Is it ‘illegal’ to save a girls nude without their permission?

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I was seeing this guy for about a year and we had sex on the regular. All was fine until he started taking pictures of me nude and I caught him a couple of times recording us having sex. At the time I told him that was weird and I didn’t like it so I thought he stopped.

Due to distance because if COVID we have been chatting and sending pictures. I sent a nude and he saved it to his camera roll without asking. I told him to delete it and I don’t feel comfortable with him having it on his phone for ever (same talk about the nude pictures in person). He then went on to say it’s safe and no one would see it. I just agreed because I was too tired to argue.

We have now fallen out and I constantly keep thinking what he’s going to do with those photos. Is there some sort of law around this or am I just being silly? I feel really uncomfortable and exposed (even more now compared to before)
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I was seeing this guy for about a year and we had sex on the regular. All was fine until he started taking pictures of me nude and I caught him a couple of times recording us having sex. At the time I told him that was weird and I didn’t like it so I thought he stopped.

Due to distance because if COVID we have been chatting and sending pictures. I sent a nude and he saved it to his camera roll without asking. I told him to delete it and I don’t feel comfortable with him having it on his phone for ever (same talk about the nude pictures in person). He then went on to say it’s safe and no one would see it. I just agreed because I was too tired to argue.

We have now fallen out and I constantly keep thinking what he’s going to do with those photos. Is there some sort of law around this or am I just being silly? I feel really uncomfortable and exposed (even more now compared to before)
Obviously it is illegal, but as long as nobody finds out, there won't be a problem, depending on her age.
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Were you over 18 when you sent the photo?
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On the first point, it's absolutely illegal to photograph someone nude without their consent.

On the second point - I don't know what the law is if you sent the photo and he saved it - as you did send it in the first place (not saying that's excuses his behaviour obviously).

If you find out he's shared any of the images, even just with his friends, that's also illegal and he can go to prison for it.
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I was 20, he’s 20. I was happy to send the nude but was not happy with him saving it!
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it's illegal to take your photo and record you having sex without your consent. it's illegal to share your photos with other people or upload them to a website without your consent, or threaten to do so. it's not illegal for your partner to save them to their camera roll if you willingly sent the photo and you're over 18.

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/scotland/law-and-courts/society-s/privacy-and-media-s/if-your-intimate-photos-or-videos-are-shared-without-your-consent/#:~:text=It's%20not%20a%20crime% 20to,so%20called%20'revenge%20po rn'.

www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-safety/online-mobile-safety/sexting/
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Recording you having sex, and taking photos of you without your consent is illegal. Saving the photos that you sent him though, is not illegal.
It is gross to me however that you asked him to delete the photo, and he didnt. Any good guy that is worth being in a relationship with would delete it for you.
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I was 20, he’s 20. I was happy to send the nude but was not happy with him saving it!
It’s illegal for him to record you or take photos without your consent.

Honestly if someone can’t respect your boundaries why are you with them in the first place?
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Is there anything I can do to help with the anxiety right now?? My head is going crazy and I’m overthinking everything. We recently broke up and I have zero contact with him.
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Set ur boundaries, life is too short to skirt around or bend over for someone.
He doesn't need it saved and shouldn't put up any fuss if you don't want it saved. Don't let him manipulate you girl.

If he's taken pictures without your consent and has tried to coax you into letting him save it, I don't doubt he would tell you he's deleted them but will actually have them saved. If you can, check.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I was seeing this guy for about a year and we had sex on the regular. All was fine until he started taking pictures of me nude and I caught him a couple of times recording us having sex. At the time I told him that was weird and I didn’t like it so I thought he stopped.

Due to distance because if COVID we have been chatting and sending pictures. I sent a nude and he saved it to his camera roll without asking. I told him to delete it and I don’t feel comfortable with him having it on his phone for ever (same talk about the nude pictures in person). He then went on to say it’s safe and no one would see it. I just agreed because I was too tired to argue.

We have now fallen out and I constantly keep thinking what he’s going to do with those photos. Is there some sort of law around this or am I just being silly? I feel really uncomfortable and exposed (even more now compared to before)
Why do you send nudes? You know what can happen if you fall out?
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Is there anything I can do to help with the anxiety right now?? My head is going crazy and I’m overthinking everything. We recently broke up and I have zero contact with him.
is your face on the pic?
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Why do you send nudes? You know what can happen if you fall out?
This ^^
I am astonished that so many young women are this naive still. Digital photos are forever, and can ALWAYS be retrieved with the right software.

Learn from this.
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Is there anything I can do to help with the anxiety right now?? My head is going crazy and I’m overthinking everything. We recently broke up and I have zero contact with him.
Did the relationship end in bad terms? If not then there must be ways for you to contact your ex just to clarify and put your mind at ease.
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To everyone saying I’m young and I made a mistake yes you are right and I will learn from this but with the taking photos in person I had no choice, he was much bigger than me and it wasn’t like I could ‘take him down’. With the nudes sent by me, it was one topless picture. My face was in it yes. We ended on bad terms (not agreeing with splitting up) and therefore he said some nasty things and went ahead and blocked me on all social media’s and blocked my number so I am unable to contact him (not that I would in the first place).
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I was 20, he’s 20. I was happy to send the nude but was not happy with him saving it!
I believe the legal standpoint here is since you sent it to him there isn't any law banning him from possessing it. You having willingly provided it to him after all.
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To everyone saying I’m young and I made a mistake yes you are right and I will learn from this but with the taking photos in person I had no choice, he was much bigger than me and it wasn’t like I could ‘take him down’. With the nudes sent by me, it was one topless picture. My face was in it yes. We ended on bad terms (not agreeing with splitting up) and therefore he said some nasty things and went ahead and blocked me on all social media’s and blocked my number so I am unable to contact him (not that I would in the first place).
You need to contact the police, because the way you worded this makes it sound abusive.

However, please make absolutely sure that this version of events is correct (only you know - we weren't there after all) and it's not just a reaction to you being scared about what might happen to the photo.
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No. Why would it be? On some apps any photos you get sent are automatically downloaded to your phone. What is illegal are the videos ge made and photos he took without your contemporary knowledge or consent.
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(Original post by Nautilus)
This ^^
I am astonished that so many young women are this naive still. Digital photos are forever, and can ALWAYS be retrieved with the right software.

Learn from this.
So true.
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I told him to delete it and I don’t feel comfortable with him having it on his phone for ever ... He then went on to say it’s safe and no one would see it.
This is such a red flag its unbelievable.

As above, if you are on reasonable terms I would again ask him to delete the images. If he refuses I am not sure there is anything further that can be done legally, although it may be worth contacting the police in any case.

A friends daughter was in a similar scenario and the police paid the chap a visit. It was strongly suggested that it would be better for all involved if he deleted the images, and he complied. However I believe that's up to whether the police want to get involved, and the other party agrees with the request though.
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