Quite recently I ended up cheating on my girlfriend, we've only been going out together for a short while but we'd been at that coupley-friends for a long long time and my feelings for the girl are immense.
The weird thing is, although I feel guilty to the point of tears and I really do love my girlfriend, I can't help but still feel a little (a lot really) drawn to the girl I cheated on her with. I would still like to see her again, I still talk to her and flirt with her and as guilty as I feel and as much as I dislike myself for doing it, I'm still glad it happened as I did have a bit of an interest (albeit almost completely superficial) in the girl in question. I mean, I really hope she's still interested in me, yet on the other side of the coin my heart breaks a little every time I hear my girlfriends voice...
I don't really know what I'm posting this for, maybe just for to get it off my chest so as to better asses the situation. I guess I've just got a major case of wanting to have my cake and eat it. Has anyone been in a similar situation/?
ps. I know its not a very good thing to do to someone but uh, I'd appreciate it if people could keep the hyperbolic insults at a minimum
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Feeling strange and conflicted watch
- Thread Starter
- 26-08-2008 00:47
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 26-08-2008 00:57
Has anyone been in a similar situation/?
- 26-08-2008 01:05
Do you feel sexually attracted to your girlfriend, or do you just 'love' her rather than anything else?
If so, this could be why you feel so drawn to cheat.
- 26-08-2008 01:16
Its bad but things like that happen.. It all comes down to how much you love your girlfriend *shrugs*
- 26-08-2008 01:20
my thought is that you and your girlfriend are actually just friends, which sucks because you thought it was more than that, and it may be it's like a sisterly thing, I was like this a guy once - realised i didn't want to 'be with him' i just loved him to bits. You need to ask yourself how you really feel about both these girls and make a decision because the longer you#re unsure the longr you could be leading her on. If you've realised you've made a mistake you need to come clean with her - as ell as telling her that you cheated and she'll be angry, but she should forgive you if she's a real friend
- Thread Starter
(Original post by The_Goose)
- 26-08-2008 02:07
my thought is that you and your girlfriend are actually just friends, which sucks because you thought it was more than that, and it may be it's like a sisterly thing,