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So I just found out my boyfriend has a ton of big-boob porn on his computer. About half glamour model stuff (only people I've heard of are Kelly Brook and Lucy Pinder) and half actual porn. But ALL of it is focused on boobs. Like, exclusively. So I guess this what I thought was a great relationship of over a year is probably based on the fact I have big tits. Great. I mean i knew he liked my boobs a little but I didn't realize it was a full-on fetish. How are we supposed to have sex again without me feeling like a pornstar?

I don't think girls who wish they had bigger boobs realize what a hassle it is. Pervy behaviour, idiotic comments from both guys AND girls, guys constantly glancing at your cleavage (every time it happens I feel like I need to put my head down like I'm ashamed). Having to pay £30 for a bra instead of £10. If you're a nice B cup or whatever you can wear whatever light summer dresses you want and no one cares. If I do it I'm "showing off" or being a slut. I'm sorry I'm 30GG and a size 8/10 if I wear a light summer dress the fact I have big boobs is going to be obvious, Im not advertising myself and it definitely doesn't need to be a f**king topic of conversation.

And if he had pictures of Lucy Pinder and all these other people I guess that means he wants to f**k them. But ffs if he wanted to have sex with a girl with big boobs why can't he wait for a bit and just have sex with ME instead of having a w**k? You know, his girlfriend and everything?

I've been wondering whether or not to get a reduction since I was about 17 (I'm 20 now) but why should I have surgery just because the world is **** to me?
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You don't need a breast reduction; you need a new boyfriend. If you genuinely believe this one is only with you because he likes your chest then dump his ass and find someone who likes you for more than just your body.
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ok.
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I'm really sorry to hear this, I always wished I had bigger boobs tbh but I never considered the other viewpoint. I'm sorry you have to feel uncomfortable in your body because of men staring at you as well. You shouldn't get a breast reduction and change yourself just because of the fetishization of big boobs. and your current bf is nasty as well. not surprised tbh with this pornsick generation.
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Are you sure he's with you just because of your breasts? Just because he likes big boobs doesn't mean that's the only reason he's with you.
Do you have a good relationship in general? Do you spend quality time together not just having sex for example?

There's nothing wrong with him masturbating because it's what everyone does and yes he might find those girls attractive but if he's a decent guy he'd never have sex with those people if he had the chance. Of course I don't really know much about your boyfriend so I am just guessing.

Only get a breast reduction if you're in pain or if you actually want to because you should never change any part of yourself even if people do judge.
I'm sure you look beautiful in any type of clothing and no one has any right to judge you as being a sl** just because your boobs might be larger than others. It should not come across as that way.
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Why do I get the feeling these kinds of threads are opened up by some pervert male who likes to talk trash?
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Why do I get the feeling these kinds of threads are opened up by some pervert male who likes to talk trash?
It could be a pervert but I'd hate to ignore a thread in case it was a genuine person who actually needed advise.
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So I just found out my boyfriend has a ton of big-boob porn on his computer. About half glamour model stuff (only people I've heard of are Kelly Brook and Lucy Pinder) and half actual porn: Sample titles: "xhamster.com_7540691_busty_amat eur_filmed_and_f*****d_720p", "xhamster.com_5250104_f*****g_he r_big_t*ts_720p", "Sofia Vergara Bouncing Boobs Compilation" (No I didnt watch any of them). But ALL of it is focused on boobs. Like, exclusively. So I guess this what I thought was a great relationship of over a year is probably based on the fact I have big tits. Great. I mean i knew he liked my boobs a little but I didn't realize it was a full-on fetish. How are we supposed to have sex again without me feeling like a pornstar?

I don't think girls who wish they had bigger boobs realize what a hassle it is. Pervy behaviour, idiotic comments from both guys AND girls, guys constantly glancing at your cleavage (every time it happens I feel like I need to put my head down like I'm ashamed). Having to pay £30 for a bra instead of £10. If you're a nice B cup or whatever you can wear whatever light summer dresses you want and no one cares. If I do it I'm "showing off" or being a slut. I'm sorry I'm 30GG and a size 8/10 if I wear a light summer dress the fact I have big boobs is going to be obvious, Im not advertising myself and it definitely doesn't need to be a f**king topic of conversation.

And if he had pictures of Lucy Pinder and all these other people I guess that means he wants to f**k them. But ffs if he wanted to have sex with a girl with big boobs why can't he wait for a bit and just have sex with ME instead of having a w**k? You know, his girlfriend and everything?

I've been wondering whether or not to get a reduction since I was about 17 (I'm 20 now) but why should I have surgery just because the world is **** to me?
No just deal with the real issue: low self esteem. Let your bf w..k if he wants to. Maybe use different tops that are looser and dont show as much?
He probably has a normal sex drive. why worry?
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(Original post by StarLinyx)
Why do I get the feeling these kinds of threads are opened up by some pervert male who likes to talk trash?
Tbh it's the "sample title" that did it for me lol
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Maybe he loves you and likes big boobs? It doesnt have to be one or the other. Would you rather he DIDNT like them?
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fake troll, no one has a G cup at 17
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fake troll, no one has a G cup at 17
agree mine are big and are a DD
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I'm sure you'll have no shortage of thirst boys on this forum offering to be your personal "holder" of them for you.
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Tbh it's the "sample title" that did it for me lol
I posted those because otherwise I would have just got "wow, your bf watches porn, stop being a prude, wow". **** off.

