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I’m male 17 and haven’t lost my virginity yet. I’ve always been bullied at school for having no friends, being a virgin and never having been in a relationship before.
Currently we live in a very sexy obsessed culture, where people often boast and brag about losing their virginity to no one special at all and just do it on a whim, that they will completely forget about after having sex. Lots of people put a huge emphasis on sex and value it above everything else.
Is it acceptable to be a virgin at 17? How could people find it so easy to have sex and why hasn’t it happened to me?
I’ve never had any friends or ever been approached by girls, probably because I’m ugly but I exercise and go to the gym everyday and take care of my body and hygiene.
Currently we live in a very sexy obsessed culture, where people often boast and brag about losing their virginity to no one special at all and just do it on a whim, that they will completely forget about after having sex. Lots of people put a huge emphasis on sex and value it above everything else.
Is it acceptable to be a virgin at 17? How could people find it so easy to have sex and why hasn’t it happened to me?
I’ve never had any friends or ever been approached by girls, probably because I’m ugly but I exercise and go to the gym everyday and take care of my body and hygiene.
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uhh i think it's acceptable? Maybe bc I have a lot of Christian friends but I think if people have the right to have sex with anyone whenever they like, they have the right not to have it.
And if you grow up a bit, those guys who 'have sex with every cute girl in school etc' just seem very childish. They will be either kinda embarrassed about it, or never grow out of it. so yeahhh...
And if you grow up a bit, those guys who 'have sex with every cute girl in school etc' just seem very childish. They will be either kinda embarrassed about it, or never grow out of it. so yeahhh...
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I don't know what group of people you have put yourself in, but there is little to be ashamed about. No one should care if you are a virgin or not, especially at 17, and if your friends think that's so important they feel the need to bully you about it, you should distance yourself from them, that's extremely toxic behaviours.
If you are looking for advice to be found more attractive by people, that's an entirely different issue. Exercise, hygiene and all of that are good additions, but what matters is that you are confident and charismatic. There is no need to rush anything to be frank.
If you are looking for advice to be found more attractive by people, that's an entirely different issue. Exercise, hygiene and all of that are good additions, but what matters is that you are confident and charismatic. There is no need to rush anything to be frank.
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(Original post by Arctic Kitten)
uhh i think it's acceptable? Maybe bc I have a lot of Christian friends but I think if people have the right to have sex with anyone whenever they like, they have the right not to have it.
And if you grow up a bit, those guys who 'have sex with every cute girl in school etc' just seem very childish. They will be either kinda embarrassed about it, or never grow out of it. so yeahhh...
uhh i think it's acceptable? Maybe bc I have a lot of Christian friends but I think if people have the right to have sex with anyone whenever they like, they have the right not to have it.
And if you grow up a bit, those guys who 'have sex with every cute girl in school etc' just seem very childish. They will be either kinda embarrassed about it, or never grow out of it. so yeahhh...
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(Original post by Broque_)
I don't know what group of people you have put yourself in, but there is little to be ashamed about. No one should care if you are a virgin or not, especially at 17, and if your friends think that's so important they feel the need to bully you about it, you should distance yourself from them, that's extremely toxic behaviours.
If you are looking for advice to be found more attractive by people, that's an entirely different issue. Exercise, hygiene and all of that are good additions, but what matters is that you are confident and charismatic. There is no need to rush anything to be frank.
I don't know what group of people you have put yourself in, but there is little to be ashamed about. No one should care if you are a virgin or not, especially at 17, and if your friends think that's so important they feel the need to bully you about it, you should distance yourself from them, that's extremely toxic behaviours.
If you are looking for advice to be found more attractive by people, that's an entirely different issue. Exercise, hygiene and all of that are good additions, but what matters is that you are confident and charismatic. There is no need to rush anything to be frank.
(Original post by Anonymous)
Wdym you’ve never had friends
Wdym you’ve never had friends
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I mean I’ve never had friends
I mean I’ve never had friends
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Are you a Christian yourself?
