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In every single way me and my partner are compatible. Except for the fact he is a sex addict. And i mean this is the sense he finds it hard to talk about literally anything else. Anything i wear is determined cute by if he can have sex with me in it, hes angered that he cant talk about sex with me in front of my parents. He wants it many times a day. He wanks everyday. Porn every single day. Cant *** from sex though and we have determined that this id because of how aggressively he is *******. He has spent HUNDREDS on sex toys which im not really that into but if i say anything hell say its me who must be asexual and weird cause everyone has loads of sex toys. Hes my only boyfriend to ever have a bloody £200 ass and pussy silicone body though. From stories it sounds like when he is single he will have sex with anything with a hole. Even though he claims to not be bi. This is alot to take in anyway but i am a abuse victim and feel constantly on edge. We cant talk about anything without him talking about sex. He wont discuss my abuse either unless i get really upset. I have never had complaints ever or even considered that im asexual ever before but he tells me regularly i am and hes normal and i just cant understand what its like because i dont want to have sex. (Just to be clear i do enjoy sex im just not a daily sex person). I feel like this could be toxic for me if i dont find a way to make this work. Taking any advice and opinions thank you🖤
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You sound deeply incompatible, to be honest. That's quite a fundamental thing to be very different on.

I know of no guys with sex toys.
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Agree with the above - it doesn't sound like you're compatible at all. It must be an incredibly frustrating relationship if all he's talking about is sex. He sounds disrespectful, too. He should respect that you don't want to talk about sex in front of your parents!

It does sound like it'll turn toxic if it hasn't already.
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I see him as my soulmate though. I dont know if i could leave
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I don't know how long the two of you have been together but it sounds like there is already tension over this issue and it is only going to get worse. The person who is more likely to suffer in this is you. If I was in this situation, I would end the relationship, regardless of how compatible we were outside of sex.
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In every single way me and my partner are compatible. Except for the fact he is a sex addict. And i mean this is the sense he finds it hard to talk about literally anything else. Anything i wear is determined cute by if he can have sex with me in it, hes angered that he cant talk about sex with me in front of my parents. He wants it many times a day. He wanks everyday. Porn every single day. Cant *** from sex though and we have determined that this id because of how aggressively he is *******. He has spent HUNDREDS on sex toys which im not really that into but if i say anything hell say its me who must be asexual and weird cause everyone has loads of sex toys. Hes my only boyfriend to ever have a bloody £200 ass and pussy silicone body though. From stories it sounds like when he is single he will have sex with anything with a hole. Even though he claims to not be bi. This is alot to take in anyway but i am a abuse victim and feel constantly on edge. We cant talk about anything without him talking about sex. He wont discuss my abuse either unless i get really upset. I have never had complaints ever or even considered that im asexual ever before but he tells me regularly i am and hes normal and i just cant understand what its like because i dont want to have sex. (Just to be clear i do enjoy sex im just not a daily sex person). I feel like this could be toxic for me if i dont find a way to make this work. Taking any advice and opinions thank you🖤
What on earth are the types of things he would want to say in front of your parents?
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You don’t sound asexual, it’s him who has the extremely high sex drive and it’s not normal for even guys to do it or want it that much. And I’ve never known any guy to have a sex toy, I believe that’s more common with girls. I dunno, if I could never have a serious conversation with my partner without sex always coming into it I think I’d eventually call it quits.
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I don't think that your are sexually compatible.
Your bf has a very high sex drive, porn habit, limited self-restraint and I suspect a great enthusiasm for kink.
There is a risk that he could pressure you into sexual activity that you are not comfortable with or get you involved in high risk sexual antics.

My last relationship with a guy like this ended under very sordid circumstances.
I dumped him so that he could spend more time with his stds, sex workers and extreme hardcore pornography.
Then adjusted my dating deal-breakers.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I don't think that your are sexually compatible.
Your bf has a very high sex drive, porn habit, limited self-restraint and I suspect a great enthusiasm for kink.
There is a risk that he could pressure you into sexual activity that you are not comfortable with or get you involved in high risk sexual antics.

My last relationship with a guy like this ended under very sordid circumstances.
I dumped him so that he could spend more time with his stds, sex workers and extreme hardcore pornography.
Then adjusted my dating deal-breakers.
Out of curiosity if i do have to dump him. What are you deal breakers now if you dont mind sharing?? Hes not massively kinky. I think hed shag anything with a hole though but he swears hes loyal although does break up with me regularly
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Out of curiosity if i do have to dump him. What are you deal breakers now if you dont mind sharing?? Hes not massively kinky. I think hed shag anything with a hole though but he swears hes loyal although does break up with me regularly
I've got quite a few dating deal-breakers, I'll list my top 15.

