Problem with hair 'down there', help!

Please, please keep anon cos I have friends on here and it's embarassing!

Basically, I've had trouble for years with shaving. I'm a girl and I've always liked to be smooth in the 'downstairs' area. But the problem is, everytime I shave, I always get horrible red marks, razor bumps, ingrown hairs, and itching. And because I have a boyfriend, I like to make sure that it's nice and smooth before I let him near me..
I've literally tried everything. Waxing I've tried, except it's not very good because of the waiting period between each wax- it's not exactly conveniant. Hair removal creams don't work whatsoever. So shaving is my only option. I know there's loads of threads on hair removal but this is slightly different in the fact that nothing is working and it's really getting me down, to the point where I can't even be naked in front of my own boyfriend etc.
I'm currently having lazer treatment to remove the hair but that's only down the sides (like a brazillian wax) whereas I like to have it fully removed, (I just don't want all of it permenantly removed in case I ever decide differently).
I've tried every cream and treatment out there- sensitive shaving gel, bikini zone, calamine lotion to stop itching. But nothing seems to do the trick.
Has anyone got any idea on what I can do to help the appearence of the skin when shaving? Or something to make shaving more bearable (growth starts after just one day!). Bearing in mind I do everything within my power- exfoliating, lotions etc etc. For instance, I shaved yesterday and already it's hurting like hell because of re-growth. How can I stop this? And the idea of keeping hair down there isn't really an option because I personally don't like it.
Grrr :frown:

Sorry about the ramble, but it's just really getting me down!

Reply 1

DamnitJanet

8

Are you sure you've tried hair removal creams properly? Perhaps get some veet and leave it on for the longest time allowed (ten minutes) and see how it goes. Beyond that, I'm afraid I don't have much advice, other than perhaps just getting rid of the bikini line and letting the rest grow in?

Reply 2

smellslikemarmite

14

Don't shave against the grain.

Reply 3

titanlux

6

From a man's perspective i'd prefer it just neatly trimmed but definitely not shaved because believe it or not the hairs can make you very sore apart from itchy. :yep:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

laur*

you lost me here...

Well I'm not having it all completely removed. Basically all of it except in the middle at the front (like a brazillian wax, except lazered off instead of waxing). Sorry, the wording was a bit weird :p:

Reply 5

Floozie

2

Have you tried Tend Skin? Bit pricey but its worked for me, stings like a bitch when it goes on but stops the ingrowing hairs.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

smellslikemarmite

Don't shave against the grain.

Can you actually get the hair off properly without shaving against the grain?

(Anon coz brother and sister are on here and it's ... weird...)

Reply 7

imomo16

12

In my opinion the brazilian laser treatment should be enough, if you keep the rest trimmed?
If your bf is going to boot you out of bed because of (/you can't bear to be seen with) a small amount of neatly trimmed and managed hair then maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him to be honest.
It is natural you know. A completely unkempt bush is unappealing but really, I don't think you have anything to be so stressed out about.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

imomo16

If your bf is going to boot you out of bed because of (/you can't bear to be seen with) a small amount of neatly trimmed and managed hair then maybe you shouldn't be sleeping with him to be honest.

He wouldn't. I don't think he'd mind if I had a little bit of hair down there but it's just my preference. I hate him seeing me anything other than smooth. It sounds stupid but I feel incredibly self-concious about it and I don't like having any down there at all. I'd just like to be able to be comfortable around him without him seeing these horrible marks from razors etc. I'm sure he doesn't even notice that much but it'd make me feel a lot more confident :frown:

Reply 9

imomo16

12

Anonymous

He wouldn't. I don't think he'd mind if I had a little bit of hair down there but it's just my preference. I hate him seeing me anything other than smooth. It sounds stupid but I feel incredibly self-concious about it and I don't like having any down there at all. I'd just like to be able to be comfortable around him without him seeing these horrible marks from razors etc. I'm sure he doesn't even notice that much but it'd make me feel a lot more confident :frown:

That's what I meant by the bit in brackets :smile:

If you're not mature enough to accept your body in all its very slightly hairy natural-ness, perhaps you are not mature enough to be having sex at all.

Reply 10

Hulagurl16

you are making this a bigger deal then it should be - the waiting times between waxing aren't that long - at the most you'd have to wait until the hair grew 1cm long - and that isn't that much - even in porno movies the women sometimes have a little bit of hair (although i don't like to reccomend girls to be like girls in porn).

Instead of trying to find another method of hair removal - which btw i honestly don't think there is any better one - try to gain confidence without having to resort to such extreme measures.

Reply 11

inksplodge

17

I hear rolling a bit [original] Dove roll on on the area helps with soothing the red bits... But you should go with the hair first, you'll have to do it all over in different directions but it helps!

Reply 12

DavidYork

Get beard trimmers and just keep it short and neat, not bald... If you really want to be totally smooth just make sure you are using a good quality razor! Get a man's Mach 3 or a Gillette 4 blade one... None of those crappy disposal plastic things or those rubbish blunt women's razors!!!

Get good shaving gel too...

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

imomo16

That's what I meant by the bit in brackets :smile:

If you're not mature enough to accept your body in all its very slightly hairy natural-ness, perhaps you are not mature enough to be having sex at all.

I do accept it though- I just want to find a way to make my skin look better after shaving etc as I don't feel confident enough, having razor marks and ugly looking rashes.. :confused:

and at 20 I think I am mature enough to be having sex!
I just want to know if any girls out there who shave know something I don't about how they keep theirs looking nice :p:

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Reply 14

poo-poo

Hair removal creams like Veet and Nair work well if you leave them on for the longest suggested time

Reply 15

Erradhadh

poo-poo

Hair removal creams like Veet and Nair work well if you leave them on for the longest suggested time

Does anyone actually time it?

Reply 16

Stace-is-Ace

13

I use hair removal cream for sensitive areas and it still stings/itches a bit but only for a few hours at most. I've found a good solution for that aswell - slap on loads of aloe vera gel (preferably from fridge)

I tend to de-fuzz before going to bed and so the gel's been on all night.

It works pretty well.

Reply 17

Redlime

9

I personally hate shaving, it just always goes wrong
i would never wax cos im far too sensitive
iv tried a million creams...the best one is veet...the pink one, it really smells but its the only one that iv found that works...i leave it on for 5/6 minutes, which is the maximum
in terms of re growth that cant really be helped but i use sudo cream to stop irritation and its always worked
everyones different though!

Reply 18

Crystaltears

12

Floozie

Have you tried Tend Skin? Bit pricey but its worked for me, stings like a bitch when it goes on but stops the ingrowing hairs.

Where do you buy this from? Can you get in Boots? :smile:

Do you just put it on after you have shaved and then you don't get a rash?

Reply 19

Jelkin

17

I know this isn't what you're looking for, but I think your problem is less how to be constantly smooth and more that you can't bear your boyfriend to see you with a tiny bit of hair down there :frown:

You need to become less self-conscious!

Problem with hair 'down there', help!

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