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    I was wondering if someone could give me an opinion or some guidance on my situation.

    Basically, I had sex for the first time a few weeks ago (2nd October, specifically) and we had used a form of contraception (Condom - I would have used something like the morning after pill as well but the experience was unexpected and I honestly didn't really think about it). However, about two and a half weeks after this I have been experiencing a bit of pain in my lower abdomen (not a usual symptom before my period), bloating and frequent urination.

    Around the time my period was due (23rd-24th October), I have experienced some bleeding although this is not much like my usual periods since it is much lighter than normal (although the blood is still bright red, rather than a brown/pinkish colour), so my thought is that it is possibly implantation bleeding. My frequent urination has also stopped at this point and I have started to get pains in my lower back (which is a usual symptom I have when having my period). My bloating is still prominent but it seems to fluctuate (e.g. sometimes it's quite large, whereas sometimes it's reduced in size but still noticable as bloating).

    As a result of all of this and despite not having experienced other symptoms of pregnancy (changes in breasts, sickness, tiredness, etc.), I have had my suspicions that I am pregnant so I bought a two tests to see the outcome. I used one of them yesterday (I felt comfortable doing the test then since it has been over 21 days since I had sex) and the result came up as 'not pregnant', but I don't feel convinced that this is the case, since I can't see why else I would be experiencing such symptoms (unless it really is my period and it's just late/affected by stress? I did also read somewhere that becoming sexually active can interfere with your pms, but I'm unsure as to what the accuracy of this statement is). I do plan on taking the second test in a few days when the light bleeding I'm experiencing has stopped since maybe the hormone detected by pregnancy tests isn't high enough yet (or, unless I seem to get bleeding that resembles my period, then after that). I would just appreciate some input on the situation is all, especially if someone has experienced the same (would be interested in knowing what the end result was, whether you were pregnant or not).
    I have a similar story. Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex but I'm on birth control pills however, I have missed more than 3 pills from that packet but I would take it the next day. I was unsure and scared so I took morning after pill. After few days I started feeling some pain on my nipples and lower abdomen pain also bloated tummy but no other signs. Is this sign of pregnancy?
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    (Original post by Rubytmg)
    I have a similar story. Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex but I'm on birth control pills however, I have missed more than 3 pills from that packet but I would take it the next day. I was unsure and scared so I took morning after pill. After few days I started feeling some pain on my nipples and lower abdomen pain also bloated tummy but no other signs. Is this sign of pregnancy?
    It's possible, given you've been so unreliable with your pill - doing that once in a month is probably ok, but several times is less so - take a test. And if you're struggling to remember to take the pill, talk to your GP about longer term contraception options.
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    It's possible, given you've been so unreliable with your pill - doing that once in a month is probably ok, but several times is less so - take a test. And if you're struggling to remember to take the pill, talk to your GP about longer term contraception options.
    My period should be coming this week, I'll wait for this week to finish and I'll take a test
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    Do you have to pay for an abortion? If its from the GP do you get it on the NHS, what about a GUM clinic? Is that free or on the NHS?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you have to pay for an abortion? If its from the GP do you get it on the NHS, what about a GUM clinic? Is that free or on the NHS?
    Majority of the time it is free on the NHS. Both your GP and a clinic can give you a referal to an abortion serivce, which you will need to get an abortion on the NHS.
    Hope this helps x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok, there's another thread, but I need all information in one.
    1. How do you call the abortion when it's done less than 12 weeks, cleaning or something?
    2. how much does it cost in England?
    3. If I'm 17 do I need an agreement of my parents?
    4.If it's illegal how much would I pay extra?
    5. what other options do I have?

