My boyfriend smokes weed and i hate it

Anyway i thought when we started dating i could break him of that habbit

Well this is a long story but i will try and cut it short for you...
Iv been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 2 months now, he smoked, bought and sold weed and he loved it, me however i HATE IT i have many reasons why but my main 2 are : I lost a close friend due to drugs (weed was one of them) and the other reason is a bit more personal and deep but i feel like its needed to include, i was raped in my home town and i had weed shoved down my throat resulting in me choking on it...and making mre very ill... Anyway i thought when we started dating i could break him of that habbit... It took me several months of begging and crying every single day and night for him to quit before he finally decided to stop, his words were :im going to stop smoking weed because i am sick of seeing you upset. He promised me faithfully, He managed to keep those genuin words for a couple of months, i ended up moving to his country, leaving my job, family and friends behind and i ended up getting us a house, i baught everything in it i spent a fortune, we both agreed to start a fresh, id stop drinking and he would carry on being clean of the weed and we would have a long and happy life... That didnt last,not long after moving into the new house, he went out of his way to find someone in this new town to get weed... He started smoking again, i was heartbroken and i found out that his best friend from his home town has been sending him weed through royal mail...i was so angry and upset, i told him i made the sacrifice to leave everything behind and move to another country to be with him and he cant sacrifice this for me? He told me i am not controlling him and that he misses weed (even though he was fine without it) and that it cures his "depression" (that he dosent have) he is just so sly about it and lies all the time and he dosent care that it hurts and upsets me, i really dont know what to do, whether to leave him or put up with it and be upset all the time, i need advice. I hate drugs i always have always will, its a really big deal for me. I feel that now he has a house and everything he wanted, he dosent care anymore and he thinks he can do whatever he wants in this house (which is a non smoking rented house) i cant explain why im so against it other than the reasons i gave you before but im stuck i dont know what to do.. Please help

You can’t say whether he does or doesn’t have depression, he very would could have if he’s just good at hiding it which is the case with me. It’s easy for people to think everything okay In someone’s life when really he might be having it rough. I completely understand where you’re coming from in regards to your experience but you can’t make someone change. If you’ve mentioned to him why you don’t like it and he’s not trying to break the habit then that’s an issue in itself but if you knew from the start about his smoking maybe you shouldn’t have got into the relationship in the first place. You can’t ever make someone change if someone wants to change for you they’ll do it without you having to nag at them.

Girl, Break up with him please. There’s no point being in a relationship that causes you this much distress. I mean, he lies all the time. What kind of relationship do you expect to build with him with no trust. I could go on but I think after you do break up with him, be his friend and get him the professional help he needs.

You can’t say whether he does or doesn’t have depression, he very would could have if he’s just good at hiding it which is the case with me. It’s easy for people to think everything okay In someone’s life when really he might be having it rough. I completely understand where you’re coming from in regards to your experience but you can’t make someone change. If you’ve mentioned to him why you don’t like it and he’s not trying to break the habit then that’s an issue in itself but if you knew from the start about his smoking maybe you shouldn’t have got into the relationship in the first place. You can’t ever make someone change if someone wants to change for you they’ll do it without you having to nag at them.

Sounds like you need therapy from your childhood trauma.
And you don't know whether or not he really does have depression.

Why not reach a compromise with him and only ask him to smoke weed outside the house and somewhere you won't see him?

how do u even kiss him? his breath must smell terrible : /

Why don’t you find someone else if you have such problems with him and he doesn’t want to listen to you?

Because im stuck, im in a house where i cant afford the rent or bills, he pays them but if he leaves right now im ****ed, i need to find a job first which will be hard as i have no qualifications, and this virus is about also he refuses to leave as his name is down first on the tenancy (even though both of our names are on there) i paid for the 6 month rent and the first bills i also paid for every piece of furniture in here so i went broke so i am stuck

Because im stuck, im in a house where i cant afford the rent or bills, he pays them but if he leaves right now im ****ed, i need to find a job first which will be hard as i have no qualifications, and this virus is about also he refuses to leave as his name is down first on the tenancy (even though both of our names are on there) i paid for the 6 month rent and the first bills i also paid for every piece of furniture in here so i went broke so i am stuck

I took him to a profesional and it came out as negative they said he was just a selfish person that he didn't have depression whatsoever, also iv asked him to smoke it well away from me but he continues to do it inside the house and in the garden, he always stinks of weed, heis clothes his breath the house his body and i find it disgusting and not necessary

I guess you will have to stick with him until you find a good job and save some money. You said you left your country behind, is it not possible to go back to your family? (Even if you have to wait for a few months for coronavirus)