Whats your views on one way friendships?
Sometimes I want to talk to people by texts or whatever, but I cannot bring myself to do it because I kinda know they don't want to talk to me.
If I did text them then it feels like I'm just a gimp, like there's no point to what I'm doing.
They aren't worth it then.
Or maybe they don't talk to you coz you don't talk to them so therefore think that you don't really like them :P
well if they don't want to know you then it's not worth the hastle of being, or trying to be, their friend.
why would you want to talk to such a person?
Maybe they don't talk to you because they think you don't want to talk to them.
They don't talk to me because they think/know I'm a loser/loner.
Which is fair enough I spose, but how can I ever improve myself if this is the reaction I get all the time?
yeah, there are some people in my contact list who I know don't wanna talk to me, so I don't text them or talk to them anymore. The type of people you just smile vaguely at in the corridor? Haha well anyway just forget about those people and move on. SUrely you know other people who are more worthy of your time?
Hold on a minute! Everyone has said that it's the friends' problem, but low self-esteem can make somebody feel as if no one likes them or wants to talk to them. When you have low-self confidence then harmless things can be interpreted in a negative way.
i have quite a few one way friendships. i hate them, but then the friend will text me once (in reply to something i sent a month ago) and i just think 'oh maybe they do care after all'. i'm such a sucker.
If I tried to make an effort with these people in real life, they would make excuses. They have done countless times before, and yet on the odd occasion when they may have invited me out, I make excuses myself because I don't believe they are being genuine.
On one such occasion, I was supposed to meet a 'friend' somewhere, i was going there on my own, and the 'friend' was coming over with a few of his own mates.
I didnt see them for ages, so i texted the 'friend' to see where he was, and he just said he was somewhere else. Surely the fact that I didn't receive a text telling me of the change of plan means that the 'friend' was just taking the piss all the time??
You sound exactly like me. Perhaps you just think it's a one-way friendship, and if so you should try to get over the third-wheel syndrome, as should I. Since you're a quiet, thoughtful, nice, non-obnoxious person (and loud, slightly selfish/rude, obnoxious people are the majority, really) you're probably more liked than you think.