Are you a Christian yourself?
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I even have a non-Christian friend who wants to save their first time for their wife (he's quite popular). And another one (Christian) who think dating is committing sins to their future wife. Both of them are 21-22 ish. So yeah, I don't think it really matters. They seem perfectly content with their life.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Don’t mean to be rude but how is that possible
Don’t mean to be rude but how is that possible
It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
It is, if you’ve been bullied all your life and have been lonely all your life then you’ll understand, but since you probably haven’t then you will never understand.
It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
It is, if you’ve been bullied all your life and have been lonely all your life then you’ll understand, but since you probably haven’t then you will never understand.
It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
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(Original post by Kornershopbandit)
Sorry bro but try putting yourself out there and you’ll make friends
Sorry bro but try putting yourself out there and you’ll make friends
Maybe it’s my autism that’s to blame
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(Original post by Anonymous)
It is, if you’ve been bullied all your life and have been lonely all your life then you’ll understand, but since you probably haven’t then you will never understand.
It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
It is, if you’ve been bullied all your life and have been lonely all your life then you’ll understand, but since you probably haven’t then you will never understand.
It’s a sad life when you get looks for going to the cinema by yourself and hear people whispering ‘he must be so lonely to come to the cinema on his own’ that was a child whispering to their parent one time.
Do you go through a whole day without talking to anyone? The first steps in trying to become for sociable is realising most of your fears are in your head. Bullying can be very damaging to someone's self esteem, but you are old enough to be able to distance yourself from that. Not having friends is most of the time not a result on an unlikable personality at core, but rather a mixture of being shy, socially inept or unconfident in pursuing friendship.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I have, countless times before. I’ve tried and tried to improve myself, started going to the gym and exercising eating healthy and looking after my body and appearance.
Maybe it’s my autism that’s to blame
I have, countless times before. I’ve tried and tried to improve myself, started going to the gym and exercising eating healthy and looking after my body and appearance.
Maybe it’s my autism that’s to blame
(Original post by Broque_)
If you don't mind me being a little harsh here, the problem doesn't seem to be your virginity, you've just placed virginity as the sign of being popular or unpopular, which is not true.
Do you go through a whole day without talking to anyone? The first steps in trying to become for sociable is realising most of your fears are in your head. Bullying can be very damaging to someone's self esteem, but you are old enough to be able to distance yourself from that. Not having friends is most of the time not a result on an unlikable personality at core, but rather a mixture of being shy, socially inept or unconfident in pursuing friendship.
If you don't mind me being a little harsh here, the problem doesn't seem to be your virginity, you've just placed virginity as the sign of being popular or unpopular, which is not true.
Do you go through a whole day without talking to anyone? The first steps in trying to become for sociable is realising most of your fears are in your head. Bullying can be very damaging to someone's self esteem, but you are old enough to be able to distance yourself from that. Not having friends is most of the time not a result on an unlikable personality at core, but rather a mixture of being shy, socially inept or unconfident in pursuing friendship.
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(Original post by AM_TSR)
It's not that deep bro
It's not that deep bro
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(Original post by Broque_)
I understand it can be hard, but you need to put yourself out there. Half my friend group are on the asd spectrum, and they aren't popular by any sense of the word, but they try and that's what matters to them. If you feel you are unable to socialise due to your autism, I recommend taking this up with your therapist or psychiatrist. They are specialised in this, and if your loneliness comes as a direct result of your autism, it's their job to help you overcome that.
I understand it can be hard, but you need to put yourself out there. Half my friend group are on the asd spectrum, and they aren't popular by any sense of the word, but they try and that's what matters to them. If you feel you are unable to socialise due to your autism, I recommend taking this up with your therapist or psychiatrist. They are specialised in this, and if your loneliness comes as a direct result of your autism, it's their job to help you overcome that.
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(Original post by AM_TSR)
It's not that deep bro
It's not that deep bro
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