In his house, his father has outlawed making mistakes, so when a mistake does happen he just bullies them. This happened right in front of me because I was there too, and I was just embarrassed and wanted to say something but didn't (too surprised).
My friend is 24, so what's the next step for him? I would go to the police, or at least hit the dad back, but I fear my friend will do nothing.
Urgh. I hate fathers like him because my father was like that before I could defend myself. Don't take **** like that, tell your friend this.
Ask him why he lets him do it. Don't interfere, though it would be hard not to, but rather support. I'm not surprised you're offended, but if he does it in front of you, perhaps the father doesn't see anything wrong with his actions. Can his son not talk to him at all? Though I know how hard that can be. Jeez we all make mistakes so it's stupid to scold/hit someone for dropping biscuits.
edit: And why can't he move out?
Get them to talk it over. Tell your friend to hit his dad is he makes a mistake, as those are the 'rules' and see how he feels. Easy.
What do you mean by "hit"?
ummm that sounds kinda serious....is there another adult in the house that he could talk to? he might be used to his dad taking anger out on him so he might find it normal... he could maybe talk to a counseller.
If my friend fights back or argues verbally, he will be thrown out. Their household is very old fashioned, with the man of the house allowed to play God with everyone else's lives.
IMO his dad sees him as a threat to his alpha male status within his own household, so deliberately tries to stifle him. But it's still unacceptable.
does he have a job? if so can he not save for his own place
are his parents religious by any chance?
1: He should stand up to him
2: Going to the police is a tad bit drastic
3: He should move out and rent somewhere
so what happens when the father makes mistakes? i feel bad for your friend...the only thing i can think of is for him to fight back, but even then, i'd worry that such a man would do something drastic...does your friend not have family that can sort of stage an intervention, or just generally talk to him and make him understand?
Is this actually serious? I can't believe for one moment that anybody aged 24 would actually tolerate living at home with a violent parent. In reality, they would have moved out by now.
If he dropped my HobNobs I'd burn the ****er's arse on the stove!
Seriously though, just move out; If you either threaten to go to, or go to the police, he'll probably have to move out anyways.
I thought I posted in here twice. Nevermind.