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Your opinion on love vs arranged marriage...
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either way it depends on the 2 individuals and if they want it to last

personally i could never be in an arranged marriage, would not trust the guy one bit haha
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In love marriage, you need to be compatible with the spouse whereas in arranged marriage you need to be compatible with the family as well. Both have their pros and cons.

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either way it depends on the 2 individuals and if they want it to last
I believe 'wanting it to last' is not something that differentiates love marriage from arranged marriage? I mean I don't think anyone goes in a marriage thinking it won't last coz the stakes are too high.
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Both have their pros and cons. Both can be good or bad.
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For me it would have to be love.
Don't like the idea of an arranged marriage, where you have no control over who you marry regardless of whether you are compatible or not.
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The two are not mutually exclusive.
But arranged marriages are too open to abuse and make for a convenient excuse when apportioning the blame for a failed marriage.

My mother's family has a long tradition of arranged marriages and some of my friends chose arranged marriages as teenagers.
Many are happily married with no regrets.
Others are trapped in miserable marriages to a spouse that they detest and refuse to speak to.
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Luv !
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For me it would have to be love.
Don't like the idea of an arranged marriage, where you have no control over who you marry regardless of whether you are compatible or not.
But if done correctly, you do have control. An arranged marriage is simply a way of being introduced to a suitable person and you can refuse if you don't like them. It is not the same as a forced marriage. A friend of mine turned down 4 or 5 guys before finally meeting the right man, and they have now been happily married for nearly 5 years.
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(Original post by Karisa96)
For me it would have to be love.
Don't like the idea of an arranged marriage, where you have no control over who you marry regardless of whether you are compatible or not.
that's a forced marriage

arranged is like a multiple choice test
you can choose and cancel at any time
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(Original post by Karisa96)
For me it would have to be love.
Don't like the idea of an arranged marriage, where you have no control over who you marry regardless of whether you are compatible or not.
Arranged marriage it not ‘u don’t get to pick, u have no say’. The person does have say within the engagement. U get to know the person then say if u want to get married to them. No one is forced, they decide on their own will.
You have the complete wrong idea of arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is NOT WHEN U ARE FORCED. Both male and female have a say and if they both agree after getting to know each other then the marriage could happen.
Arranged marriage is basically LIKE A BLIND DATE, if it goes wel it goes well.
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(Original post by black tea)
But if done correctly, you do have control. An arranged marriage is simply a way of being introduced to a suitable person and you can refuse if you don't like them. It is not the same as a forced marriage. A friend of mine turned down 4 or 5 guys before finally meeting the right man, and they have now been happily married for nearly 5 years.
Thank you for putting me right I rather misunderstood the conception of arranged marriages, I thought you had no say at all.
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that's a forced marriage

arranged is like a multiple choice test
you can choose and cancel at any time
Thank you. Sorry for my ignorance.
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(Original post by Karisa96)
Thank you. Sorry for my ignorance.
no need to apologise i thought diego was dora's bf ...
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no need to apologise i thought diego was dora's bf ...
Thanks lol.🤣
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(Original post by Karisa96)
Thank you for putting me right I rather misunderstood the conception of arranged marriages, I thought you had no say at all.
No worries. It's something lots of people have misconceptions about.
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No worries. It's something lots of people have misconceptions about.
I'm certainly wiser now.
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