Can you make a guy fall in love with you?Watch
I’m not saying to force it but is there certain things you can do to help? Like be more attentive? Tell him you love him? Spoil him etc? And I mean I want to do these things because I want to and not because I feel like I have to but do guys like that? And are they more likely to fall in love with you if they do?
But it's never certain.
It's a game of luck and skill. A game with more skill than Monopoly and more luck than Chess. There's a game called Twilight Struggle that has a similar combination of skill and luck to getting someone to fall in love with you.
The things that you actually should be doing to increase your chances of getting someone to fall in love with you are somewhat counter-intuitive.
A lot of people follow what they've seen in films. Real life love doesn't work like in the majority of films. Most scriptwriters would not be good sources of advice in how to get someone to fall in love with you.
Don't tell him that you love him. Not until he's made it abundantly clear that he loves you. It's better to show him that you enjoy having fun with him when you are together. Give him sincere and honest and specific compliments at the rate of 1 or 2 per time that you meet him.
It's better to get him to spoil you than it is for you to spoil him. In general aim to treat him as an equal human being to you. You treat yourself well and you'll treat him equally well. But you should avoid treating him better than you treat yourself.
Try to keep you date fun, exciting, unusual. If you can, break one or more harmless rules when you are together.
Try to be unpredictable in a nice way. In a nice way means that you don't have sudden temper tantrums. It means that you do or say nice / fun / interesting / exciting things when they are less expected.
Above all, try to avoid getting oneitis. Getting too obsessed with this one man. If things don't work out between you, there are plenty of other men that would make great boyfriends for you.
And, in the long term, work on improving yourself. All the time. If you as a person are the best version of yourself that you can be, you will be more attractive to men.
The only thing you can really do is make him notice you. After that whatever will happen will happen. There are no magic words you can say, or rituals you can perform that actually do anything. Even behaving like a completely different person will not matter to most guys most of the time; we are very visual creatures.
Unless a guy thinks you are the most wonderful person in the world, then he is highly unlikely to enter a relationship with you unless he finds you to be near enough the most physically attractive woman he can get. So be careful not to think that you can date someone as physically attractive as Chris Hemsworth or Henning Wehn unless you are similarly good looking yourself, assuming they don't think that your other qualities are exceptional. I say that for your own benefit.
I just wonder if I should keep going on this relaxed way we are now and see how things play out or if I should ask him now how he really feels about me, and if it is just a fling or if he actually sees a future with me. Because if it is a fling as heartbroken as I would be I think I’d rather know so I can move on ASAP. It’s not that I want to move on, as I really think I’m so in love with him and that he’s “the one” but it’s just that the longer it continues I feel like the harder it will be for me to move on...
Theoretically, I suppose it's possible. You can cultivate a situation sort of Pavlovs dog where a person would release chemicals associated with what we observe as love. I mean Stockholm syndrome is also a thing.
I want him to truly love me for me (don’t we all lol )
I wouldn’t say I was very attractive at all I may be bias but I think he’s absolutely gorgeous and a 10/10 i was worried he would be way out of my league and At the moment we’re not in an official relationship but I’m kind of scared of getting my heart broken.
It’s not that I want to move on, as I really think I’m so in love with him and that he’s “the one” but it’s just that the longer it continues I feel like the harder it will be for me to move on...