Mother hates me?

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Well my mother and I used to get along fine untill shes recently started to have some financial issues so shes been moee stressed. Due to the stress building up since she been having financial issues me and her havnt been getting along at all. She always moody with me and always has a go at me about random stuff that I didn't cause or do. May i mention that i have a brother but she is fine with him, infact shes shown alot more happiness and love towards him than me for a while now, now it's not jelousy or anything it realy is just confusion. Does my mother hate me?
Money- I'm always broke now because my mother says she never has anymore but i always see her provising my brother with it. I don't think this is fair as i'm asking for it for a purpose and not just useless crap like weed. which is what he uses it for, and she knows it too. She also knows he's a dealer but is fine with it but if i do anything so tiny such as not wash the dishes she has a right go at me for it. Her and my brother have started to gang up on me on things, apparently as a 16 year old girl, i should cook for them, clean, iron etc... I tried the other day but then the enxt day i didnt cok anything and they sjut had mroe of a go at me, i jsut don't know what im doing wrong.
Why are they being like this?
I'm sorry about this disgustingly long thread btw.
& everytime my brother hits or shouts at me my mother says it was my fault, but how is it my fault? i didn;t raise his arms towards my face.
could it be utter favouritsme??
Eughh, i've gotten to the point where in can't take anymore and have started to self harm, i just don't know what to do. :/

Reply 1

Zerodos

15

Anonymous

Please either delete this or keep it anonymous.

Well my mother and I used to get along fine untill shes recently started to have some financial issues so shes been moee stressed. Due to the stress building up since she been having financial issues me and her havnt been getting along at all. She always moody with me and always has a go at me about random stuff that I didn't cause or do. May i mention that i have a brother but she is fine with him, infact shes shown alot more happiness and love towards him than me for a while now, now it's not jelousy or anything it realy is just confusion. Does my mother hate me?
Money- I'm always broke now because my mother says she never has anymore but i always see her provising my brother with it. I don't think this is fair as i'm asking for it for a purpose and not just useless crap like weed. which is what he uses it for, and she knows it too. She also knows he's a dealer but is fine with it but if i do anything so tiny such as not wash the dishes she has a right go at me for it. Her and my brother have started to gang up on me on things, apparently as a 16 year old girl, i should cook for them, clean, iron etc... I tried the other day but then the enxt day i didnt cok anything and they sjut had mroe of a go at me, i jsut don't know what im doing wrong.
Why are they being like this?
I'm sorry about this disgustingly long thread btw.
& everytime my brother hits or shouts at me my mother says it was my fault, but how is it my fault? i didn;t raise his arms towards my face.
could it be utter favouritsme??
Eughh, i've gotten to the point where in can't take anymore and have started to self harm, i just don't know what to do. :/

Hey.

Im sure your mum doesnt hate you at all. If you feel thta though maybe you should confront her like your always having a go at me and you never do to (your brothers name) SHe may be doing this accidently and not meaning to which might stop it or if its on purpose then she may feel guilty and stop.

Hope this helps

Reply 2

Rouge

you're mother and brother are sexist freaks who think women should do all the housework and the son should get all the money, I am shocked to see this happen in this day and age

Reply 3

PinkMobilePhone

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No, your mother doesn't hate you. She's clearly got a few issues at the moment, but she doesn't hate you.

Reply 4

Schmokie Dragon

17

Situations like this are always delicate. I doubt she hates you, but maybe she needs an outlet and subconciously trusts your loyalty more than she trusts his. If this was the case, she would be more willing to 'gang up' on you, as she thinks she can push your love further than his.

I can't advise you to talk to her, as I know full well that parents will often reject their offspring's criticism, often without even listening to it. You could try, but I can't say if it will help. Maybe just keeping your nose clean and keeping out of their way will help.

Sorry that your home life is pretty **** =( please don't self harm, it doesn't really solve anything and just leaves you with scars and regret.

Reply 5

cheese_fondue

go and get a small job, then you won't have to beg her for money. earning your own money would make you feel better about yourself too - as long as you make sure your brother doesn't grab the money off you...

try not to take your mum's behaviour personally or you'll just get depressed.

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