weight loss: size 6Watch
Did you really just say 'the perfect size'?? I'm sorry but if anyone on here seriously thinks there's a perfect size can you please go and educate yourself because this is a really stupid thing to say. Not everyone carries weight the same way- even if they are the same size.
Also, I hate to break it to you- but there's no such thing as a perfect size- unless you mean what society deems as perfect?
This is a really damaging and toxic thing to say- please leave discussions like this and educate yourself before you infect other girls with your way of thinking.
She doesn't actually need to fit into that size, she's already small, why does she have to be skinny?
Sorry I am aware that I used the wrong phrasing to suggest that size 6 is a "perfect" size to be at. Perfect was the wrong terminology. Which I do apologise about.
Just to clarify my comments, I meant that size 6 is an okay size to be at if you are 5"3/5"2 and that any size lower than size 6 is not good to be aiming for as it is underweight. If she is looking to "lose weight" to fit a size 6, I don't see there is anything wrong with it. Size 6 is not underweight according to BMI , size 6 is healthy. If she wants to lose weight, get more toned and feel more confident about her body (which is her own choice), I would say choosing size 6 is a good size , just not any lower.
We also need to get rid of the stigma of wanting to lose a few pounds is a "bad" thing. Losing weight doesn't mean you are going to become unhealthy or "giving in" into society's standards. It is simply losing a little bit of fat to tone the body and feel more confident about yourself. Yes, you should be confident at any size. But if someone chooses to lose weight, thats their own prerogative. If it makes them feel happier, what is the problem?
I'm 5'2, weigh 49/50kg and I am extremely healthy. I recently lost 5kg as I was 55kg before, and even then I still fit a size 6. So size 6 doesn't necessarily mean weight. I am 49kg and still a size 6. It doesn't mean I'm any less healthy than before.
So size 6 in my own opinion, which not everyone has to agree with, is an ideal size for my (short) height.
I don't think what I am sharing is toxic whatsoever. It's simply just giving my own personal experience and opinion on this subject.
Hope this makes things more clear.
Hi, I just read the rest of the thread and I really strongly urge you not to lose weight!You've said that you're already only 55kg, this is pretty small for your height and its considered a very healthy weight.As well as this, you're only 17 so you haven't finished growing at all- I know this depends on how fast a developer you are but it takes different times for every women for their bodies to stop changing (I was about 22 when I stopped changing!).
It wouldn't be great to lose any weight now- especially as you definitely don't need to. In fact it might even be dangerous for you to do so. If you go on a diet now, I guarantee you will lose your boobs! I see it all the time and it even happened to me.
You're body gets rid of unneccessary weight first, so you'll lose your boobs and bum and only a little around where you said you want to (you can't spot reduce fat!)
You could also risk losing your period or developing an eating disorder. This most commonly (not all the time) happens when girls lose weight when they don't need to (like you!)
I don't want to sound rude, so please don't take this the wrong way- but from first and second hand experience I wouldn't go there.However, bottom line is I honestly think you are literally perfect right now- you're every girl your age and height's goal weight, losing more will do more harm than good and you'll probably feel even more insecure.
Please embrace your slim build, you don't need to be skinny- very few people can be skinny without losing all of their womanhood as well. If you were made to be size 6 you would be already. But the fact is that if you dropped the weight to be a smaller size, you'd just look like a child again.(btw size really means jackshit- please don't base your worth/beauty on it, its a SIZE)
I'm not saying this for any reason other than to help you out because as I said- I've been in your shoes!!! I assure you you are gorgeous right now. You will not look/feel better by dropping a couple pounds.
Give it time as well- I think its VERY possible you're suffering from body dismorphia and think you look bigger than you are. I really strongly doubt anyone in real life or online would think you should lose weight. Maybe look into help for BD?
In time, your body will change and distribute its weight more evenly. You've just left school and that's saying a lot.
You're not going to look like the way you do forever. Let your body do its thing and i promise, once you work on your mental health you'll learn to embrace your body and once you've done that you'll find that actually you like the way it turned out, because you let it develop into a woman.
I really hope I haven't sounded rude or patronising but I really wanted to get my points across because I hate seeing girls like you feel this way. I just don't want you to end up miserable- you deserve the truth and to be happy. I swear on my life, this is all truth, I have no reason to lie. I wish you the best.xxx
Really appreciate the time and effort you put into this, so thank you. I really don't know what to do. I hate my body at the moment and I'm really going to feel awful if I maintain. I'm too pear shaped and it looks wrong. I already have small boobs and I look fat, so I don't see the difference in having boobs that're a bit smaller BUT being thin. I dunno maybe I'm not seeing myself correctly but I really don't know I wanna lose weight so I'm 50 kg. But I'm not sure anymore
But, I still stand by everything I said- if you do lose weight you're probably not going to be thin with tiny boobs because you said you they're already small (join the club haha) so they're most likely not even going to count as boobs afterwards as that's what your body will get rid of first! I'm only telling you this because it happened to me and I've seen it happen to others. I really think you would be a lot less confident this way (correct me if I'm wrong- I know not every woman minds being flat-chested!).
Your body is still developing and I can't stress this enough!! I've explained why your body isn't going to turn into what you think it will in my last post, so I won't repeat myself. But I just want to re-warn you that it's likely a bad idea at your age (and especially size).
That reminds me, I think you're struggling from BD in some form because I really don't see how you can count as or look fat right now. I can also see that you think being thin is the ideal body type and that mindset is really unhealthy and must've stemmed from bad influences.
Maybe you should work on seeing yourself in a better light and more clearly? You don't need to lose weight at all (and if you do you'll probably end up being even more unhappy with yourself) but you think you need to because you think/ have been convinced you're fat + thin is the ideal body type and this is all happening whilst you're still a developing young adult. This all adds up to sound like you're struggling with self-confidence, being on the wrong side of society/social media and most likely BD.
I'm not trying to diagnose you or act like I know everything, but I understand if I sound that way so I apologise for that. I can just see that you're struggling a bit and I don't know how else to help. I hope you find self-love and therefore become happier soon xxx