Not moving out for uni, will I regret it?

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I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
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If you know this is the right choice for you, then that is perfect. You'd be saving money on accommodation and next year you'll be able to really get the best uni living experience as you'll find friends you want to live with.

Of all the people I've spoken to who chose to stay at home in London, they didn't regret it and they didn't miss out on 'tight knit relationships' because most of the time you will not form something like that so quickly.
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Hey,
I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
I’m in a very similar position as you. I just finished a gap year and got a place at Edinburgh uni. I get free train travel and stay only 30 minutes away so I’m staying home. COVID will remove much of the social life on campus and lectures will be online. Accomodation isn’t worth it this year if you relatively live close by
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The only thing you really have to think about is are you going to easily be able to go out with your friends because they will be staying in one area and you another, which could hinder you. Although, living in London, this may not be as much of a problem for you due to areas being very connected to each other by the tube.

But, you also wont get to meet as many people as you would if you were to move out. You would also have your own little space to work and live in, which you wouldn't get if you lived with your parents. And, you would be able to gain independence and life skills.

However, if after the first year you decide that living at home was a mistake, then you could always move out for your second and third. You could even do the opposite and move out for the first year and decide to move back in for your second and third.

Hope this helps. I'm moving away so I don't really have a choice, but these are just some things to think about. In the end you have to make your own decision and trust your gut and do what you want to do. I would personally be torn because I'd want to save money so I could go on holiday, but I'd also have a bad case of FOMO.
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Hey,
I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
I think you've made a perfect choice. I would much rather spend money on travel and new experiences than university accommodation, you'll feel more at home and always have somewhere to come back to. I would much rather stay at home if I could. And especially as accommodation prices in London are skyrocketed, I think staying at home is perfect.
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Hey,
I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
Hey hattiemabes!

I think that as long as you are happy with the travel time each day and you know you will be able to study at home - ie its quiet and free from distractions then I would say its alright!
London has night buses and night tubes if you ever wanted to go on a night out with friends (if the clubs reopen), or you could always stay with one of them if you go out. So I wouldn't move to accommodation just for this benefit alone.

Also with covid the majority of learning will probably be online in September until January, so you wouldn't be going into uni as much in the first tern anyway.

I would suggest joining a society if you can, as this will introduce you to more people that you otherwise may not have met, and it will give you a wider group of friends - which you won't have made from living in accommodation

Just remember that if you do decide to live in uni accommodation that you will get more student loan - so that could potentially cover your rent (depending on parents income). So maybe don't rule it out completely!

I hope this helps!
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I commute to uni and honestly i love it, i get my space away from uni, i come back to my own comfy bed, my pets, no mess from flatmates, no arguments about someone stealing my food, i save money by commuting, its not for everyone but the thought of halls is hell for me
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Hey,
I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
I go to Edinburgh uni and live at home. I haven’t found it to hinder my uni experience, like I still go out with my friends and have been enjoying uni life. I’ve also saved a lot of money.
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I lived at home when I went to uni in London, as did a few others who also lived in London. I don't think any of us regretted it. I still managed to become super independent, I still made great friendships and had a social life. But I didn't have to live day in, day out with other people, put up with their mess, putting up with anyone who I wasn't particularly keen on, yada yada. I tried that later on, living in a house share with my good friend and her 3 uni mates (who were in their 3rd year). I moved out 3 weeks later.
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I live in London and went to a London uni, and what I did was stay in student accommodation for the first year and then move back in with my family for second and third year. This worked out great for me but everyone's different.

In my case like 98% of my fun memories of uni are from my days living in student accommodation and I didn't make a tonne of friends but the few that I did make there I'm so grateful for and I know I would've been very isolated and lonely if I'd never met them, and my uni experience would've been really not great at all. Even to this day there are moments when I'd give anything to go back to first year. I was lucky in that my room was huge and I made my closest friends there really quickly. And honestly being completely free and away from your family even for just a year is a really valuable thing, and I knew my family were only one short tube ride away anyway. Also living in halls makes night outs SO much easier if you're into that stuff, believe me!

I'd say really take a minute to think it over. There are also plenty of good reasons to stay home and you'll save a tonne of money. Plus, not every experience is like mine, it's a risk for sure, but it's good you've come on here to get some more opinions! Good luck with your decision!
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I live in London and went to a London uni, and what I did was stay in student accommodation for the first year and then move back in with my family for second and third year. This worked out great for me but everyone's different.

