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I’m 21 and this guy I’m dating not yet in a relationship with is 29. He lives alone and I live with my parents as I’m studying. He’s everything I’ve wanted and treats me how I’m suppose to be treated. He wants me to stay over some nights and stuff but my mum is kind of strict and doesn’t let me stay over barely let’s me stay over friends houses.
We’ve known eachother 2 years but I didn’t take interest in getting to know him so it’s not like we’ve spoke for 2years. Anyways we both lost people in our lives unfortunately however this brought us together. Meaning we’ve been speaking for about 2months now. He lives about 10 mins away from me driving wise and I’ve stayed at his house twice but my mum wasn’t happy( said I was staying at my friends) first time she was fine with it second time she wasn’t.

I don’t want to push him away and I don’t want him to feel like my mum won’t let me ( so embarrassing ) as he might think it’s because I’m young and won’t really have interest anymore.

What should I do? ( tbh I don’t feel like I should be staying over much we aren’t officially dating so.... I don’t want to give him too much before a relationship anyways )

Can I get some advice please. I don’t know what reason to give to him when he asks.
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tbh I think u should tell him how u feel about not wanting to give such relationships things before an actual relationship because it kinda defeats the purpose. Ur mum is trying to look out for u but u are 21 and old enough to make ur own decisions if need be. Just go with ur heart
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I’m 21 and this guy I’m dating not yet in a relationship with is 29. He lives alone and I live with my parents as I’m studying. He’s everything I’ve wanted and treats me how I’m suppose to be treated. He wants me to stay over some nights and stuff but my mum is kind of strict and doesn’t let me stay over barely let’s me stay over friends houses.
We’ve known eachother 2 years but I didn’t take interest in getting to know him so it’s not like we’ve spoke for 2years. Anyways we both lost people in our lives unfortunately however this brought us together. Meaning we’ve been speaking for about 2months now. He lives about 10 mins away from me driving wise and I’ve stayed at his house twice but my mum wasn’t happy( said I was staying at my friends) first time she was fine with it second time she wasn’t.

I don’t want to push him away and I don’t want him to feel like my mum won’t let me ( so embarrassing ) as he might think it’s because I’m young and won’t really have interest anymore.

What should I do? ( tbh I don’t feel like I should be staying over much we aren’t officially dating so.... I don’t want to give him too much before a relationship anyways )

Can I get some advice please. I don’t know what reason to give to him when he asks.
All mums care about their kids. She worries that staying in her house could cause some problems at least in future like pregnancy .A girl definitly can't stay in a guy's house always without sexual intercourse . Can she ?
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Why does she have so much control over you?
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When you’re a parent, are you going to be perfectly okay with your young daughter “staying over” alone with a guy eight years older than her at his house?
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When you’re a parent, are you going to be perfectly okay with your young daughter “staying over” alone with a guy eight years older than her at his house?
It’s normal to have concerns, but she’s an adult and she shouldn’t have to justify anything.

Is your mum religious OP?
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It’s normal to have concerns, but she’s an adult and she shouldn’t have to justify anything.
I’d agree that’s true once you’re making your own money, moved out of your parents’ house and into your own place etc.

But I’d say parents still have authority over you as long as you’re still dependent on them and they’re still responsible for you.
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It’s normal to have concerns, but she’s an adult and she shouldn’t have to justify anything.

Is your mum religious OP?
Sort of religious and African cultural. She doesn’t know about him.
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She doesn’t know about him.
(Original post by tazarooni89)
I’d agree that’s true once you’re making your own money, moved out of your parents’ house and into your own place etc.

But I’d say parents still have authority over you as long as you’re still dependent on them and they’re still responsible for you.
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When you’re a parent, are you going to be perfectly okay with your young daughter “staying over” alone with a guy eight years older than her at his house?
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All mums care about their kids. She worries that staying in her house could cause some problems at least in future like pregnancy .A girl definitly can't stay in a guy's house always without sexual intercourse . Can she ?
No. However , She doesn’t know about him.
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Just run away from home and be with the person you want to be with.
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tbh I think u should tell him how u feel about not wanting to give such relationships things before an actual relationship because it kinda defeats the purpose. Ur mum is trying to look out for u but u are 21 and old enough to make ur own decisions if need be. Just go with ur heart
But how many times a week should I be staying at his house and sleeping from home. She doesn’t know about him btw.

I feel like I can’t use that excuse because I’ve slept at his house twice already 😩😭. I feel like I’ll push him away if I don’t say anything Cus I have nothing to say instead of just ‘no’ when he asks which is abit rude.
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Just run away from home and be with the person you want to be with.
My 31 year old sister did that. Ended up pregnant and the man ran away from her
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