    I'm not sure if I'm pregnant, it's been 3 days after sex and I supposed to have menstruation the same day but it still doesn't come :no:

    Sorry for bad English.
    Hey Anon! I've recently undergone an abortion myself

    1. Its unfortunately still called an abortion (if you don't like that word you can use termination as well but both mean the same)
    2. Its completely free in England if you're entitled to NHS healthcare, if an NHS hospital can't fit you in all you'll need to do is find a private clinic or charity such as BPAS who accept NHS payment and find your NHS number which you can get from your GP.
    3. You might need to take an 18 y/o with you, but I'm not sure if thats if you're under 16 they'll tell you at the sexual health clinic
    4. its not illegal don't worry, also don't do it illegally as it might not work/you have a higher chance of infection/harm to both yourself and the baby.
    5. You could either carry the baby to term and have it adopted/keep it, unfortunately its not the easiest decision to make in the world.

    Don't worry if you're only 3 days late, I know plenty of people who have had 6 week gaps between periods for no reason but make sure you get a pregnancy test done quickly, because if you are and you do want an abortion the treatments get a little bit scarier with every week! (trust me on this one)

    Hope you're okay.
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    I recently Had Sex With My Bf he said he did end up commin in me buh nt too deep thing is i took regular contraceptive pills on the 5th day .. ive been takin the pills 1 per day now but i feel the cramps in my stomach like im goin to start my periods but jus really scared if theirs a high chance i might get pregnant ?? need some help/advice please
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I recently Had Sex With My Bf he said he did end up commin in me buh nt too deep thing is i took regular contraceptive pills on the 5th day .. ive been takin the pills 1 per day now but i feel the cramps in my stomach like im goin to start my periods but jus really scared if theirs a high chance i might get pregnant ?? need some help/advice please
    If you had unprotected sex before you started the pill then yes, you could be pregnant. Take a test if your period doesn't come, and be more careful next time!

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    My boyfriend does not like using protection however I'm not on any type of contraception and so we rely on pull out (sorry for tmi) every time we have sex i get scared and so my period comes late. stupidly i looked up signs of early pregnancy and think about it all the time! its silly i know but when i have no-one to talk to about it, i worry what if. i try to talk to my boyfriend about it but he shuts down and doesn't want to talk about it and tells me to get morning after pill with my mates all the time. Im making it sound like we never use protection, we do! but even when we do, i worry that i could be pregnant and end up taking a test to calm myself down.
    I'm secretly wishing for a way to instantly know without going through the morning after pill and pregnancy tests every time; or just wishing i didn't worry so much
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My boyfriend does not like using protection however I'm not on any type of contraception and so we rely on pull out (sorry for tmi) every time we have sex i get scared and so my period comes late. stupidly i looked up signs of early pregnancy and think about it all the time! its silly i know but when i have no-one to talk to about it, i worry what if. i try to talk to my boyfriend about it but he shuts down and doesn't want to talk about it and tells me to get morning after pill with my mates all the time. Im making it sound like we never use protection, we do! but even when we do, i worry that i could be pregnant and end up taking a test to calm myself down.
    I'm secretly wishing for a way to instantly know without going through the morning after pill and pregnancy tests every time; or just wishing i didn't worry so much
    You're both being stupid. Go to the GP and get on some form of contraception, or tell your bf to use a condom - he'd like a baby a whole lot less!

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    (Original post by Helenia)
    Pregnancy – how it happens, tests, and what to do next.

    We get a lot of questions on here about pregnancy, from people worried about if activity x, y, or z can get them pregnant, to those who already are pregnant and wondering about their options. This is designed to answer some of the basic questions, but as ever, please ask away if you have any more questions.

    Two quick points before I start: -
    1) This is primarily aimed at handling unplanned, unexpected pregnancies. If you want information on conceiving, or are trying for a baby, feel free to ask questions in this forum but you may get better advice elsewhere.
    2) This is NOT the place for morality debates on abortion or any other stage of the process.

    Getting pregnant
    This is really quite simple. A girl can only get pregnant if sperm get into the vagina, through the cervix into the uterus and Fallopian tubes and meet an egg. However, there are lots of questions on this, so I’ll handle the two main components separately.

