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    I am currently seeing this guy and we are having sex. We get a long really well but everytime we have sex, i'm seeing the more aggressive side of him. If if i'm giving him a bj then he will force my head down and even when i try to take a 2 sec break to breathe or swallow he still forces it down so i have to say to him i need to breathe pulling his hand away. I would think now that he would learn that i cant continously give him a bj without breathing after we've done it like 6 times.

    Also during sex, he will pull my hair, slap my bum and be hard with me. I have never indicated that i'm into this kind of stuff, i prefer softer sex. Sometimes he'll be going at me so hard that i actually start to cry and tried to push his stomach to tell him to ease off a bit. But he just continues and i just start to think maybe this is normal. I continue with this until he is satisfied. He is older than me so he has more experience that me so maybe he is guessing thats why he things it what i want. I want to tell him what my preferences are but i'm a bit scared that he will lose his temper and take it out on me. Other than this part of him he is a great person to hang out with and i think that there would be a possibility of us getting together.

    Just want others advice on this.
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    He is a naughty naughty man.
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    theres only one thing you can do. talk to him.

    tbh, he doesnt sound violent, just lets say, primitive in the bedroom.

    if you really think you cant talk to him about sex with him gettin aggressive towards you, he doesnt sound like a nice guy to be with.

    tht stuff in the bedroom must be horrible for you. you need to talk to him.
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    hmm some men are into that sort of thing, at the end of the day if you're mature enough too embark on a sexual relationship with this man you're mature enough too tell him how you feel, have you tried talking dirty, eg 'i want you too softly stroke me' etc?? and work it into the foreplay?? so it's more subtle. If he's like this outside of the bedroom, eg aggressive seriously consider seeking a safe house
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    :ditto:

    If he doesn't ease it off after you talk to him you need to cut off the relationship. He probably thinks he's some macho hunk in the bedroom and all girls love it rough or something lol
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    He sounds like a pretty swell guy.
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    you have to tell him how you feel because this is the only way he will take in what is bothering you otherwise he will just continue thinking maybe it's what you want. as you said

    "so maybe he is guessing thats why he things it what i want"

    but tbh it doesn't sound normal that he is forcing you, so just talk to him and tell him how you honestly feel.
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    hum, if he keeps doing it without disagreement from you,it will go on and on (no pun intended)... maybe if he had two beers, one in each hand, he wouldnt be capable of gouging your mouth with no assistance from his busy hands!..PROBLEM SOLVED!

    or you could bite his penis when he does it, and just say its a "gag reflex"....



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    Wow.... someone's been watching too much porn!
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    (Original post by ssk2)
    Wow.... someone's been watching too much porn!
    too much porn?, thats like saying, "stop learning too much"...:yep:
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    Are you sure this is the right guy for you?

    You don't have to put up with all this rough stuff. Sex should be an enjoyable experience for both. Also, what's all this about anger?
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    He sounds like a raving misogynist. I think he has been watching to much aggressive porn and it's making him think of women as sex objects... If he you are telling him to stop and he carries on, that is essentially rape. Get rid of the freak.
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    You need to tell him and then ditch him if he doesnt change. He sounds like a right penis to me.
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    i personally can't stay with someone who isn't sexually compatible with me.
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    Do it back to him, if he pushes head down, bite his *ahem*
    If he slaps you hard, do it back to him etc
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    (Original post by Sickminded)
    hum, if he keeps doing it without disagreement from you,it will go on and on (no pun intended)...
    I'm confused - where is the pun?
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    OP, you need to speak up and say stop if it hurts or, if he doesn't get the message about the blow job, look him square in the eye and remind him this is NOT a porn film and if he continues doing that there will be no more sex for him.
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    (Original post by TOD100)
    I'm confused - where is the pun?
    usually when oral sex is occuring it entails repetitive motion....
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    Talk to him. If he doesn't stop, dump his ass. If he continues doing this sort of thing, after you've asked him not to, he's clearly a ****.
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    Uh talk to him, duh. Sex is about pleasure right? What's the point in doing it if you're not getting any? :p:

    Also, I'd watch out with this one. If he's aggressive in bed, he might be this way regularly as well. If you're scared he'll like attack you, talk to him on the phone or IM.
 
 
 
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