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I think I love myself too much...

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As the title of the thread suggests, I think I love myself too much, although I don't make a conscious effort of showing it to others through my behaviour. What's making me think this way is that I seem to have an uncanny ability to make people envious, perhaps even jealous, of me - even those people whom I don't know very well. For example, yesterday I was walking on the street minding my own business and this guy, giving me dirty looks, brushed his elbows against me - in fact, on reflection I get this a fair bit. Perhaps it was because I was in my gym gear or something which shows off my athletic build. Even so, I don't understand why he should behave like that towards me. Trust me, I don't walk around like a cocky git at all but some people just appear to behave like this towards me unprovoked.

Granted, I'd like to think I'm a confident guy. Girls have always commented on my handsome looks, and combined with my athletic build and charming personality, attract a fair bit of attention, which in the past have made some guys, even some of my so-called closest friends, feel "inadequate". Moreover, I have excelled in my studies, gaining a top degree from a top university, and will soon be starting a top job. I know what you're thinking - I sound very cocky. But I wish to make clear the reality. And this reality has been causing me some problems of late, at work and in my social and personal life.

I get the impression that people think I've had it so good - which is far from the truth because there is a lot of hard work that goes into what people simply see on paper or in my person. I've had my fair share of bad experiences. Anyways, if you come across someone similar, do you get the impression that just because their confident and successful that they are cocky, love themselves too much and are selfish.

This will help me to understand how to handle potentially difficult people in my life who, for one reason or another, would relish in seeing me fail at something. Thanks all.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

lol I know exactly what you mean... I am always looking in the mirror... I can't help but the look in the mirror. And I always think "wow I look gorgeous". I don't know why I am like that either :s-smilie:

Reply 2

MSB

17

Don't worry, there's a fair chance something horrible will happen to you that will save you from the oppression of your own arrogance.

Reply 3

mitsabeeba

2

Finally.
Somebody not complaining that they're crap or not normal or I dono what.
Good that you love yourself.
Just don't let it cloud your vision or common sense.
Not EVERYBODY is going to love you the way you love yourself.
Not an insult, just, reality.
I love myself a heck of alot
But I know not everybody is gonna see the same good I see in myself

But
I am glad you have confidence.

Reply 4

MeltLikeIce

To be honest...You sound like a jerk :/

Reply 5

lodzinski

14

hahahahaha do you really think you people are going to get any advice here stretching beyond 'grow up you vain ******s?' H&R is full of people obsessing that they are not good enough in one way or another, and every time one of these threads pops up, its always the same: part 'im so brilliant' part 'screw you people with low self esteem' you will not get any help here, though I think many people will be justified if they say 'if you're so cocky and arrogant you must be fantastic, why do you need the aid of us worthless peons?'

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

mitsabeeba

Finally.
Somebody not complaining that they're crap or not normal or I dono what.
Good that you love yourself.
Just don't let it cloud your vision or common sense.
Not EVERYBODY is going to love you the way you love yourself.
Not an insult, just, reality.
I love myself a heck of alot
But I know not everybody is gonna see the same good I see in myself

But
I am glad you have confidence.

Thanks. Like you said, I don't think there's any problem with loving yourself at all. To be confident, I think and now understand, you need to love yourself.

Reply 7

sigstuff

9

'I don't make a conscious effort of showing it to others'
.....you just prefer to announce your awesomeness to the whole of tsr instead.
I really cant understand why people are treating you this way..hmmm

Reply 8

SpiritedAway

17

MeltLikeIce

To be honest...You sound like a jerk :/

he does

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

MeltLikeIce

To be honest...You sound like a jerk :/

Why do you say I sound like a jerk? You don't know me...if you were to encounter me in real life I am absolutely certain you will not think that at all.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

Well I tihnk its good to love yourself, as long as you don't start letting it affect your life. If you go round thinking you're the best person ever and no one else will ever be as good as you, then thats going to have an impact on your social life... people will think you're arrogant.

I am the same as you though, but not constantly.. I do see bad things in myself as well. But I do think I am hot, and I notice that some people get jealous of me. I also did well at college, but I am not going to a top university like I want to. And I recognise that I am not the best person in the world.

Reply 11

Sulk

lol, if your so great and clever and good looking why did you post as anon???? People will always try to find a way to put themselves forward, i have hated so many people just cause they were one step beyond me and i just couldn't that bloody step. it's simple and pure jealousy, unless you find a magic genie in a lamp, it won't change. If you are happy with the way you look and the things you do people will act so that you won't be that happy. Cause it bloody piss us off...

Reply 12

Melting Sugar.

14

There's being confident and there's being over confident..

like when ugly people think they're good looking and look down on everyone

THAT'S WHEN IT GETS FUNNY

;]

(what I mean is, don't act too arrogant or people will begin to dislike you, or they already have but its behind your back :wink:

)

Reply 13

Spotty Dog

15

MSB

Don't worry, there's a fair chance something horrible will happen to you that will save you from the oppression of your own arrogance.

I really wish I hadn't used my rep for the day. :frown:

Have a cookie instead. <3

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

sigstuff

'I don't make a conscious effort of showing it to others'
.....you just prefer to announce your awesomeness to the whole of tsr instead.
I really cant understand why people are treating you this way..hmmm

yeah...anonymously - what's wrong with that? There is no way I would say something like that to people in public - there is no need as my person and achievements speak for themselves. But I had to say what I said in order to create the context as you don't know who I am or my background.

Reply 15

Melting Sugar.

14

Sulk

lol, if your so great and clever and good looking why did you post as anon???? People will always try to find a way to put themselves forward, i have hated so many people just cause they were one step beyond me and i just couldn't that bloody step. it's simple and pure jealousy, unless you find a magic genie in a lamp, it won't change. If you are happy with the way you look and the things you do people will act so that you won't be that happy. Cause it bloody piss us off...

good point :wink:

Reply 16

Sulk

why all the guy calling themselves hot posting as anon, is that some kind of conspiracy?

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Sulk

why all the guy calling themselves hot posting as anon, is that some kind of conspiracy?

Why not post anon? You might be a stalker - my life's already complicated enough without having to deal with yet another prospective stalker.

There's no mystery about it - I know some girls are sceptical about hot guys saying they're hot when they're not. But I'm genuine.

Reply 18

MeltLikeIce

Anonymous

Why do you say I sound like a jerk? You don't know me...if you were to encounter me in real life I am absolutely certain you will not think that at all.

Contrary to your story in the first post? Or is it because I'm female I'll find you too attractive to find annoying?

Reply 19

Kink

14

The British, as a nation, love the underdog. They hate show-offs and generally those who seem to have no faults because in a way it means there is no improvements to work towards. They prefer the sincerity, not mocking insincerity, that goes with working towards a goal and are suspicious of those who have reached it.

Thats why, at the beginning of each The Apprentice series, we all think they're a load of snivelling walking haircuts. We only start to like them as soon as we get to know them better by their failures at some tasks and they practise some humility.

Do you think you have some humility at all?

I think I love myself too much...

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