    Eggs
    If not on hormonal contraception, most women ovulate around day 14 of their cycle (if the cycle is 28 days) but this is variable. The egg remains viable for around 5 days. With careful planning and taking regular measurements of temperature etc, it’s possible to know when a woman is ovulating and avoid it, but without this it’s very unpredictable. A girl can get pregnant at any time in her cycle, so never assume it’s safe, even during menstruation. However, some times are more risky than others. Regardless of the stage in your cycle, if you have unprotected sex (i.e. when not on the pill), you need to take emergency contraception.

    Sperm
    Sperm are really fairly weak little things and will die quite quickly if left to their own devices in open air. They can survive inside the body for up to 7 days but most don’t. Realistically, pregnancy is only likely to happen if sperm is deposited inside the vagina – it is extremely unlikely to occur if transferred by hands etc. However, this does not mean the withdrawal method is effective: -
    • Some sperm can leak before the final ejaculation.
    • Do you really trust your man to pull out at the right time every time?
    • Even if the guy pulls out, if he’s still in that area when he ejaculates, there’s a (small) risk some can still get inside.


    Unless you have full unprotected sex and the guy ejaculates inside you, pregnancy is very unlikely. However, if you have any worries at all, you should take emergency contraception and have a test done when your next period is due.

    “Symptoms” of pregnancy
    Lots of you are worried that a bit of bloating, nausea or abdominal pain means you are pregnant. While these can happen to pregnant women, they also happen a lot to normal, non-pregnant ones! The ONLY way to know if you are pregnant or not is to take a test.

    Pregnancy tests
    You can take a pregnancy test as soon as your next period is due. If you are unsure about when that is, wait 21 days after you had unprotected sex and then do the test. If you are at uni, your student union welfare service may offer these for free, or you may be able to get one at your local FPA, sexual health clinic or NHS walk-in centre. Your GP may offer them as well, though some aren’t so keen to do one if you haven’t already taken one yourself. So, first of all, there are plenty of places to get them for free!

    Secondly, there is no need to spend loads of money on expensive brand-name tests. The pharmacy own-brand ones are just as accurate, but with slightly less fancy packaging. Usually they come in a pack of two so that you can double check (or save one for a few weeks later if you are still worried).

    There are only two results for the test:

    Negative
    For most of you, this is good news. These tests are very accurate, so it’s extremely likely to be the correct result. If your period still hasn’t arrived within a few weeks after that, try taking another one, or see your GP. If that’s still negative, then relax, smile, and think about getting some more reliable contraception for next time! You also might want to think about getting an STI test if you and your partner have not had one.

    Positive
    This can bring forth a whole range of emotions. You might know immediately what you want to do, you might want to talk about it with someone, or you might just be in complete shock. Whatever your reaction, don’t panic. There are people around to help you and you can find the answers which work best for you.

    The FPA have a very useful leaflet on what to do, including phone numbers and contact details for organisations who can offer support. You might want to discuss it with the father, your parents or your friends – it will make it much easier than going through it alone.

    There are three basic options now. Nobody on TSR can tell you for sure what the right answer for you is. There are lots of things to consider, including (but not limited to):

    • How much support do you have around you – family, boyfriend, friends?
    • What stage of your education/career are you at? Is it feasible for you to take a break to have and raise a child?
    • Do you, your partner and/or your wider family have enough money, space and time for a baby?
    • How stable is your relationship? If your partner leaves, how will you cope with the added burden of a child?
    • Are you ready to be a parent?
    • Do you think you can mentally cope with an abortion or giving away your baby?


    You can try to write a list of pros and cons if you like, but at the end of the day the decision can sometimes be one that feels right, rather than the logically obvious solution. Whatever your decision, be sure that your reasons for it are sound and you won’t regret it later.

    Keep it. Once you’ve decided this, you can start to prepare. You will need to start antenatal care with a midwife, so contact your GP to arrange this. Usually the midwife will come and visit you at home for the first time early in pregnancy. You may also want to ask for advice about things like dietary supplements such as folic acid and iron, quitting smoking, not drinking and other aspects of healthy living. If you have a pre-existing medical condition such as asthma or diabetes, or take any medication regularly, you may need specialist advice or to change some of your treatments during pregnancy. You will also need STI testing, as some infections can be spread to the unborn child. Your midwife should be able to arrange this.

