Hi all,
I hope everyone is well and healthy. I will try and be brief, but as of late I am extremley confused about my LIFE (!). I have no idea what I want to do and, it seems, endless time to figure it out (due to covid) which is another type of aniexty in itself (I need to get out of the house, I am going crazy).
Basically, this past year I have started the first of my PhD and tbh it was going great. Have an excellent research question, got into the top uni in the UK for my course and into an Ivy League in the US for a visiting scholarship. I spent first semester in the UK then went to the US for half a semester before I had to go home due to covid. The issues began in the US, I lowkey realised I was kinda wishing I was like my friends (who are all working and none are in any type of education anymore) working, making money, getting apartments, just general adulting without the stress of school, etc. I started having these thoughts here and there but just put it down to stress or whatever. Then covid happens and I got pulled home early. That really messed up my momentum. But it did with everyone. Myself and all my peers have lost the will to work, concentrate or make any progress. Which is fairly normal in a PhD lifeline, espicially considering the circumstances. But me - I have REALLY recently lost interest. I am just SICK of reading 24/7, theorising till the cows come home, writing and rewriting about the same topics and concepts and just in general this PhD isn't exactly what I though it would be. I really thought it would be a little more practical than theoretical and I am not enjoying it as much now as I was in the beginning. Then I got some recent feedback from supervisors in which one of the them (there's 2) indicated I should rethink doing a PhD cos this IS how it is and it is only going to get harder/worse as the years progress. So that kinda threw me for a loop. Then on top of this, due to covid, fieldwork for PhD's (which is my next step) has been put on hold for at least 6 months to a year due to safety precautions. So that means my timeline is extended and I may not finish will I am 33/34. I am 28 now. That is waaaaaaaay too long to be a student and not make any real money/income (rn i just do random jobs at the uni that pay by the hour just as some pocket money but live mostly off student loans as I am self funded). And tbh the one thing I am most upset about rn in regards to not doing a PhD is that I can't go back to NYC for my visiting scholarship cos I loved life out there. But that isn't even realted to my PhD!!!! So as of now, I decided to take an academic intermission and just figure things out.
So my issues is I don't really know what to do. Do I carry on? I am not even sure I want to or that I enjoy it anymore. I originally wanted to do a PhD because I love research and learning and I love my question, but I know I def don't wanna be an academic so is there even a point? Plus I feel so guilty giving up on Ivy League and sad giving up my NYC life but also kinda wanna cry thinking about reading any more academic texts lol.But then option is to work but I have NO IDEA anymore what kinda job I wanna do. I work in the field of international development...and I have good experience but it is only about 5 years worth and any job I get would be just above entry level.
And this is just extra but I hate the idea of monotonous 9-5 life!!!!!!!! But I know realisitically there is not much I can do about this...thats just the world we live in. Lol. So maybe ignore this part.
Anyone been through anything simular? Major life choice/career confusion? Any advice is appriciaited. Thanks.