Is my dad abusing me?

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He’s always so narcissistic etc, been like this for years. He criticised me over my desk and I told him to stop, he then shouted at me saying I’m a ‘messy and useless b*tch’ and I’m a ‘****ing failure’ and I’ll never make it in life and he wants to kill himself. I’m sat crying in my room, I’m 15. He judges me for everything and when I had a tub of ice cream- I’m recovering from anorexia he says I’m a mess. He’s super rich and my mum has a low paying job, I’m scared and I don’t know if I should report it
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and you’re so young as well 😭 I’m not sure what you should do, reporting it might be a good idea but it might be a risky situation during this lockdown, but honestly just wanted to comment and say I’m sorry about the situation and that it’ll get better eventually, also feel free to PM if you want x
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(Original post by bluemuffin)
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and you’re so young as well 😭 I’m not sure what you should do, reporting it might be a good idea but it might be a risky situation during this lockdown, but honestly just wanted to comment and say I’m sorry about the situation and that it’ll get better eventually, also feel free to PM if you want x
Thanks xx
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This is so hectic because isnt right to do this..but i am just praying for you..since there is nothing i can do.
i wish i could get your Whatsupp number so that i may talk to you, i was once in the situation that you are now in..


i am very sory!!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
He’s always so narcissistic etc, been like this for years. He criticised me over my desk and I told him to stop, he then shouted at me saying I’m a ‘messy and useless b*tch’ and I’m a ‘****ing failure’ and I’ll never make it in life and he wants to kill himself. I’m sat crying in my room, I’m 15. He judges me for everything and when I had a tub of ice cream- I’m recovering from anorexia he says I’m a mess. He’s super rich and my mum has a low paying job, I’m scared and I don’t know if I should report it
Perhaps it would be good for you to speak to a professional about this for some advice, you can contact Childline on 0800 1111 (it won't show up on a phone bill). Alternatively their website is https://www.childline.org.uk/, they have loads of useful advice on there as well. Stay strong, you can get through this.
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(Original post by Oulez)
This is so hectic because isnt right to do this..but i am just praying for you..since there is nothing i can do.
i wish i could get your Whatsupp number so that i may talk to you, i was once in the situation that you are now in..


i am very sory!!
Thanks xx I feel better now
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It’s absolute abuse. How can a parent expect to care for their children if they only degrade them and expect them to solve their own problems?
I hope you learn to fend for yourself and support yourself with any close friends or relatives
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(Original post by Anonymous)
He’s always so narcissistic etc, been like this for years. He criticised me over my desk and I told him to stop, he then shouted at me saying I’m a ‘messy and useless b*tch’ and I’m a ‘****ing failure’ and I’ll never make it in life and he wants to kill himself. I’m sat crying in my room, I’m 15. He judges me for everything and when I had a tub of ice cream- I’m recovering from anorexia he says I’m a mess. He’s super rich and my mum has a low paying job, I’m scared and I don’t know if I should report it
Sounds like the assh*le might be part of the reason you have anorexia. Yeah, he is abusive.
Do you live in the UK and how old are you? If your over 18 your best solution is probably going to be to move out.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
He’s always so narcissistic etc, been like this for years. He criticised me over my desk and I told him to stop, he then shouted at me saying I’m a ‘messy and useless b*tch’ and I’m a ‘****ing failure’ and I’ll never make it in life and he wants to kill himself. I’m sat crying in my room, I’m 15. He judges me for everything and when I had a tub of ice cream- I’m recovering from anorexia he says I’m a mess. He’s super rich and my mum has a low paying job, I’m scared and I don’t know if I should report it
That's insane - if you need some support feel free to PM me, but that is disgusting that he speaks to you that way
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This would be considered abuse, yes. Im sorry you have to go through this :console:
Might I ask about your mom? Does he act like this to her as well? Please dont feel pressured to answer either of those.
I hope you have some friends you can trust, and that are there to support you. If you ever need someone to talk to, or just someone to listen, dont hesitate to pm me.
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Yes, this is abuse. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Is it possible for you to move in with another family member? It's extremely difficult living with a narcissist, (my mother is one) so if you want to speak, advice, vent whatever you can pm me if you like. My advice for now is steering out of his way and try to not conversate with him as much as you can. Narcissists are scary as they can switch their behaviours from pretending to be "kind" and "sweet" to manipulate you, then they suddenly get nasty and abusive. They're absolutely horrible people and they can really damage your mental health. There are people you can speak to who share similar experiences like on the Reddit forum. https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/
I understand it can be heard but don't give up. Once you're 18, you can move out, cut him out of your life and finally start living. Therapy would definitely be beneficial once you're ready to talk about your trauma. Wishing you all the best :-)
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(Original post by ryukk)
Yes, this is abuse. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Is it possible for you to move in with another family member? It's extremely difficult living with a narcissist, (my mother is one) so if you want to speak, advice, vent whatever you can pm me if you like. My advice for now is steering out of his way and try to not conversate with him as much as you can. Narcissists are scary as they can switch their behaviours from pretending to be "kind" and "sweet" to manipulate you, then they suddenly get nasty and abusive. They're absolutely horrible people and they can really damage your mental health. There are people you can speak to who share similar experiences like on the Reddit forum. https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/
I understand it can be heard but don't give up. Once you're 18, you can move out, cut him out of your life and finally start living. Therapy would definitely be beneficial once you're ready to talk about your trauma. Wishing you all the best :-)
Thanks xx he says that he said it ‘in anger’ so it doesn’t ‘count’.
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