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Long term teen relationships

Are long term teen relationships, say from ages 16-18 worth the inevitable heartbreak?

Teen heartbreak after having a long relationship is no joke and can be very traumatic.

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Reply 1

Muttley79

Original post by Anonymous

Are long term teen relationships, say from ages 16-18 worth the inevitable heartbreak?

Teen heartbreak after having a long relationship is no joke and can be very traumatic.

Heartbreak isn't 'inevitable' - I know a few people who started going out in their teens who are married with families.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Muttley79

Heartbreak isn't 'inevitable' - I know a few people who started going out in their teens who are married with families.

That’s true but evidence is overwhelmingly that relationships at this age will not last. Most result in painful break ups.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

For people that have gone through long term teen relationships and the heartbreak, was it worth it? Or would you have preferred to concentrate on yourself?

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

For people that have gone through long term teen relationships and the heartbreak, was it worth it? Or would you have preferred to concentrate on yourself?

It was worth it. Ended earlier this year but it meant that we got to experience what a relationship should be like.

Reply 5

username402722

Judging by the number of threads there are from people who are in their latter teenage years or early twenties and not in relationships now or beforehand, you may get few responses to the 'was it worth it' question.

Reply 6

Muttley79

Original post by Anonymous

That’s true but evidence is overwhelmingly that relationships at this age will not last. Most result in painful break ups.

People normally just outgrow each other and drift apart - I can't think of many 'painful' break ups I knew of.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

It was worth it. Ended earlier this year but it meant that we got to experience what a relationship should be like.

How long did you last and what age are you both?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by Muttley79

People normally just outgrow each other and drift apart - I can't think of many 'painful' break ups I knew of.

It’s funny but for a few people I know, it’s usually one person that grows away if that makes sense and although it’s natural it’s still painful for them

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Original post by barnetlad

Oh yeah lol

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

How long did you last and what age are you both?

We were both 18. It lasted a year and a half.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

We were both 18. It lasted a year and a half.

Sorry about that, at least you feel it was worth it. It’ll better equip you for future relationships too

Reply 12

username5161072

Original post by Anonymous

Sorry about that, at least you feel it was worth it. It’ll better equip you for future relationships too

The break up wasn’t messy or painful. Thanks, I hope I do learn for future relationships

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

Original post by TheStarboy

The break up wasn’t messy or painful. Thanks, I hope I do learn for future relationships

I find it fascinating that you were together for a year and a half and didn’t find it ending painful. That’s a good thing I guess though!

Reply 14

username5161072

Original post by Anonymous

I find it fascinating that you were together for a year and a half and didn’t find it ending painful. That’s a good thing I guess though!

We knew things were coming to an end anyway. We enjoyed it while it lasted. Now we are ready to move on

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Original post by TheStarboy

We knew things were coming to an end anyway. We enjoyed it while it lasted. Now we are ready to move on

That’s an ideal scenario and sounds like you’re both very mature, good luck.

Reply 16

username5161072

Original post by Anonymous

That’s an ideal scenario and sounds like you’re both very mature, good luck.

Thanks. If you also need advice, you can always message me or ask.

Reply 17

xoxAngel_Kxox

When you have relationships at a young age, I think it's as much about finding out what you don't want as what you do. Some people are lucky and find what they want right away, but for those who don't, failed teen relationships are a brilliant (albeit painful) life lesson. I always feel sorry for people who don't have relationships until their 20s because it seems a lot harsher to learn these lessons at that point for some reason.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox

Atm I’m in a relationship 8/9 months strong and no problems so far, it’s been fantastic and it feels like I’ve met my soul mate but on the other hand I worry about when it’ll end.

Reply 19

xoxAngel_Kxox

Original post by Anonymous

Atm I’m in a relationship 8/9 months strong and no problems so far, it’s been fantastic and it feels like I’ve met my soul mate but on the other hand I worry about when it’ll end.

It might not end. There are plenty of examples of people who meet as teenagers and remain together until old age.

You shouldn't go through a relationship thinking about what you'll feel like if it ends. It's interesting to me that you use the word 'when'. Like it's set in stone. That isn't very positive!

You don't know what will happen as you get older. You might grow apart and break up but not be sad about it. You might fall out of love, and end up being the one ending things - even though you can't imagine that now.

Don't look too far into the future. Just enjoy your life now, and see where it takes you.

I remember when I was 16, there was this boy and I thought I would die if I wasn't with him. I'm now 29, literally never think about him, and only thought about him because this conversation made me remember. I feel no emotion towards him, no urge to reach out, nothing. I have 100% moved on, even though I would never have thought that possible when I was 16.