I don’t like my uni and I’m scared of going back

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I’ve enjoyed the lockdown and the thought of returning to uni in the autumn is giving me major anxiety.I study a degree that was very competitive to get onto so I’m very fortunate but my uni experience has been very depressing and left me really unhappy.I don’t know what to do.I don’t want to leave university because I love my degree however I hate the whole living away and the friends I’ve made I don’t click with leaving me with a very boring summer.

I’m a female so please don’t refer to me as he lol
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1) Do you mean you're homesick?

2) First year friends aren't always friends you'll have for your whole time at university. By my final year of university I wasn't good friends with anyone I was friends with when I started. Most of my friends were from my course (but a different group by the end) and from societies.

If you love your course, I'd suggest seeing what it is you can change before considering quiting.
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If you really dislike it, then I would move unis. If you're going into 2nd year, you should be able to apply for 2nd year entry on most courses. If you're going into third year, you'll probably have fewer options, but there should still be a couple.
Don't jump into leaving, and don't leave until you've got a secured uni place somewhere else. Make sure you do the research into any new unis and do your best to make sure you'll be happy there, as you're unlikely to be able to move again.
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(Original post by TigerRoll)
1) Do you mean you're homesick?

2) First year friends aren't always friends you'll have for your whole time at university. By my final year of university I wasn't good friends with anyone I was friends with when I started. Most of my friends were from my course (but a different group by the end) and from societies.

If you love your course, I'd suggest seeing what it is you can change before considering quiting.
Yes I get homesick and I don’t like my uni at all.I love my course but I don’t really hang out with my uni friends out of uni semesters leaving me with a very depressing summer especially with the situation now

Yh hopefully I will try and attend more societies
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(Original post by remussjhj01)
If you really dislike it, then I would move unis. If you're going into 2nd year, you should be able to apply for 2nd year entry on most courses. If you're going into third year, you'll probably have fewer options, but there should still be a couple.
Don't jump into leaving, and don't leave until you've got a secured uni place somewhere else. Make sure you do the research into any new unis and do your best to make sure you'll be happy there, as you're unlikely to be able to move again.
My course doesn’t allow transfers so I’m stuck 😂 it’s just adapting with the situation I have and making it better that’s the issue
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(Original post by remussjhj01)
If you really dislike it, then I would move unis. If you're going into 2nd year, you should be able to apply for 2nd year entry on most courses. If you're going into third year, you'll probably have fewer options, but there should still be a couple.
Don't jump into leaving, and don't leave until you've got a secured uni place somewhere else. Make sure you do the research into any new unis and do your best to make sure you'll be happy there, as you're unlikely to be able to move again.
bruh there's like 3 days left till the transfer deadline anyway
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bruh there's like 3 days left till the transfer deadline anyway
They could get an application together within 3 days. If they get offers, they're not obliged to take them, so it doesn't particularly matter either way.
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Yes I get homesick and I don’t like my uni at all.I love my course but I don’t really hang out with my uni friends out of uni semesters leaving me with a very depressing summer especially with the situation now

Yh hopefully I will try and attend more societies
It's probably more of an issue of finding better friends.

Can you visit home more often?
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My course doesn’t allow transfers so I’m stuck 😂 it’s just adapting with the situation I have and making it better that’s the issue
could I ask where you study? Or you could PM me ... I really struggled at first too ... I was at Oxford and really hated it at first!
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My course doesn’t allow transfers so I’m stuck 😂 it’s just adapting with the situation I have and making it better that’s the issue
But equally it is stepping out of your comfort zone. You cannot spend the rest of your life hiding behind this homesick scenario. The world is your oyster - post covid - so stride out,. The plus is you love your course. Do you really want to be tied to your home town for the rest of your life....
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It’s sort of good practice for moving towns for jobs.
What hobbies are you into? Could you get involved in more work related hobbies (I am law so we have lots of pro bono work opportunities) or something like guides or sports in the local community if the university doesn’t do it. Or maybe Stiff like student paper. Whatever gets you through the terms. Part time job at local shop or bar or library?
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I don't see 'not having uni friends' as a reason to change universities. Your course is competitive and you got accepted - why would you throw away that opportunity? You can make friends at the library, in clubs and societies, online...basically anywhere. Also, if you go to a city university, you will find someone to hang out with. Making friends just takes giving people a couple compliments in the midst of a conversation, which you start up, and then asking to hang out. If they say no, oh well. If they say okay, great, you're sorted. If you can't find anyone - hanging out by yourself isn't awful either. After covid, it'll probably become even more socially acceptable to be on your own and not want to talk to people.
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Yes I get homesick and I don’t like my uni at all.I love my course but I don’t really hang out with my uni friends out of uni semesters leaving me with a very depressing summer especially with the situation now

Yh hopefully I will try and attend more societies
Would it be possible to live at home and commute to university? The only issue with that is you might end up hanging out with people even less....
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It's probably more of an issue of finding better friends.

Can you visit home more often?
Yh that’s the issue
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Would it be possible to live at home and commute to university? The only issue with that is you might end up hanging out with people even less....
I think that will make it worse tbh but I used to do that a lot
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I think that will make it worse tbh but I used to do that a lot
Maybe that's why you didn't make friends, because you weren't there often enough to form solid friendships. A friend of mine went home every weekend, and then complained because she was always left out of things (because spontaneous hang outs would happen while she was at home).
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