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So I'm currently 19. I've always performed quite well at school. I went to sixth form, got 3 A-Levels (English Lit&Lang, Media and Sociology). After a long summer, university came around. I got into UOB (Birmingham). Long story short, I never wanted to go in the first place. I only went because I'm the eldest sibling and my dad pressured me to be the first one in the family to go to uni. I also wanted to set an example for my siblings. When I was there, I was deeply unhappy. I missed my family, I missed my boyfriend. But more importantly I HATED the course. I've always been so interested in Film Production. My Dad encouraged me to do a joints course because he said Film is too specialised and I should do English to open more doors. But like I said, I HATED IT. I'm a firm believer of living in the moment and making sure I'm happy. I could die tomorrow. As I sat in my shabby little uni room, away from the people I loved, crying myself to sleep every night, one day I made the impulsive decision to just drive home (3 hours back!). I wasn't willing to get myself into £50k of debt for something I never wanted to do and I just knew I was never going to enjoy. I never have regrets. Till this day I am happy with my decision. I'm working my ass off, saving for a mortgage. I recently got promoted to an assistant restaurant manager at 19! I've started my own little side hustle on Instagram. Most importantly, I'm happy. My point is, university isn't for everyone. I also looked into doing an apprenticeship but nothing interested me. The idea of doing one thing for the rest of my life bores me. So if you're like me and you're academic, but you have NO IDEA what you want to do with your life.. IT IS OKAY. Just start saving. Work your ass off. Hope this helped some of you!xx The quote 'life is what you make it' is actually true. I'm so glad I'm finally into the big wide world and not protected by the education bubble. You really have to put yourself out there and start making a living!
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(Original post by 12HoltE)
So I'm currently 19. I've always performed quite well at school. I went to sixth form, got 3 A-Levels (English Lit&Lang, Media and Sociology). After a long summer, university came around. I got into UOB (Birmingham). Long story short, I never wanted to go in the first place. I only went because I'm the eldest sibling and my dad pressured me to be the first one in the family to go to uni. I also wanted to set an example for my siblings. When I was there, I was deeply unhappy. I missed my family, I missed my boyfriend. But more importantly I HATED the course. I've always been so interested in Film Production. My Dad encouraged me to do a joints course because he said Film is too specialised and I should do English to open more doors. But like I said, I HATED IT. I'm a firm believer of living in the moment and making sure I'm happy. I could die tomorrow. As I sat in my shabby little uni room, away from the people I loved, crying myself to sleep every night, one day I made the impulsive decision to just drive home (3 hours back!). I wasn't willing to get myself into £50k of debt for something I never wanted to do and I just knew I was never going to enjoy. I never have regrets. Till this day I am happy with my decision. I'm working my ass off, saving for a mortgage. I recently got promoted to an assistant restaurant manager at 19! I've started my own little side hustle on Instagram. Most importantly, I'm happy. My point is, university isn't for everyone. I also looked into doing an apprenticeship but nothing interested me. The idea of doing one thing for the rest of my life bores me. So if you're like me and you're academic, but you have NO IDEA what you want to do with your life.. IT IS OKAY. Just start saving. Work your ass off. Hope this helped some of you!xx The quote 'life is what you make it' is actually true. I'm so glad I'm finally into the big wide world and not protected by the education bubble. You really have to put yourself out there and start making a living!
Wow theres no doubt that you have guts. I admire your strong sense of intuition. Of course only you know what you want. I personally went to uni and graduated last year with an English degree and I don't regret it at all but like you said everyone is different. Good on you and good luck for the future!! XD
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Wow theres no doubt that you have guts. I admire your strong sense of intuition. Of course only you know what you want. I personally went to uni and graduated last year with an English degree and I don't regret it at all but like you said everyone is different. Good on you and good luck for the future!! XD
Thankyou!! That's amazing! I admire that you got through to the end (unlike me lool). Some people tell me I gave up to easy, but I know what I want, exactly. Good Luck to you too!! xx
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So I'm currently 19. I've always performed quite well at school. I went to sixth form, got 3 A-Levels (English Lit&Lang, Media and Sociology). After a long summer, university came around. I got into UOB (Birmingham). Long story short, I never wanted to go in the first place. I only went because I'm the eldest sibling and my dad pressured me to be the first one in the family to go to uni. I also wanted to set an example for my siblings. When I was there, I was deeply unhappy. I missed my family, I missed my boyfriend. But more importantly I HATED the course. I've always been so interested in Film Production. My Dad encouraged me to do a joints course because he said Film is too specialised and I should do English to open more doors. But like I said, I HATED IT. I'm a firm believer of living in the moment and making sure I'm happy. I could die tomorrow. As I sat in my shabby little uni room, away from the people I loved, crying myself to sleep every night, one day I made the impulsive decision to just drive home (3 hours back!). I wasn't willing to get myself into £50k of debt for something I never wanted to do and I just knew I was never going to enjoy. I never have regrets. Till this day I am happy with my decision. I'm working my ass off, saving for a mortgage. I recently got promoted to an assistant restaurant manager at 19! I've started my own little side hustle on Instagram. Most importantly, I'm happy. My point is, university isn't for everyone. I also looked into doing an apprenticeship but nothing interested me. The idea of doing one thing for the rest of my life bores me. So if you're like me and you're academic, but you have NO IDEA what you want to do with your life.. IT IS OKAY. Just start saving. Work your ass off. Hope this helped some of you!xx The quote 'life is what you make it' is actually true. I'm so glad I'm finally into the big wide world and not protected by the education bubble. You really have to put yourself out there and start making a living!
I have to say this is quite the story, and i can relate being the oldest one in my family and setting an example to your younger siblings. It is a difficult burden to carry because you want them to look up to you but sacrificing your own happiness for that like you said is not worth it. It is really courageous of you to do that but reading your post it absolutely sounds like you made the right decision and it seems you are happy with it!

