Scared to orgasm?.. Feeling deflated

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AutumnRose96
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I’ve thought about posting this many times but I’ve never had the right words, I’ve scanned the internet for people with the same problem as me but these posts have been up to a decade old and never had any updates.

I’m 23 and have been sexually active for 9 years, I’ve been in trusting relationships and have had other sexual relations, I’m not new to sex.

My problem is I’ve never had an orgasm. I don’t think I physically can’t have one, I think I am scared.

I have found this bit hard to explain, I’ve tried sex, oral, and many many different sex toys.

Things will feel not amazing but ok at first and at some point (what I suspect to be a ‘build up’) everything all of a sudden gets horribly sensitive and it just feels like the worst feeling in the world and I just have to stop. I can’t seem to get over this, I don’t know how long this horrible intense feeling has to go on for and the whole situation has frustrated me over the years but recently it has been really upsetting me.

I’ve tried other forms of masturbation, toys and fingers etc and it’s just not working.

Can anyone offer any advice/help? I’m really embarrassed about this but just don’t know what to do anymore. If this is a build up how long do these usually last and how can I get my body to accept it’s supposed to be nice and not a horrible feeling?

Thank you x
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(Original post by AutumnRose96)
I’ve thought about posting this many times but I’ve never had the right words, I’ve scanned the internet for people with the same problem as me but these posts have been up to a decade old and never had any updates.

I’m 23 and have been sexually active for 9 years, I’ve been in trusting relationships and have had other sexual relations, I’m not new to sex.

My problem is I’ve never had an orgasm. I don’t think I physically can’t have one, I think I am scared.

I have found this bit hard to explain, I’ve tried sex, oral, and many many different sex toys.

Things will feel not amazing but ok at first and at some point (what I suspect to be a ‘build up’) everything all of a sudden gets horribly sensitive and it just feels like the worst feeling in the world and I just have to stop. I can’t seem to get over this, I don’t know how long this horrible intense feeling has to go on for and the whole situation has frustrated me over the years but recently it has been really upsetting me.

I’ve tried other forms of masturbation, toys and fingers etc and it’s just not working.

Can anyone offer any advice/help? I’m really embarrassed about this but just don’t know what to do anymore. If this is a build up how long do these usually last and how can I get my body to accept it’s supposed to be nice and not a horrible feeling?

Thank you x
Its really an issue that you have to discuss... The most important is to feel good with yourself psycologically doesnt matter if you are so many years active.. Just free your mind and the rest will come
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