(Original post by mgi)
Maybe use different tops that are looser and dont show as much?
So I should dress down because of my figure. OK.
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Maybe he loves you and likes big boobs? It doesnt have to be one or the other. Would you rather he DIDNT like them?
I already knew he did but it's just the fetish element of it. It's creepy.
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fake troll, no one has a G cup at 17
I'm not 17 and I did not have a G cup when I was
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"And if he had pictures of Lucy Pinder and all these other people I guess that means he wants to f**k them. But ffs if he wanted to have sex with a girl with big boobs why can't he wait for a bit and just have sex with ME instead of having a w**k? You know, his girlfriend and everything?"

That guess of yours might be right. Or you might be doing him a huge disservice. If he is a man of integrity, if he were offered a night in bed with Lucy Pinder, he'd say "Thanks, but no thanks."
In the same way that if (insert name of your favourite Hollywood heart-throb) were to ask you to stay the night in his hotel suite, you'd turn him down.

For the masturbation: it all depends. If you have a great sex life with him, it doesn't matter how often he masturbates when you're not around. It also doesn't matter what he fantasizes about when he masturbates.
If your sex life isn't good because of excessive masturbation on his part, then let him know in an indirect and diplomatic way about this. Give him a chance to improve. If he doesn't, dump him.

People fantasize about all sorts of things when masturbating. Or even when having sex. It's just the way people are. Fantasies are one thing. What you actually do in real life doesn't have to be the same as what you fantasize about at all.

Size 8/10, 30GG gives you an amazingly glamourous and beautiful body. Congratulations!
Let people look at your cleavage. The eye is naturally drawn to natural beauty like that in the same way that one's eye is drawn to the penis of a head-on full body slow motion shot of an Olympic male sprinter in lycra shorts.

Just because people look at your cleavage, doesn't make you any less of a person under the skin.

It's funny, some women want plastic surgery because people don't look at them admiringly enough.
Some women want plastic surgery because people look at them admiringly too often.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everyone content with what they've naturally got. But I can't. It's human nature for some people to feel dissatisfied even when they have a perfect body. BTW perfection comes in many forms.
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Why is it so wrong if he likes u because of ur boobs? I'm pretty sure u are more than boobs. It feels amazing that a guy wants u so much and finds u so attractive. If it bothers u, then, leave him. Usually guys are physical first and then, they develop a connection. Chances are he loves u too ans ur tits haha. Good luck!
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I posted those because otherwise I would have just got "wow, your bf watches porn, stop being a prude, wow". **** off.


So I should dress down because of my figure. OK.

I already knew he did but it's just the fetish element of it. It's creepy.

I'm not 17 and I did not have a G cup when I was
I did not say you should "dress down". But they are your breasts. Guys will naturally look at breasts. That is a fact. The issue here is that you clearly don't like who you are and what guys look at! Your real issue is low self esteem. And , by the way, a guy can actually love you and your large chest! But the question is, can you do the same?
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That guess of yours might be right. Or you might be doing him a huge disservice. If he is a man of integrity, if he were offered a night in bed with Lucy Pinder, he'd say "Thanks, but no thanks."
In the same way that if (insert name of your favourite Hollywood heart-throb) were to ask you to stay the night in his hotel suite, you'd turn him down
Of course, I mean just like...in theory. I guess it doesn't really make any sense but it still bothers me

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For the masturbation: it all depends. If you have a great sex life with him, it doesn't matter how often he masturbates when you're not around. It also doesn't matter what he fantasizes about when he masturbates.
If your sex life isn't good because of excessive masturbation on his part, then let him know in an indirect and diplomatic way about this. Give him a chance to improve. If he doesn't, dump him.
No it's absolutely fine I don't mind if he does that occasionally (I'm not here all the time after all). And it's not excessive at all, I've never even noticed. It was just the specific nature of what he's doing it to that bothered me as it's been a constant insecurity/hangup to me my whole life

(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
The eye is naturally drawn to natural beauty like that in the same way that one's eye is drawn to the penis of a head-on full body slow motion shot of an Olympic male sprinter in lycra shorts.
lol. but i dont really want to be in lycra shorts the whole time
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Of course, I mean just like...in theory. I guess it doesn't really make any sense but it still bothers me



No it's absolutely fine I don't mind if he does that occasionally (I'm not here all the time after all). And it's not excessive at all, I've never even noticed. It was just the specific nature of what he's doing it to that bothered me as it's been a constant insecurity/hangup to me my whole life



lol. but i dont really want to be in lycra shorts the whole time
"it's been a constant insecurity/hangup to me my whole life". Ah. There you go! Finally, after skating around the issues the real issue emerges! You are unhappy and need to see a counsellor! Too much" trivial" nonsense about your physique has been allowed to take over your life- and you are projecting it on to how you think a guy might naturally react to large breasts!
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