Most people would have just stayed un happy for the sake of keeping their parents happy and what not, but i really do admire you taking your own personal interests and well being into consideration and just doing what you want and i really hope it works out for you!

I never really favoured the prospect of going to university and i thought going down the apprenticeship route would be much better and i do not regret that decision and have recently got a offer from Accenture, who are a major brand in the IT industry so i could not be happier. If you are still looking for apprenticeships i would highly recommend them because of the endless benefits they have (even if i am a little bias )

I wish you all the best for you hopefully you can retain a long and prosperous career,

Many thanks.
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So I'm currently 19. I've always performed quite well at school. I went to sixth form, got 3 A-Levels (English Lit&Lang, Media and Sociology). After a long summer, university came around. I got into UOB (Birmingham). Long story short, I never wanted to go in the first place. I only went because I'm the eldest sibling and my dad pressured me to be the first one in the family to go to uni. I also wanted to set an example for my siblings. When I was there, I was deeply unhappy. I missed my family, I missed my boyfriend. But more importantly I HATED the course. I've always been so interested in Film Production. My Dad encouraged me to do a joints course because he said Film is too specialised and I should do English to open more doors. But like I said, I HATED IT. I'm a firm believer of living in the moment and making sure I'm happy. I could die tomorrow. As I sat in my shabby little uni room, away from the people I loved, crying myself to sleep every night, one day I made the impulsive decision to just drive home (3 hours back!). I wasn't willing to get myself into £50k of debt for something I never wanted to do and I just knew I was never going to enjoy. I never have regrets. Till this day I am happy with my decision. I'm working my ass off, saving for a mortgage. I recently got promoted to an assistant restaurant manager at 19! I've started my own little side hustle on Instagram. Most importantly, I'm happy. My point is, university isn't for everyone. I also looked into doing an apprenticeship but nothing interested me. The idea of doing one thing for the rest of my life bores me. So if you're like me and you're academic, but you have NO IDEA what you want to do with your life.. IT IS OKAY. Just start saving. Work your ass off. Hope this helped some of you!xx The quote 'life is what you make it' is actually true. I'm so glad I'm finally into the big wide world and not protected by the education bubble. You really have to put yourself out there and start making a living!
Thank you for being so honest.....and good luck!
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Good on you.

I went at 18, hated it (and education more broadly) left after a month, and didn't think about it again until 6 years later

the narrative that everyone must go from school/college to university has to change, it's just not true.
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