Harder to lose virginity with age
I feel that as you get older, the harder it becomes because if you don't have experience, you aren't given a chance and if you aren't given a chance, you can't get experience.
Although a 25 year old virgin is theoretically okay, from a developmental perspective it is way behind the curve and the catching up you have to do is vast.
Although a 25 year old virgin is theoretically okay, from a developmental perspective it is way behind the curve and the catching up you have to do is vast.
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Reply 1
Don't think so. Sex is not that 'technically challenging' that you need particularly large amounts of experience in it. It's more of a confidence issue normally.
Reply 2
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by AnonymousI feel that as you get older, the harder it becomes because if you don't have experience, you aren't given a chance and if you aren't given a chance, you can't get experience.
Although a 25 year old virgin is theoretically okay, from a developmental perspective it is way behind the curve and the catching up you have to do is vast.
Although a 25 year old virgin is theoretically okay, from a developmental perspective it is way behind the curve and the catching up you have to do is vast.
As long as someone is healthy, I don't think age will matter. Although it's easier for a man than a woman.
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by AnonymousAs long as someone is healthy, I don't think age will matter. Although it's easier for a man than a woman.
Disagree; far easier for women to lose it than men.
I think sex at 40 is very different to sex at 20 tbh. Also ask the average middle aged woman if they'd sleep with a virgin and you'd probably get a resounding no
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by NonIndigenousDon't think so. Sex is not that 'technically challenging' that you need particularly large amounts of experience in it. It's more of a confidence issue normally.
I think non virgins have a confidence around women than virgins find very hard to even fake. Also they won't know how to initiate, go in for a kiss, etc which to an adult would seem a bit off
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by AnonymousDisagree; far easier for women to lose it than men.
I think sex at 40 is very different to sex at 20 tbh. Also ask the average middle aged woman if they'd sleep with a virgin and you'd probably get a resounding no
I think sex at 40 is very different to sex at 20 tbh. Also ask the average middle aged woman if they'd sleep with a virgin and you'd probably get a resounding no
You can't talk for all women,
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by AnonymousI think non virgins have a confidence around women than virgins find very hard to even fake. Also they won't know how to initiate, go in for a kiss, etc which to an adult would seem a bit off
If it's a cheap hookup, then it's more likely to be awkward, since you two barely really even know each other well enough to trust each other properly.
If it's a proper relationship, and the two of you already know each other well enough to be aware & accepting of each others' insecurities... then it won't get in the way unless you let it completely take over your thoughts.
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by AnonymousDisagree; far easier for women to lose it than men.
I think sex at 40 is very different to sex at 20 tbh. Also ask the average middle aged woman if they'd sleep with a virgin and you'd probably get a resounding no
I think sex at 40 is very different to sex at 20 tbh. Also ask the average middle aged woman if they'd sleep with a virgin and you'd probably get a resounding no
Who cares about the average middle aged woman?
Who want's to sleep with an average woman of any age?
How about having sex with an extraordinary woman?
Stop making excuses for you not having a girlfriend. Using your age: 25 as an excuse is ridiculous.
Using your lack of sexual experience is also ridiculous.
Show some bravery. Face down your fears. Stop making excuses. Go out and get a girlfriend. You deserve one. So get one.
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by Dunnig KrugerWho cares about the average middle aged woman?
Who want's to sleep with an average woman of any age?
How about having sex with an extraordinary woman?
Stop making excuses for you not having a girlfriend. Using your age: 25 as an excuse is ridiculous.
Using your lack of sexual experience is also ridiculous.
Show some bravery. Face down your fears. Stop making excuses. Go out and get a girlfriend. You deserve one. So get one.
Who want's to sleep with an average woman of any age?
How about having sex with an extraordinary woman?
Stop making excuses for you not having a girlfriend. Using your age: 25 as an excuse is ridiculous.
Using your lack of sexual experience is also ridiculous.
Show some bravery. Face down your fears. Stop making excuses. Go out and get a girlfriend. You deserve one. So get one.
Most women of all ages aren't a VS model so they will be considered average in terms of lifestyle/maybe looks.
An extraordinary woman means someone you fancy the pants off but also really connect with; you're only going to get something like that through a relationship.
I fear you're right and thanks, but these small things do tend to play into it. When you've been out and about, not teetotal and gone through all of university with nothing it is hard to gain confidence; you have to essentially revamp yourself just to achieve something 95% of the population can do naturally..
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by AnonymousAlthough a 25 year old virgin is theoretically okay, from a developmental perspective it is way behind the curve and the catching up you have to do is vast.
It's not 'theoretically okay', it is okay full stop. What curve and catch up to what? There's no need to be comparing yourself to others. Nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age and people get too stressed about it.
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What is with all the 25 year old virgin threads today?
If your going to troll about this, at least do different ages
If your going to troll about this, at least do different ages
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by LovelyMrFoxWhat is with all the 25 year old virgin threads today?
