Is this my fault?

PLEASE dump him. He is controlling, and sure he may want to see you, but that is very clearly manifesting itself in an unhealthy way. I get that is such a hard thing to do, but your partner should not be mean.

I was him once, and thank god my ex dumped me because I was pretty toxic (though it was a combined effort)... for about 6 months it hurt both of us a lot, but I am so glad - I know that we are both individually so much happier as a result.

All the best x

Also, he literally said that your granny having cancer is 'your problem.'

Please process that and realise how horrible of a thing that is to say to someone

Forget him. If he acts like this now when you are not married, imagine how he will be later....

He even said on the phone he doesn't care about COVID and hes trying to say my parents are controlling but they aren't at all, they are happy with whatever decision I make, it would just be selfish to risk my parents health travelling back and fourth. Were you? x

I was explaining to him why I couldn't see him for a while as planned because I lost my job locally and coming home allows me to be there for granny since she has cancer and thats when he said 'thats your issues, you dont do anything to sort it'. But I now just got another job, and literally only need a months pay and I will be back

please leave him

also how old are you and how old is he?? your bio thing says 06 - if he is older please get out of it

it is also selfish of him to ask you to risk your family and even your own wellbeing travelling to him. i beg you get out of this you will be so much happier in the long run. now is also the best time, because you don't have to see him until it's safe to go out etc., so you won't have the horrid bit of having to see him.

what do you mean were you??

I am 22 and he is 32. He also didn't tell me he had children until two months into the relationship, I just feel so bad for not coming back as agreed. But I even booked a flight for my permanent move back and I even going through a recruitment process for a job down there so its not like I am going anywhere. He doesn't think I value the relationship

Oh its because you mentioned you were the same as him, so I was quite surprised!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have 8 more years of your twenties what do not waste them on this fool...

don't feel bad he is horrible

he has children?! don't you want to have your own with no complications and stepchildren etc.? he also lied by omission... a pretty big one too

i really hope he's right and that you don't value the relationship it sounds toxic af!!