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I’m male 17 and haven’t lost my virginity yet. I’ve always been bullied at school for having no friends, being a virgin and never having been in a relationship before.

Currently we live in a very sexy obsessed culture, where people often boast and brag about losing their virginity to no one special at all and just do it on a whim, that they will completely forget about after having sex. Lots of people put a huge emphasis on sex and value it above everything else.

Is it acceptable to be a virgin at 17? How could people find it so easy to have sex and why hasn’t it happened to me?

I’ve never had any friends or ever been approached by girls, probably because I’m ugly but I exercise and go to the gym everyday and take care of my body and hygiene.
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Anyone please?
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uhh i think it's acceptable? Maybe bc I have a lot of Christian friends but I think if people have the right to have sex with anyone whenever they like, they have the right not to have it.
And if you grow up a bit, those guys who 'have sex with every cute girl in school etc' just seem very childish. They will be either kinda embarrassed about it, or never grow out of it. so yeahhh...
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I don't know what group of people you have put yourself in, but there is little to be ashamed about. No one should care if you are a virgin or not, especially at 17, and if your friends think that's so important they feel the need to bully you about it, you should distance yourself from them, that's extremely toxic behaviours.
If you are looking for advice to be found more attractive by people, that's an entirely different issue. Exercise, hygiene and all of that are good additions, but what matters is that you are confident and charismatic. There is no need to rush anything to be frank.
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uhh i think it's acceptable? Maybe bc I have a lot of Christian friends but I think if people have the right to have sex with anyone whenever they like, they have the right not to have it.
And if you grow up a bit, those guys who 'have sex with every cute girl in school etc' just seem very childish. They will be either kinda embarrassed about it, or never grow out of it. so yeahhh...
Are you a Christian yourself?
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Wdym you’ve never had friends
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I don't know what group of people you have put yourself in, but there is little to be ashamed about. No one should care if you are a virgin or not, especially at 17, and if your friends think that's so important they feel the need to bully you about it, you should distance yourself from them, that's extremely toxic behaviours.
If you are looking for advice to be found more attractive by people, that's an entirely different issue. Exercise, hygiene and all of that are good additions, but what matters is that you are confident and charismatic. There is no need to rush anything to be frank.
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Wdym you’ve never had friends
I mean I’ve never had friends
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I mean I’ve never had friends
Don’t mean to be rude but how is that possible
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Are you a Christian yourself?
No, I also have friends that are really into hook up culture and is popular in their uni for having sex with everyone. I don't find any problem with both those 2 groups.

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I even have a non-Christian friend who wants to save their first time for their wife (he's quite popular). And another one (Christian) who think dating is committing sins to their future wife. Both of them are 21-22 ish. So yeah, I don't think it really matters. They seem perfectly content with their life.
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Don’t mean to be rude but how is that possible
It is, if you’ve been bullied all your life and have been lonely all your life then you’ll understand, but since you probably haven’t then you will never understand.

It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
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It is, if you’ve been bullied all your life and have been lonely all your life then you’ll understand, but since you probably haven’t then you will never understand.

It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
Sorry bro but try putting yourself out there and you’ll make friends
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Sorry bro but try putting yourself out there and you’ll make friends
I have, countless times before. I’ve tried and tried to improve myself, started going to the gym and exercising eating healthy and looking after my body and appearance.

Maybe it’s my autism that’s to blame
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It is, if you’ve been bullied all your life and have been lonely all your life then you’ll understand, but since you probably haven’t then you will never understand.

It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
If you don't mind me being a little harsh here, the problem doesn't seem to be your virginity, you've just placed virginity as the sign of being popular or unpopular, which is not true.
Do you go through a whole day without talking to anyone? The first steps in trying to become for sociable is realising most of your fears are in your head. Bullying can be very damaging to someone's self esteem, but you are old enough to be able to distance yourself from that. Not having friends is most of the time not a result on an unlikable personality at core, but rather a mixture of being shy, socially inept or unconfident in pursuing friendship.
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awe you sound like a nice person
i wouldve approached you
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It's not that deep bro
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I have, countless times before. I’ve tried and tried to improve myself, started going to the gym and exercising eating healthy and looking after my body and appearance.

Maybe it’s my autism that’s to blame
(Original post by Broque_)
If you don't mind me being a little harsh here, the problem doesn't seem to be your virginity, you've just placed virginity as the sign of being popular or unpopular, which is not true.
Do you go through a whole day without talking to anyone? The first steps in trying to become for sociable is realising most of your fears are in your head. Bullying can be very damaging to someone's self esteem, but you are old enough to be able to distance yourself from that. Not having friends is most of the time not a result on an unlikable personality at core, but rather a mixture of being shy, socially inept or unconfident in pursuing friendship.
Broque_ read that
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It's not that deep bro
You can’t say that if you’ve lived my life.
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Broque_ read that
I understand it can be hard, but you need to put yourself out there. Half my friend group are on the asd spectrum, and they aren't popular by any sense of the word, but they try and that's what matters to them. If you feel you are unable to socialise due to your autism, I recommend taking this up with your therapist or psychiatrist. They are specialised in this, and if your loneliness comes as a direct result of your autism, it's their job to help you overcome that.
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I understand it can be hard, but you need to put yourself out there. Half my friend group are on the asd spectrum, and they aren't popular by any sense of the word, but they try and that's what matters to them. If you feel you are unable to socialise due to your autism, I recommend taking this up with your therapist or psychiatrist. They are specialised in this, and if your loneliness comes as a direct result of your autism, it's their job to help you overcome that.
I do put myself out there loads, also I don’t have a therapist or psychiatrist
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It's not that deep bro
Honestly, that's a little insensitive, and you have no right to put them down. Everyone goes through their own set of struggles, and just because you can't relate to them doesn't mean they aren't just as difficult.
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