If your going to troll about this, at least do different ages
If your going to troll about this, at least do different ages
Not a troll for the record and actually 23
I don't know maybe its international 25 year old virgin day
Reply 12
Stop acting like it’s some work experience.
Reply 13
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by AnonymousNot a troll for the record and actually 23
I don't know maybe its international 25 year old virgin day
I don't know maybe its international 25 year old virgin day
Kinda funny that they all mention 25 though, isnt it?
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by LovelyMrFoxKinda funny that they all mention 25 though, isnt it?
Weird coincidence perhaps, but probably because most people in society see that as the first age of lateness if you are still holding onto your virginity.
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by AnonymousI feel that as you get older, the harder it becomes because if you don't have experience, you aren't given a chance and if you aren't given a chance, you can't get experience.
Although a 25 year old virgin is theoretically okay, from a developmental perspective it is way behind the curve and the catching up you have to do is vast.
Although a 25 year old virgin is theoretically okay, from a developmental perspective it is way behind the curve and the catching up you have to do is vast.
I lost mine at 18 but I know what it’s like to go such a long time between relationships wondering if you’ll ever have sex again. I didn’t have another girlfriend until 23, that didn’t last very long and 5 years later I’m still single. Some of my friends are very well educated, working great jobs now but for whatever reason never got anywhere with girls all the way through school, college, workplace and are still virgins at 27-30. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and it happens to lots of us, yet those people who have always been successful with relationships and can jump from one to the next, will never have any idea what it’s like to struggle. I see a lot of people younger than me jumping from one relationship to another, making it look easy and never spending more than a few months single.
I don’t think you’ve got any “catching up” to do per se. Yes it is really shallow that girls won’t give you a chance because you don’t have a rich relationship history. But when a girl likes you, it will be blatantly obvious and she will keep finding reasons to speak to you, give you attention, get to know you better. I thought I was really bad at recognising signs of affection cos they just never happened to me, but when my ex came along I was capitalising on all the signs without even realising I was doing it. Chatting to her on WhatsApp and phone call, asking her out, her saying yes without hesitation. All these things are usually the most difficult things to do with a girl, so when it goes well you will know instantly. Eventually she wanted to come to mine and before I knew it, I was banging her after only 2 dates. If I can find it that easy with a girl then you certainly can too. But you have to be involved with things girls are attracted to. Play violent sports, go to the gym, raise your status with popular social media and YouTube channels etc. You’ll notice the difference immediately when girls start approaching you instead of ignoring you.
Don’t let anyone guilt you into thinking there’s something wrong with you just because you haven’t had the opportunity to lose your virginity yet. The problem is not with you: most often it’s because of girls chasing the wrong type of guy and then later wishing they had spent more time with you instead of getting hurt by other guys who were no good for her. All I would suggest to you is focus on doing your own thing, developing the things that girls find attractive in a man. Money, career, status, physique and treating her to luxury gifts: all the things they care about, in a nutshell. The guys who are successful with girls all have one or a combination of these things. If you keep working towards these then you can easily see your luck with women turn in your favour.
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by RichPianaStop acting like it’s some work experience.
It kind of is though. Vice versa might be ok, but most adult women do not want to teach someone a basic human functionality.
Even religious girls in this day and age have more experience than virgin guys.
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by AnonymousIt kind of is though. Vice versa might be ok, but most adult women do not want to teach someone a basic human functionality.
Even religious girls in this day and age have more experience than virgin guys.
Even religious girls in this day and age have more experience than virgin guys.
Not really. It seems like you’ve been watching too much porn and expect sex just to be like what you see in those videos. In reality it’s nothing like that.
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by RichPianaNot really. It seems like you’ve been watching too much porn and expect sex just to be like what you see in those videos. In reality it’s nothing like that.
I watch porn from time to time, but nothing professional mostly amateur stuff; don't think most of that is made up tbh
Reply 19
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by Dunnig KrugerWho cares about the average middle aged woman?
Who want's to sleep with an average woman of any age?
How about having sex with an extraordinary woman?
Stop making excuses for you not having a girlfriend. Using your age: 25 as an excuse is ridiculous.
Using your lack of sexual experience is also ridiculous.
Show some bravery. Face down your fears. Stop making excuses. Go out and get a girlfriend. You deserve one. So get one.
Who want's to sleep with an average woman of any age?
How about having sex with an extraordinary woman?
Stop making excuses for you not having a girlfriend. Using your age: 25 as an excuse is ridiculous.
Using your lack of sexual experience is also ridiculous.
Show some bravery. Face down your fears. Stop making excuses. Go out and get a girlfriend. You deserve one. So get one.
I would cut my lifespan in half to sleep with the average woman of any age. I'm 30, been trying to get a girlfriend for 10 years. It's impossible. Women just hate men in modern america.
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