Like a close friend

Theres a really close friend of mine I like, we've known each other for the past 8 years or so.

We've kissed a couple of times, talked about each other being great kissers, and shes talked about how I'm like the ideal boyfriend (although when she says it, it sometimes feels like "just not for me..."

Two friends of ours said you should hook up, my BFF and her best friend said "that'd be weird, they've known each other too long" and it was really weird, coz both of us seemed to avoid the subject, she just went "hmmm" and tried to work out how long with known each other, just avoiding us hooking up totally. Me doing the same thing because I thought hey why not.

Shes obsessed with some guy on the other side of the country, but this isn't a major obstacle as I don't think it would take much effort for her to give up on him. My BFF and her boyfriend keep trying to set her up with loads of guys and it just disheartens me.

As well as this, she kinda cheats on people, a lot. Shes been with my best mate before, tho not in a relationship, and shes kissed me whilst going out with her boyfriend before, I guess I'm just worried I'd be just another guy she'd cheat on.

What do I do! I guess it isn't worth mentioning anything because I'll only mess up our friendship. If I wanted to, we could probably end up getting with each other, time after time, but I don't know if it's a good idea... do I want a relationship with her?

Btw, this isn't some obsessive crush, I think it kind of sounds like this but I've given up on those... My options are open, there's another 2 girls that could be on the cards, I just wouldn't mind being with this one because she's just so relaxed and easy going and thats what I need in a relationship, I'm not very good with commitment when it involves someone following u all the time :P

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

I think it sounds like you don't really want to have a relationship with her, more like you like the idea of it. If you think you could stay friends with her without letting your feelings getting in the way, that'd be a good idea. The cheating doesn't sound like a great thing if you want a realtionship - you should go and find someone who will be good for you (not cheat), but stay friends with her - she sounds like a good friend!
Good luck!

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Lithium

I read that as well as i could, and TBH, doesn't seem like you have a relationship going for you with her :frown:

Sorry mate....

One thing that did catch my attention was the fact that you said she cheats on her guys, and gave an example of how when she was dating your best friend she kissed you! How does that make you feel any differnet that her? You kissed your best mates gf mate.

What do YOU think about this whole thing?

-L