I've been having a relationship with my teacher, advice please!

He is 30. I don't think he's taking advantage of me, I mean although we talked about family stuff quite a lot we do genuinely get on together, we talk about novels and poetry as well. He's an incredible person. I mean, he's not a sleazebag or an old pervert like those awful 50 year old men who perv over 12 year old girls. No, it wasn't like that at all- I'm nearly 17 and I'm mature for my age. He is also worried about it as well- and it was me who initiated the relationship. I deem myself as equally responsible (if not more so) than he is.
But I feel is got too deep really. I know that my friends or family wouldn't understand at all...I jst need to figure it all out somehow.

We've all had a crush on a teacher at some point, but it was illegal for you to have a relationship with him, being under eighteen. Your teacher knew this. If he had any sense of responsibility, he would have waited until you were eighteen AND had left the school - it doesn't matter who initiated it. 'Sleazebag', 'old pervert' or not - does that not bother you at all?

We've all had a crush on a teacher at some point, but it was illegal for you to have a relationship with him, being under eighteen. Your teacher knew this. If he had any sense of responsibility, he would have waited until you were eighteen AND had left the school - it doesn't matter who initiated it. 'Sleazebag', 'old pervert' or not - does that not bother you at all?

I understand what you mean but is he keen to be in a relationship with you? Not all men are sleazebags...there are genuine men out there too and he might be loving you as you say so..although I still feel that it was wrong of him to sleep with you when he was your teacher!

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Hi, I've got myself into a situation which is really bad and I actually don't know what to do right now. Basically there have been a lot of issues in my family this year, and a bereavement and I've sort of been all over the place. I moved schools this year (year 11) and haven't really go on at all well there, and at the same time there have been quite a few problems at home, as I said before.
I've had a crush on my English teacher practically since I first arrived at my new school, and we got on very well- and I started to develop strong feelings for him. Around GCSE time it used to get a bit much for me- what with school and home pressures- and I used to come and see him after school and we'd talk it all through. He was really lovely, and really understanding, perhaps the only person this year who actually cared about what was happening to me. Anyway, one day I ended up kissing him and we had sex-it was my first time- and we have slept together a few times since then. I've left that school now, and I'm going to start another college in September for A-levels, but I can't bear to be apart from him, I mean I really really love him. This is the first time I've ever shared it with anyone else, and I obviously can't talk to my family or any friends at my old school about it. I really don't know what to do. I know he loves me too and he wants us to be together- part of me knows that it's wrong ( though I was over 16) but I can't decide what to do at all. It's really getting me depressed all over again, and though I love him I can't help thinking its all gone a bit too far really. Any advice would be much appreciated.

Yes! I've tried to end it with him several times, but we always end up getting back together. The only thing I feel awful about is that he has a wife whom he married a few years back- and although their relationship isn't happy they still are together, which makes me feel guilty.

Well, I know what you mean, really I do, but we did really fall for each other- and therefore didn't want to wait. I know that he feels guilty about it- mean it is the first time he's done something like this (people may be skeptical, but it's true) and we are well aware of what thew consequences are if it got found out. But I have left that school now, and therefore, being over the age of 16, it is possible for me to have a relationship with him out of school. Obviously it's not ideal, but I can't berate myself for the past and I have to concentrate on what;s best for the future now.

Yes! I've tried to end it with him several times, but we always end up getting back together. The only thing I feel awful about is that he has a wife whom he married a few years back- and although their relationship isn't happy they still are together, which makes me feel guilty.