muslims at uni, and lots and lots drink. my next door neighbor was a non drinking muslim, he had no problems with muslims who drink.

Reply 13

sallen

Elvendork

What university is it?

Durham without a doubt.

Reply 14

untitled person

I think I speak for everyonr here.
WHAT UNI IS IT?!?!?!?!?!?

Reply 15

aneesa.awan

Being muslim means that you can't pick and chose what you want from the religion. You either are muslim or your not. You either obey or you don't.

Reply 16

filastini

14

Drinking

Alcohol

Reply 17

Princess_

farhan

Drinking

Alcohol

Drinking and alcohol = same thing :p:

Reply 18

DeSiFiEd

2

Are you going Queen Maryz?

Plenty of my Muslim mates at QM smoke/drink, of course ISOC (QM's Islam Society) is a bit more conservative and to-the-book, but it doesn't mean your the only one there that doesn't!

Reply 19

46664

Anonymous

Well, I am a Muslim. Although I do have a firm belief in God, I don't obey all his laws. The reasoning behind his laws is to enable people with doubts to increase their belief.

Well, when I go out, I love to have a hell of a time, and began drinking and social smoking (this, not very often) at about 18 whilst out with my friends.

I'm about to attend a university with around 50% are muslims, and it's very worrying for me. I don't want to be casted out of certain social groups for what I do.

I'd like to ask to the Muslims at University on here, what would you think of another muslim who drinks and smokes, but is a genuinely very nice person whom you could get along with very well?

I've already met one or two muslims who are like me, and we ended up being very good friends. Although I'd NEVER tell me Secondary School muslim friends about it, as they'd be ashamed.

Any replies are welcome, don't ridicule me though.

I wanted this to be anonymous, and the only forum TO do it in was in here. Mods see fit to move it, please do!

As a muslim it is not our job to judge you. Although many just don't understand that.

You have your own choices and you have unfortunately taken this one. I guess if i became friends with you at uni and found that you drank/smoked etc i would try to make you understand it is wrong and help you quit it.

If you are muslim your not perfect there are mnay who think just because they do not socialise like you they are best....they are just as bad in other aspects backbiting, lying etc etc.

Muslims at University!

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