Boyfriend is active on Instagram but ignoring me for days?

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Okay- so he usually replies to my messages within an hour, no more than two and a half on a bad day. Two days ago, we went out together for a bit, and we started texting when we both got home after that. Everything was normal, pleasant conversation, his replies were quick and he said a couple of sweet things amidst it. Then maybe a few hours later, he just read my message and ignored it. I'm not a clingy girlfriend type so I really didn't think much of it. But a few hours later he was still dead- which is very out of character for him. So I just asked him- you know, is something up? And he said not at all, why? So I just accepted it. Next morning I sent him a quick text that was something like,, Can't really talk much today because I have a lot of coursework but love you, have a nice day. And he just read and ignored it? Thing is- I wouldn't consider him a ****boy type at ALL. He's really clever,a bit of a nerd if I'm honest and he's very understanding towards me which makes this all weirder. He's not even busy because I can see him frequently texting on a group chat we're both on. He even turned off his activity status which is proper weird. I texted him yesterday saying look, something's up. Why are you ignoring me? But he hasn't even opened it. There was nothing gradual about how he started to act, it all happened completely instantly. It's been over 2 days now. What should I do?!
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jeez. perhaps he really does have coursework? some people can't really help themselves to give insta and stuff a quick scroll, but I guess perhaps he feels like if he starts a convo he'll get too distracted? idk. it's worth asking him tho if u think something's up
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jeez. perhaps he really does have coursework? some people can't really help themselves to give insta and stuff a quick scroll, but I guess perhaps he feels like if he starts a convo he'll get too distracted? idk. it's worth asking him tho if u think something's up
Thanks I appreciate the reply I asked him yesterday afternoon if something was up and he hasn't even opened it. Seems to have time to argue about Belgians in the Congo at 1am on the group chat though...
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Thanks I appreciate the reply I asked him yesterday afternoon if something was up and he hasn't even opened it. Seems to have time to argue about Belgians in the Congo at 1am on the group chat though...
wuuut? well. I guess the only thing u can do now is wait till he responds :console:
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wuuut? well. I guess the only thing u can do now is wait till he responds :console:
Yeah...
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Casually mention in the group chat if he's seen your message next time he's active?

Like 'hey baby I don't know if my texts are going through, are you getting them?''
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Casually mention in the group chat if he's seen your message next time he's active?

Like 'hey baby I don't know if my texts are going through, are you getting them?''
It is never a good idea to make your relationship problems public like this.

Have you tried calling him?
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Mediocre behavior to repeatedly ignore someone's messages.

If he needs space, or is trying to focus on something and just getting easily distracted, he could say so.
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Being busy is not an excuse to not message you and just say it so that you don’t have to worry. He’s old enough to know better. If he’s not able to talk that day it literally takes 10 seconds to write “I’ll be very busy today”.
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Okay- so he usually replies to my messages within an hour, no more than two and a half on a bad day. Two days ago, we went out together for a bit, and we started texting when we both got home after that. Everything was normal, pleasant conversation, his replies were quick and he said a couple of sweet things amidst it. Then maybe a few hours later, he just read my message and ignored it. I'm not a clingy girlfriend type so I really didn't think much of it. But a few hours later he was still dead- which is very out of character for him. So I just asked him- you know, is something up? And he said not at all, why? So I just accepted it. Next morning I sent him a quick text that was something like,, Can't really talk much today because I have a lot of coursework but love you, have a nice day. And he just read and ignored it? Thing is- I wouldn't consider him a ****boy type at ALL. He's really clever,a bit of a nerd if I'm honest and he's very understanding towards me which makes this all weirder. He's not even busy because I can see him frequently texting on a group chat we're both on. He even turned off his activity status which is proper weird. I texted him yesterday saying look, something's up. Why are you ignoring me? But he hasn't even opened it. There was nothing gradual about how he started to act, it all happened completely instantly. It's been over 2 days now. What should I do?!
Update,, he dumped me. He said the reason he didn't reply was because he felt guilty. But apparently none of it's my fault and he doesn't feel 'ready' for a relationship. I am honestly heartbroken
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Update,, he dumped me. He said the reason he didn't reply was because he felt guilty. But apparently none of it's my fault and he doesn't feel 'ready' for a relationship. I am honestly heartbroken
Unlucky m8, plenty fish in the sea
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Unlucky m8, plenty fish in the sea
I disagree I really thought he was the one
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Update,, he dumped me. He said the reason he didn't reply was because he felt guilty. But apparently none of it's my fault and he doesn't feel 'ready' for a relationship. I am honestly heartbroken
Yes. Cowardly of him. He should have met yiu face to face to tell you! Better of without him.
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Yes. Cowardly of him. He should have met yiu face to face to tell you! Better of without him.
I mean... I don't know Everything about him is perfect and I thought he was the one.
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I mean... I don't know Everything about him is perfect and I thought he was the one.
He is definitely not the one! And he is definitely not perfect. He should grow a pair! He ignored you for 2 days- a coward. And if a guy does not love you dont ever try to force him- you will get used and disrespected repeatedly!
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He is definitely not the one! And he is definitely not perfect. He should grow a pair! He ignored you for 2 days- a coward. And if a guy does not love you dont ever try to force him- you will get used and disrespected repeatedly!
But that's where it gets a bit off, because he said he did love me- and he didn't reply straight away out of guilt
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But that's where it gets a bit off, because he said he did love me- and he didn't reply straight away out of guilt
Guilt? lack of guts i would say! How long were you together? I would say actions speak louder than words for guys!
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hey, im so sorry about the breakup, what a buttwipe tbh :/ feel better soon girl, u deserve it💛 also, dw about him being “the one”- there are many more of those out there. give it some time, you’ll see
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ok
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Guilt? lack of guts i would say! How long were you together? I would say actions speak louder than words for guys!
A few months... not a massive amount of time but not that long either... but we have known eachother for quite a while before that
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