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Hi there, Just a question. I'm at second year of my economics degree at Royal Holloway, and I barely have any friends. I think the problem is only with me and not other people, since I have seen almost everyone in groups and really close while I walk alone. I did make some friends, but they are from different student societies...
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I am, or at least have been for years. I also walked around on my own a lot at uni. I think if you're ok with it then it's fine, but if you do want to make more friends you'll probably need to push yourself outside your comfort zone for a while. Because making friends at school is basically automatic, but at uni you need to be proactive and put in the effort, especially after freshers/first year.
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Yeah, but I feel like I have been wasting my international experience. Feels bad without friends tbh, and it's not that I don't make them. I do, but when they call me anywhere, I just don't feel like going.
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Mostly yes
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I am naturally shy but gotta fake it ‘til you make it
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I am very shy too. sometimes you have to push yourself.
Before 1-2 years ago I would never talk to anyone and read books in my free time. When I stopped doing that I made a lot of friends and realised I had been missing out on a lot.
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I am very shy too. sometimes you have to push yourself.
Before 1-2 years ago I would never talk to anyone and read books in my free time. When I stopped doing that I made a lot of friends and realised I had been missing out on a lot.
How did u start? It's weird to be convo starter these days I swear.
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I am naturally shy but gotta fake it ‘til you make it
did you make it? lol

(Original post by SoulfulTwist)
Mostly yes
feels bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Yup, not the shy kind tho.
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(Original post by Sherjamal123)
did you make it? lol


feels bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
No. I prefer it. Except when I need to attend gatherings/functions etc
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(Original post by Sherjamal123)
How did u start? It's weird to be convo starter these days I swear.
I think just by interacting. I know what you mean. Im still in secondary tho so that might make a difference. Everybody knew me but stopped bothering to talk to me. ppl would come up to me if i was alone reading a book but i wouldnt really respond so they stopped.
it helps to start convos about a common interest
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No. I prefer it. Except when I need to attend gatherings/functions etc
Trust me, I feel you. Since I'm an Asian lol
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Trust me, I feel you. Since I'm an Asian lol
same. and i hate when loads of random old ladies be like ohhh do u remember me? well of course not ive never seen u before unless as a baby. And my parents expects me to interact but i find it so hard to even like greet ppl forget have an entire convo. like im better at school but with strangers no. And if my parents be on the phone to my grandparents or relatives who live in a different country i legit run as far as i can.
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(Original post by Sherjamal123)
Trust me, I feel you. Since I'm an Asian lol
Haha Asian gatherings are just the worst IMO but I mean in general even when it is not an Asian gathering. Not because of anxiety and feeling shy though that is also a bit of an aspect sometimes.
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same. and i hate when loads of random old ladies be like ohhh do u remember me? well of course not ive never seen u before unless as a baby. And my parents expects me to interact but i find it so hard to even like greet ppl forget have an entire convo. like im better at school but with strangers no. And if my parents be on the phone to my grandparents or relatives who live in a different country i legit run as far as i can.
OMGG same, and the weirdest part is when you don't remember them, and u still pretend like you do. Plus, I swear in Asian families, there is no concept of personal space, and I mean that is what I feel like. If you ask your parents give you a little privacy, they get all emotional and make you feel like u have done something wrong.... AND same, not something I'm proud of, but my Aunt lives in London, and I hardly visit them because I don't feel comfortable I swear and my mom forces me to visit them so much. It gets weird and annoying sometimes.
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Haha Asian gatherings are just the worst IMO but I mean in general even when it is not an Asian gathering. Not because of anxiety and feeling shy though that is also a bit of an aspect sometimes.
I mean if you are an Asian, only then you can feel our pain bro. Ngl :/
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I'm an introvert (INTJ) to be exact I used to go out all the time at uni. I was a popular loner. You need to put yourself out there OP societies are a great place to form social circles. I would also recommend mingling with your uni flatmates that helped me a lot.
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(Original post by Sherjamal123)
I mean if you are an Asian, only then you can feel our pain bro. Ngl :/
I am Asian
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meh i just prefer the company of myself
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I'm an introvert (INTJ) to be exact I used to go out all the time at uni. I was a popular loner. You need to put yourself out there OP societies are a great place to form social circles. I would also recommend mingling with your uni flatmates that helped me a lot.
Yeah, I think I need to indulge myself into more societies. Definitely something I would be doing this year, and also I have always lived in a studio, but will go for en suite with shared kitchen since I need to make a lot of friends I swear.
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