In my case like 98% of my fun memories of uni are from my days living in student accommodation and I didn't make a tonne of friends but the few that I did make there I'm so grateful for and I know I would've been very isolated and lonely if I'd never met them, and my uni experience would've been really not great at all. Even to this day there are moments when I'd give anything to go back to first year. I was lucky in that my room was huge and I made my closest friends there really quickly. And honestly being completely free and away from your family even for just a year is a really valuable thing, and I knew my family were only one short tube ride away anyway. Also living in halls makes night outs SO much easier if you're into that stuff, believe me!

I'd say really take a minute to think it over. There are also plenty of good reasons to stay home and you'll save a tonne of money. Plus, not every experience is like mine, it's a risk for sure, but it's good you've come on here to get some more opinions! Good luck with your decision!
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I did the same, and was happy with it. Especially if you don't need to go in every day, and you can read on the tube if you wish to.
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i think it depends. i would regret it if i went to a uni near me just because it's not in the mix of the uni, it's not like your around friends all the time etc. :yep:
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Hey,
I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
Most people that live in London stay home while going to uni. It makes sense financially, plus you won't be missing out anything as the tube network allows you to travel with friends easily. The only thing you will be missing is the uni life in accomodation but most of them are international students or people out of London.
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I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
depends how long you have to travel and how intensive your degree would be to be honest. Id say as a general rule if thumb, if your comfortable studying at home, stay at home as it would offer way more benefits than renting out. truth is that 1st year in student accomodation can be ok for meeting people but you tend not to see most of them after your 1st year as peopel tend to move to different accomodations.
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I'll add my voice to those who stayed at home and didn't regret it.

I think it really boils down to how and when you like to socialise. You seem to have thought it though pretty carefully, so I would not feel pressured into moving out just because some people loved living in halls or whatever.
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I wish I stayed home first year... Wasted so much money on halls and hated it so much.
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I'm due to start my first year at uni in September. I'm from London will be staying in London for uni and getting the tube in everyday. Most members of my family and friends seem to think I will regret this, however, I don't particularly feel like I will be missing out on anything. I've already been on a gap year (working and travelling) and being used to having a bit of money now I don't really want to spend it all on accommodation next year and would much rather spend the holidays travelling which I'd be able to afford if I stayed at home. I know I should follow my heart etc etc but when everyone around me is saying I'll regret it I can't help but think they may be right. So essentially what I would like to know is those that have stayed at home for uni: do you regret it and what are the pros and cons? TIA
I think that it all comes down to personal opinion. I know people who live in Birmingham but still went to Birmingham uni and lived in halls and they loved it. People like to live in halls because they felt like they got the proper student experience and they managed to become independent. I also have a friend who's at BCU who lives in Birmingham but lived at home. She wishes that she moved away from home but she couldn't due to personal circumstances. She has to get a bus for half an hour everyday and she can't just walk back to her flat and she has to leave early for that 9am lecture. However, it all comes down to what you want and it could be a way of just leaving everything at uni there and going home to give you a break
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I think that it really comes down to what you think is best for you. I also attended uni in London and stayed at home so that I could commute daily. I didn't find it that bad, I didn't have to worry about meals, laundry, housemates, bills, maintenance... That gave me a lot more time to focus on my course and socialising. I do think that if you plan to commute then you should look into alternative routes in the event of tube delays/ construction/ strikes. Also, I think that you'll still be able to become independent even if you live at home because you'll still be responsible for managing your own expenses/finances. Plus the extra money can be used for travel where you'll also be able to become independent because you have to handle your transport/accommodation/meals/insurance...

If you really want to stay at home and your parents don't mind then by all means do it. After the first year, if you want to get that 'real uni experience' then you can stay in halls for a year or study/work abroad.
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You have to do what is best for you really. You could always stay at home for first year and, if you wanted to experience living away from home, you could move in with friends from your course/whatever friends you make for 2nd or 3rd year I couldn't commute for undergrad as it was quite far and in first year I really hated this because my housemates were crazy (none of us were given on campus accommodation and so found each other on Facebook and lived together for the first year) but yeah, nightmare. For second and third year I lived with friends and loved it and wouldn't have changed it for anything. For MA, I commuted because it was three hours twice a week from 5pm-8pm and while it was quite a long day (found I couldn't do anything else that day) I enjoyed that too. Personally, if you live in London and are going to uni in London-it's a waste of money to spend it on accommodation!
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