I just don't know what to do...

Tell him this.

I would, but i don't want him to think i am nagging him.
Cos i really don't want to upset him.
Which sounds stupid cos i am so upset at the moment it's unreal.

Why do you appear anon but go into great detail?

I am not anon There is no point. If he comes on he'll know it's me. And tbh he wont even bother.

You want my honest advice?
Drop his ass. It's a long distance relationship which are hard to maintain at the best of times and he really doesn't seem to care. And he's living with a girl who likes him and who he likes. That is complete and utter BULL!!! He obviously doesn't deserve you. Just get rid of him. Talking it out wont work. You said he was laughing while you were crying. He's not worth it. Just get rid of him and move on.

You were before..... But congrats on err de-anoning yourself?

At after midnight he spoke to me to let me know they'd gone to see some fireworks and had a great time being just the two of them. It hurts that he didn't even bother to call like he said he would, and i think it's taking the piss a bit to be off having romantic evenings on the beach. I told him this, and he went mad, calling me basically a liar and saying that his female friend was amazing, and would never do anything ever.

So if a friend is amazing they will never try it on with someone they like? Hmmm that's a novel concept your boyfriend has, very interesting... he does sound like a bit of an idiot.

Anyway, are you in the mindset where you think that if you keep a check on him constantly there's less a chance of anything happening? Don't be. You could maybe not call him for a bit and see if he calls you back or just cut down a bit on the calling. It does sound like he calls you occasionally but you're calling far more often. You're not going to achieve anything by nagging him, that's for sure. If he wants the relationship as much as you, he will naturally stay faithful... If not, then yes you might have to worry.

It's not that i think there's less chance of anything happening. I just want to make sure he's ok. We've been basically living together the whole summer, seeing eachother daily before that. And when we were arguing he said he'd known her longer. Even though he's only met her... three times?
I just feel so betrayed and hurt and stupid and embarrassed and degraded.

I am not calling him tonight. It's hard though. I just want to know that he's ok. But evidently he doesn't care if i am, so...

how long is he in england for? if it is for ages, more than a few months, then i really doubt your relationship will stay as strong that long if he isnt calling you or putting any effort in. maybe he needs you to tell him its finished before he realizes what an idiot he is being.

He's back next week for a week. Then it'll be about 2 months.

You probably are in an unfortunate situation where you're the girlfriend and he's talking about some other girl in higher regard than you. I can imagine that would piss anyone off. What are you hoping from this relationship? What is he hoping? Why do you care about him if he doesn't seem that bothered about anything? Are you worried about being lonely? You're a very good-looking girl so you have nothing to worry about.

I am hoping that we will be together for a while. I love him, so much it hurts. I assumed that he was hoping the same. He always said he was. I care about him because he is my boyfriend. I love him more than anything. I would do anything for him. Maybe i am a bit worried about being lonely. I am very, very insecure, have battled eating disorders, etc. I finally had got down to a size 10, he told me he loved me. He told me i was beautiful. And i really am not very goodlooking but it's nice to hear. I just feel so confused and so lost. Why would he do this to me? It seems like the beginning of the end. And i don't want it to be. As i said, a week ago everything was perfect.