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I feel embarrassed that I can't drive at this age. Basically i left for uni at 17 and until then had never needed/wanted to learn to drive, then while at uni i couldn't commit to lessons and couldn't afford them anyway, then my first jobs have been in London (still can't afford them).

I've done a few sessions with an instructor before corona started and they were a nightmare- he actually just stopped messaging me to plan lessons. My focus/attention is really bad i kept zoning out (depression, anxiety, adhd, lots of reasons) and nearly swerving into people he got very annoyed with me. I also kept forgetting things. It made me feel like i will never learn to drive and if i do i will certainly cause an accident.

Am i really old to be getting it? Anyone get their license later than this? Could it just be the instructor i didn't get on with that well?
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I'm not learning to drive. F*ck cars, they are a death trap. I am never going to drive, there is too many cars anyway.
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Don’t feel embarrassed. You’re still young. My friend’s aunt started learn when she 27 and it took her 8 years pass.

Some people learn quick and others don’t. That’s life. You might have to try out a few instructors until you find one you’re comfortable with. My first instructor was an absolute nightmare, she’d yell at me for the smallest mistakes and once snatched my hand off the handbrake lol. I almost gave up learning as I thought I’d never pass. Try getting recommendations from friends and seeing who they learnt from?

Most importantly be patient. You will learn and pass eventually
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No need to be anon for this (reported the thread so that it can be moved to "cars and motoring" or "learning how to drive")
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel embarrassed that I can't drive at this age. Basically i left for uni at 17 and until then had never needed/wanted to learn to drive, then while at uni i couldn't commit to lessons and couldn't afford them anyway, then my first jobs have been in London (still can't afford them).

I've done a few sessions with an instructor before corona started and they were a nightmare- he actually just stopped messaging me to plan lessons. My focus/attention is really bad i kept zoning out (depression, anxiety, adhd, lots of reasons) and nearly swerving into people he got very annoyed with me. I also kept forgetting things. It made me feel like i will never learn to drive and if i do i will certainly cause an accident.

Am i really old to be getting it? Anyone get their license later than this? Could it just be the instructor i didn't get on with that well?
Maybe try looking for an instructor who's specialised in dealing with issues like you described? I knew a couple of people who had autism/ADHD etc and they were able to pass quite easily with specialised instructors
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I passed 6 months ago at 28, took me a year to learn to drive, plenty of near misses, almost causing crashes, tears silly mistakes and an ankle operation meaning it took an extra 4 months between re tests. But I did it.Totally understand what you mean about not needing to learn. Took 3 attempts but I passed, first fail in the first 5 minutes I knew I'd done it and I cried my way round the test. 2nd test ****ed it on at the end. 3rd test passed with 2 minors. . Taking so long and doing it at an older age I think makes me a better driver than most new drivers, did also mean that I drove my first hire car 6 weeks after passing and have driven a whole bunch of cars from large SUVs to the bloody C3 all over the country for work. Now drive my way though city centres in cars that are not mine. It's worth it, one important thing about me actually succeeding having a good instructor. After my first lesson (apart from when he got a new car and it was in a tight spot) I did all of the driving no matter how bad it was.I was terrible at the beginning never thought I'd pass/ be comfortable driving but I am. Nothing like 70mph Karaoke in a top of the range car that isn't mine.
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I'm 26 and nearly test ready. It's normal to feel embarrassed but it truly is nothing to be ashamed about. There could be a number of reasons why someone has started lessons the moment they turn 17 - health reasons, money, not needing to, having too much other stuff going on to commit to lessons etc. Some people just don't want to drive at that age.

If anything, driving at an older age will have its advantages. For me it means my insurance will be cheaper at least.
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I find a lot of people waiting untill they either ready to drive at 17 + or waiting till they older like 25 as insurance will be less for them as well.

I did my test at 17, few years ago now obviously but like few said everybody has different reasons on driving, some want to drive as can't wait to do it and you got those who don't care whether or not to drive .

Don't worry about not able to drive as do it when you feel ready to okay and wouldn't worry about anybody who already done at it .
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I doubt I'm going to learn tbh, I tell myself it's better for the environment but really it's bc dyspraxia means I'd be dangerous lol. One of my old teachers was in her thirties and never learnt, she managed fine with public transport and it didn't make her any less of an adult!
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