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Choosing a boyfriend on facebook

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I'm 20 years old, female, never had a boyfriend, heck never been kissed. The reasons are numerous - going to a girl's school, having no outside social groups, and excessive shyness leaves me in this position today!

I want this to change, I've been working on my confidence and since uni have had some male attention but nobody I was really interested in. I know I can't wait forever for my perfect match to come and approach me because I'll be waiting a long time - there isn't really much opportunity for me to meet new people at the moment as I only have a couple of close friends.

I've decided to take matters into my own hands. Well, girls can't always sit around waiting for the guys to do all the work and I'm not getting any younger!

There's a boy a really want to get to know better, however, he doesn't know I exist. I've found him on facebook but I don't know where to go from here? He isn't a complete stranger, I've met the rest of his family, only once, and we went to the same primary school but we never knew eacother. How can I strike up a conversation with him without scaring him off?

Is this weird that I'm doing this?? I just see it as taking control of my love life instead of waiting...!

Thoughts all welcome :eek:

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Reply 1

frankie_sez_relax

Go up and say:

"didn't we got to the same primary school?"

Reply 2

Angelil

Try and start a conversation about the people that you two both know?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Angelil

Try and start a conversation about the people that you two both know?

Thing is, we don't have any mutual friends on facebook, because I've only met his family once, and technically I shouldn't know his name and surname since we've never met!

He's gonna think I'm a stalker :s-smilie:

Reply 4

*Star*Guitar*

Anonymous

I want this to change, I've been working on my confidence and since uni have had some male attention but nobody I was really interested in. I know I can't wait forever for my perfect match to come and approach me because I'll be waiting a long time - there isn't really much opportunity for me to meet new people at the moment as I only have a couple of close friends.

Don't want to burst your bubble but if you've not been around guys a lot, don't keep your hopes too high, it takes meeting a fair few guys before you find a compatible one!

Go out with your friends, and talk to friends of friends, meet people this way.

Reply 5

Bear_Grylls

Anonymous

He's gonna think I'm a stalker :s-smilie:

if he likes you, he wont care will he?

Reply 6

Danny the Geezer

Message him saying hi, do you remember me? Or something like that.

Reply 7

bean87

get drunk. then he will be game

EDIT: oh yeah, assuming you're not a munter. if you're a 4 or less he will need to be paraletic

Reply 8

inksplodge

"Randomly" add him, say you've met the family, thought they seemed nice, found him randomly & decided to add, etc etc :rolleyes:

Reply 9

nuttygirl

Poke him and send a message saying something like, 'hi, i recognise your name, did you go to whatever school.' What's the worst that can happen, if he gets freaked it doesn't matter if you have no mutual friends.

Reply 10

Hibbleton34

Anonymous

He'll probably be flattered by the attention. Just go for it!

Reply 11

Kittten

Do you have any old class pictures? Put them on your primary school facebook page (if they have one, if not start one and invite him) then tag him in it. Then you can start conversations remembering childhood, and ask him what he's up to now, if he wants to meet up.

Reply 12

Bedshaped

do it!

Reply 13

huangcjz

jaydoh

Message him saying hi, do you remember me? Or something like that.

Yep, even if he doesn't remember you, having gone to the same primary school is a good conversation starter, and you can then talk about school or the area you live in, and what uni was like if one or both of you've been to uni, ask him if he's interested into the same things you are - sports, music, etc. Just try to find links, however tenuous, and the conversation will hopefully flow. People from my primary school I can't remember have added me on facebook and I didn't find it strange - just chat about how your lives have changed since then, and you'll get to know each other a bit better. Hope this helps!

Reply 14

acelib82

yeah just friend request him and write a note saying you went to the same primary school. If he accepts the request, maybe you could drop a message in his inbox and just take it from there. Good luck :smile:

Reply 15

Lampshade

Send him a message saying "hey, does having a stalker feel good?"

Why do you think you would like him - just because of his looks and the photos that you have seen?
Go out more, bars, clubs etc. Prettify yourself and I'm sure you'll be chatted up and you can get to know someone the right way.