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Hi, I've just completed my first year of medicine and will be soon entering my second. I tried incredibly hard (more so than at any other point in my life) to make friends on my course. I would sit and talk to strangers in lectures and all of my classmates in hopes of making a friend but it was futile. I struggled with anxiety and depression during my first semester which didn't help, but I still tried the best I could. Many people suggest joining societies but none of the societies interest me at my university and the sports ones are really not my thing.

My friendship group at university was exclusively within my flat and I will be living with a group of first year flatmates for the next 2 years. My worries are that when they graduate I'll be left entering 4th year without any friends which is a thought that's starting to bug me. It feels as though everyone on the course has formed friendship groups and cliques and I'm on the sidelines. I would appreciate any advice on what I could do to make friends on my course.

TLDR; medic who hasn't made any course friends panicking about being alone when non-medic friends graduate and leave.
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Hi, I've just completed my first year of medicine and will be soon entering my second. I tried incredibly hard (more so than at any other point in my life) to make friends on my course. I would sit and talk to strangers in lectures and all of my classmates in hopes of making a friend but it was futile. I struggled with anxiety and depression during my first semester which didn't help, but I still tried the best I could. Many people suggest joining societies but none of the societies interest me at my university and the sports ones are really not my thing.

My friendship group at university was exclusively within my flat and I will be living with a group of first year flatmates for the next 2 years. My worries are that when they graduate I'll be left entering 4th year without any friends which is a thought that's starting to bug me. It feels as though everyone on the course has formed friendship groups and cliques and I'm on the sidelines. I would appreciate any advice on what I could do to make friends on my course.

TLDR; medic who hasn't made any course friends panicking about being alone when non-medic friends graduate and leave.
I and my current medic flatmate were in the same situation. Both of us tried hard to make friends on the course. I was similar to you in the sense societies did not really appeal to me and I ended up living with random people in second year as my first year flatmates split and two moved to another uni.

My advise is just keep trying and speak to medics in years above and the years below. Eventually, when I was in 3rd year (currently intercalating 5th year) I made a whole bunch of friends from my year (300 people) that I had never spoken to before and some friends from the year above. During the 2 years I just studied, worked and if I had time took up new hobbies.
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Maybe you come over as trying to hard to make friends? Work on learning to interact with others, because from what you've said you'll end up on the same situation on future, after graduation when you start working.

Keep talking to people, but make it relatable. Work on expanding your social circle. If you can't find a society that interests you, start a new one? And don't limit your activities to campus. See what you can find online or in the local area in the way of hobbies or volunteering.
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Maybe you come over as trying to hard to make friends? Work on learning to interact with others, because from what you've said you'll end up on the same situation on future, after graduation when you start working.

Keep talking to people, but make it relatable. Work on expanding your social circle. If you can't find a society that interests you, start a new one? And don't limit your activities to campus. See what you can find online or in the local area in the way of hobbies or volunteering.
My version of trying hard is really the same as a normal person's approach, I'm naturally somewhat introverted so it just takes a lot of effort for me as I'm not normally one to start conversations with strangers etc.
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