Is this emotional blackmail/abuse?

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If i am told by parents that 'either get it into your mind that you need to settle down one day or if not you can leave the house, find a place of your own and we will have nothing to do with you'
Is that abuse/ blackmail?
Bearing in mind I have spent years trying to persuade my parents that I want to stay single. But there is this constant pressure to find a man and if i don't find one they will find me one themselves because I 'HAVE' to be in a relationship with a man.

Am I too blame? Is it my fault?
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It’s definitely emotional blackmail, I’m not sure if it counts as emotional abuse though (I could be wrong I’m not an expert haha)

Either way, it is wrong. If they cannot accept that you want to stay single then it’s their loss! They shouldn’t be blackmailing you into having a relationship when you don’t want to!

It’s a very old fashioned way of thinking in that you must be in a relationship with a man. Also they should not just find you a man of their choosing, that’s immoral and wrong.

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation! I hope it gets better! Send me a message if you need anything
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(Original post by babyshark)
It’s definitely emotional blackmail, I’m not sure if it counts as emotional abuse though (I could be wrong I’m not an expert haha)

Either way, it is wrong. If they cannot accept that you want to stay single then it’s their loss! They shouldn’t be blackmailing you into having a relationship when you don’t want to!

It’s a very old fashioned way of thinking in that you must be in a relationship with a man. Also they should not just find you a man of their choosing, that’s immoral and wrong.

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation! I hope it gets better! Send me a message if you need anything
I totally agree!

Thank you so much.
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If i am told by parents that 'either get it into your mind that you need to settle down one day or if not you can leave the house, find a place of your own and we will have nothing to do with you'
Is that abuse/ blackmail?
Bearing in mind I have spent years trying to persuade my parents that I want to stay single. But there is this constant pressure to find a man and if i don't find one they will find me one themselves because I 'HAVE' to be in a relationship with a man.

Am I too blame? Is it my fault?
Emotional blackmail is the process in which an individual makes demands and threats to manipulative another person to get what they want. It is a form of psychological abuse, causing damage to the victims. Their demands are often intended to control a victim's behavior through unhealthy ways.
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I totally agree!

Thank you so much.
No worries! Keep yourself happy and do whatever is best for you! At the end of the day, it’s your life not theirs! don’t blame yourself
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