    The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists have a lot of technical information about pregnancy and birth.
    The National Childbirth Trust have lots of information more tailored to the general public.

    On top of this, you need to work out where you and the baby will live, what is going to happen with your education/career (go to your school/uni’s welfare centre for advice) and how you will manage financially.

    Working Families offer advice on your employment rights and any benefits you may be entitled to. The Citizens Advice Bureau may also be able to help.

    All of this is a big undertaking, so try to enlist some support so you don’t have to do it alone!

    Have a termination/abortion. If you decide you do not want to continue with this pregnancy, you need to start making arrangements for an abortion ASAP. Go to your GP, or if you would prefer, your local sexual health service. They will then refer you to a hospital where you will have a scan to determine the exact age of the pregnancy, and to see another doctor to arrange the abortion. There should be counselling services available to you if you are unsure of the decision or just want to talk to someone – ask about these if they’re not offered! The consultation is entirely confidential, even if you are under 16, and if you do not want them to inform your GP, you can tell them this.

    There are two types of abortion: medical and surgical. The details on these can be found on the RCOGwebsite. Depending on the stage of your pregnancy and your local centre, you may be able to choose which type you have, though this may not be possible. You will also be offered STI testing when you go to the hospital to arrange the abortion.

    If you want to arrange things more quickly (though on the NHS everything should be completed within 4 weeks), a private clinic is another option. Marie Stopes and BPAS have clinics around the UK.

    There are many moral questions about abortion, but the only person who can decide what is right for you is YOU. Abortion in Great Britain is safe and legal (providing certain conditions are met). There is no evidence that it affects your fertility in the future. It can cause a lot of distress, however, so make sure you have the support you need, from professional counsellors or friends and family. It is worth noting that it can be considerably harder to have an abortion in Northern Ireland.

    Have the baby adopted. Here, you go through with the pregnancy, but do not keep the baby once it is born; it will probably go initially to a foster carer before its final adoptive parents take over. Legally binding documents are not signed until the baby is at least 6 weeks old. If you are married to the father, or if you are unmarried but his name is put on the birth certificate, he must also agree to adoption. If you are unmarried and the father’s name is not on the birth certificate, he does not have to agree. This is a decision between you and the father.

    Unless you want a close relative to adopt the baby, you cannot choose who it goes to – it must be done through an agency. The British Association for Adoption and Fostering have a lot of information about how to arrange this. You can discuss your options with your GP, a social worker, or a local adoption agency.

    As you will be going through a pregnancy, you will still need to arrange normal ante-natal care with a midwife and your GP – see above for further advice.

    TSR has a society for people who are expecting or have children. If you would like to get some advice or support than the pregnancy and parenting society may be useful for you to look at.

    Whew! That’s a lot of writing from me. If you have any more questions, or want to talk more, please post here.
    Thanks for postings. keep sharing.
    I have one question what was the best time after period to have sex to get pregnant.
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    Hi,
    I haven't had sex with my boyfriend yet but we are kind of planning to. And I'm just really worried about somehow getting pregnant, i dont want a baby. Of course i would never do it unprotected but is there any point of taking the morning after pill after protected sex? Or should it just be taken if the condom splits or something.
    Also when would be the best time before or after your period so you're less likely to get pregnant. Obviously this is like always correct but I'd rather not do it when im most fertile. Thanks
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    Hey guys, i have an odd question here. My gf recently switched to a new pill called Zoely, on which we don't have much information in our country. What happened is the following: she missed one pill on her second week of the pack AND the condom broke. Problem is, she didn't take 2 pills the next day, but took 1 and so extended her cycle by a day. Today is the last day of the placebo pills and still no signs of period. The information i was given is that she was 100% protected if she missed one during the second week, but we are paranoid as hell and have no clue what to do. Could she actually be pregnant or did the extra day mess with her cycle?

    thanks
 
 
 
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