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I used to have this girlfriend. She had alot of problems and was push aside by her family. Be cause of her problems she wasn't always very nice and had some pretty twisted views. She was funny and had a way of pushing me to hit my potential, she was so beautiful that I could burst into tears every time I looked at her. Never have I ever met anyone more fun to watch a movie with.

I did alot for this lass. I built up her self esteem best I could, took her places, put in every bit of effort that women want.

Eventually her problems started affecting my life in a bad way, her mind games caused me mental health problems that interfered with my job, I ended up on anti depressants, She attacked me twice and self harmed infant of me.

I made her go to her doctors for psychiatric help and she was diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder which explained alot. I tried so hard for a long time to help her and show her the love that she needed.

Eventually I had to cut her out of my life completely. I was falling into a deep dark place and I just could not cope with her anymore. I later found out she had been shagging around aswell. I cant really defend that but I do know she never felt loved enough (which made me feel **** because I really tried).

I can honestly say that I have never ever loved anyone else as much as this lass and I doubt I will again. Never have I ever put so much effort into a relationship.

Its 8 years later now and I dont feel angry anymore. I feel guilty because I broke my promise that I'd never abandon her. I want to get back in touch with her, see if we can just be freinds. She is really hard to find though as she doesn't use social media. I've sent a letter to her parents house so see how that goes.
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Im so sorry to hear.
I dont suggest you get back in touch. She sounds like she needed a lot of help, and you couldnt give that to her ( which is perfectly fine, not everyone can ). It sounds like she had a negative effect on you as well. Its okay to break some promises, and this one Id consider to be one of those cases.
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Im so sorry to hear.
I dont suggest you get back in touch. She sounds like she needed a lot of help, and you couldnt give that to her ( which is perfectly fine, not everyone can ). It sounds like she had a negative effect on you as well. Its okay to break some promises, and this one Id consider to be one of those cases.
I know you are right, maybe she just gets in your head but i miss her so much 😞, AND I have no problems finding girlfriends,
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I know you are right, maybe she just gets in your head but i miss her so much 😞, AND I have no problems finding girlfriends,
Move on. She was a toxic influence, and it sounds like it messed you up. Dont settle for less.
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You sound like a nice person; not like
me. It’s the nice people who end up paying the price for a lot of stuff like this. I would have cut it at the first point it became clear she was mentally abnormal.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I used to have this girlfriend. She had alot of problems and was push aside by her family. Be cause of her problems she wasn't always very nice and had some pretty twisted views. She was funny and had a way of pushing me to hit my potential, she was so beautiful that I could burst into tears every time I looked at her. Never have I ever met anyone more fun to watch a movie with.

I did alot for this lass. I built up her self esteem best I could, took her places, put in every bit of effort that women want.

Eventually her problems started affecting my life in a bad way, her mind games caused me mental health problems that interfered with my job, I ended up on anti depressants, She attacked me twice and self harmed infant of me.

I made her go to her doctors for psychiatric help and she was diagnosed with a borderline personality disorder which explained alot. I tried so hard for a long time to help her and show her the love that she needed.

Eventually I had to cut her out of my life completely. I was falling into a deep dark place and I just could not cope with her anymore. I later found out she had been shagging around aswell. I cant really defend that but I do know she never felt loved enough (which made me feel **** because I really tried).

I can honestly say that I have never ever loved anyone else as much as this lass and I doubt I will again. Never have I ever put so much effort into a relationship.

Its 8 years later now and I dont feel angry anymore. I feel guilty because I broke my promise that I'd never abandon her. I want to get back in touch with her, see if we can just be freinds. She is really hard to find though as she doesn't use social media. I've sent a letter to her parents house so see how that goes
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I found her
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