What level of physical affection between friends weird?Watch
The idea of dating him sounds gross, like having sex with him or kissing him on the lips is not what I want and the idea of it makes me so uncomfortable. I love him and care greatly about him but as my closest friend, I didn't even really consider that I was cheating because I love my girlfriend and I'm just as (and probably more) physically affectionate with her, and I am totally on board with having a physically romantic and (when we're ready sexual) relationship and that makes me so happy.
Is this weird, am I cheating? I'm always physically affectionate with friends in a sense of hugs and hand holding but it's just far more intense with this friend (probably because we both struggle with our mental health and struggle with talking so touch is our way of comforting each other). should I take a step back from the physical affection or is this 'normal' between close friends.
I don’t know if it’s cheating but it’s odd. I think it’s quite unfair on him, you’re definitely sending the wrong signals especially if you know he’s into guys. That type of affection is normally reserved for your girlfriend so it is odd behaviour. Maybe you aren’t as straight as you consider yourself to be
Anyway. I'm a straight guy and I have a (straight female) friend of mine with whom I have a pretty similar relationship. We cuddle and hug a lot, and we very frequently talk to each other about (extremely) personal things. She has a boyfriend, who is 100% aware of everything we do together and he has never once hinted that he has any problem with the way we act.
For that reason, I don't think anything you've described is "odd", personally (unless we're both odd together), but I guess it's not especially common either. Nevertheless, I think you're worrying yourself a bit too much if you're trying to decide whether or not you're "cheating". There is really no rigid definition of the word, and a certain amount of nuance should be applied to every situation. If you don't feel anything "physical" towards him, and neither of you are even attracted to each other's sexes, then it's pretty clear to me that you're not cheating, regardless of whatever your sister may believe.
Of course, the person here who really has the final say on how it should be seen is the people you two are actually dating. If they're fine with it, then there's nothing wrong with what you're doing.
I think the kiss on the forehead and cuddling is where I would draw the line, but you do you.