1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots.
4) No dogma fanatics.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family value is everything types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
15) No scorpios.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I've got quite a few dating deal-breakers, I'll list my top 15.

1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots.
4) No dogma fanatics.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family value is everything types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
15) No scorpios.
Number 13 isn’t necessary
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I see him as my soulmate though. I dont know if i could leave
How can he be your soulmate if the only thing he's interested is sex? This seems like a huge contradiction of the situation you describe in your first post.
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Number 13 isn’t necessary
What about number 15?
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In every single way me and my partner are compatible. Except for the fact he is a sex addict. And i mean this is the sense he finds it hard to talk about literally anything else. Anything i wear is determined cute by if he can have sex with me in it, hes angered that he cant talk about sex with me in front of my parents. He wants it many times a day. He wanks everyday. Porn every single day. Cant *** from sex though and we have determined that this id because of how aggressively he is *******. He has spent HUNDREDS on sex toys which im not really that into but if i say anything hell say its me who must be asexual and weird cause everyone has loads of sex toys. Hes my only boyfriend to ever have a bloody £200 ass and pussy silicone body though. From stories it sounds like when he is single he will have sex with anything with a hole. Even though he claims to not be bi. This is alot to take in anyway but i am a abuse victim and feel constantly on edge. We cant talk about anything without him talking about sex. He wont discuss my abuse either unless i get really upset. I have never had complaints ever or even considered that im asexual ever before but he tells me regularly i am and hes normal and i just cant understand what its like because i dont want to have sex. (Just to be clear i do enjoy sex im just not a daily sex person). I feel like this could be toxic for me if i dont find a way to make this work. Taking any advice and opinions thank you🖤
tell him to go **** himself
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I've got quite a few dating deal-breakers, I'll list my top 15.

1) No bellowing/habitual noise nuisances.
2) No porn guys.
3) No religious zealots.
4) No dogma fanatics.
5) No thugs.
6) No illegal drugs.
7) No mother's boys/family value is everything types.
8) No gym guys/bodybuilders/health lifestyle obsessives.
9) No sexual kinks involving polyamory/rape fantasy/violence/threesomes/oral/anal/period sex/feet.
10) No dog haters or guys with cynophobia.
11) No divorced guys.
12) No guys with children or a spouse.
13) No STEM or sports studies graduates.
14) No guys obsessed with Israel, zionism, jews, the nwo, the holocaust, Hitler or David Irving.
15) No scorpios.
Out of interest what career would you be happy with ur partner to do?
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Number 13 isn’t necessary
Oh yes it is for me. :yikes:
I thought about making that my number one but then decided to associate it to the traditional unlucky number for the symbolism.
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What about number 15?
Very necessary for me.
After: two scorpio exes, over a dozen dates from hell involving scorpio guys, nightmare scorpio housemates.
Dozens of former friends that made a hobby out of pushing the self-destruct button/suddenly turning toxic/getting closely involved in criminality resulting in an innocent person ending up injured in hospital.
Last year I had to end a friendship that had lasted almost 20 years after she sold my contact details along with those of several friends to stalker ex.
I've only ever met one pleasant sane scorpio girl- on TSR.
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(Original post by ageshallnot)
How can he be your soulmate if the only thing he's interested is sex? This seems like a huge contradiction of the situation you describe in your first post.
I said we are very compatible outside of this topic and we have been together for a very long time. We have the same idea of a future but its clear he has a addiction and that is a issue. Theres alot of love there regardless of the situation but soulmates arent always meant to end up in a relationship together
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Out of interest what career would you be happy with ur partner to do?
I've worked so many different jobs just to pay the bills.
A partner's job title and professional background is not that important to me.
I've dated authors, brokers, buy to let landlords, estate agents, graphic designers, photographers, lawyers, bankers and recruitment consultants.
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I said we are very compatible outside of this topic and we have been together for a very long time. We have the same idea of a future but its clear he has a addiction and that is a issue. Theres alot of love there regardless of the situation
There's a lot of ways you aren't compatible other than just sex. Notwithstanding a completely different financial outlook doesn't be well for planning a future together, I don't see how there's love when there's none of the other qualities that make up a relationship: no communication, no respect, no care.

The fact that you are on here asking for advice should tell you that that are serious issues here. Get away and find someone who actually shows you love.
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