Is dating as an Asian guy hard?

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Your thoughts? As a South Asian male, I feel like it's not impossible but definitely harder than most to do well
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Why do you say that?
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It completely depends on the person, not the race. If you go into it with a inferiority complex then you're going to get worse results.
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Have you gone out with a man of every race? No? Then how would you or anyone else here know that S.A. men are 'harder than most' to have relationships with?
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Have you gone out with a man of every race? No? Then how would you or anyone else here know that S.A. men are 'harder than most' to have relationships with?
No because I'm a male
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(Original post by SuperiorPotato)
Why do you say that?
I guess looking at things it seems like you have a smaller dating pool because of preferences, certain stigmas, etc
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Why would you say "hard"? Are you thinking about the differences in culture and beliefs?
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If it's hard, it's because you're not giving off enough western vibe. Simple as that. If you're from an area where you grew up w a lot of other minorities this is common.

Even if the above isnt applicable it can be hard because most people come from areas which are majority non minority.

When I lived in Liverpool, one if my closest mates had never before seen an Asian (maybe an exaggeration but it can be almost so)
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Not really. I dated a Vietnamese guy but I'm half Malaysian myself so.
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(Original post by Yolz121)
Why would you say "hard"? Are you thinking about the differences in culture and beliefs?
I guess your appearance does factor in a lot more and preconceived notions of culture so you're along the right lines
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Your thoughts? As a South Asian male, I feel like it's not impossible but definitely harder than most to do well
I've been out with Asian girls and it's definitely harder than being with white girls.
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why is it harder than most to do well?
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(Original post by Ki Yung Na)
If it's hard, it's because you're not giving off enough western vibe. Simple as that. If you're from an area where you grew up w a lot of other minorities this is common.

Even if the above isnt applicable it can be hard because most people come from areas which are majority non minority.

When I lived in Liverpool, one if my closest mates had never before seen an Asian (maybe an exaggeration but it can be almost so)
I grew up in an area with a lot of minorities nearby, but myself am pretty western. Privately educated, RP accent (you'd think I was white on the phone) and not really that culturally connected (not out of choice but just happened to turn out like that and didn't see much family growing up).

Yes I agree it's probably harder to fit in where most people stick amongst their own. Even finding friends this sometimes becomes the case too like at uni a lot of British people just stuck with similar others rather than getting to know a wider range of individuals, etc.

Personally I don't seem to connect with other Asians too well or if I do, they seem not to fully include me..
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I've been out with Asian girls and it's definitely harder than being with white girls.
What do you mean?
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asif007 you know what to do aha
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Stop generalizing. Every person is different when dating, and that is not dependent on their race.
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(Original post by LovelyMrFox)
Stop generalizing. Every person is different when dating, and that is not dependent on their race.
I'm not generalising, I said I thought it might be the case but was asking about others' thoughts
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I'm not generalising, I said I thought it might be the case but was asking about others' thoughts
I misread the OP, my bad.
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I grew up in an area with a lot of minorities nearby, but myself am pretty western. Privately educated, RP accent (you'd think I was white on the phone) and not really that culturally connected (not out of choice but just happened to turn out like that and didn't see much family growing up).

Yes I agree it's probably harder to fit in where most people stick amongst their own. Even finding friends this sometimes becomes the case too like at uni a lot of British people just stuck with similar others rather than getting to know a wider range of individuals, etc.

Personally I don't seem to connect with other Asians too well or if I do, they seem not to fully include me..
I grew up in a white area with white friends. Even the first time I went to university and the second time I went I had mostly white friends initially. Truth is. There's always a disconnect bc there are cultural nuances you just don't share , however whitewashed (for lack of a better term) you are.

I used to have an issue with mixing with Asians too. Still kind of do. But if you just go along with the fact that you are western , Asians don't really care. They welcome it

As for dating white people. I've only ever dated one white person and as much as I thought I connected, only afterwards with time did I realise that it's not the same thing as when you connect with someone with the same ideas or themes of background.

You don't have to be the same to be compatible but you see things better from other perspectives. It's kind of like how many of most of not all white people will not truly understand racism

That's my thoughts at least
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Your thoughts? As a South Asian male, I feel like it's not impossible but definitely harder than most to do well
I think systemic racism makes it harder for certain minorities such as asian men and black women to find dates
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