Is lockdown Ruining my relationship or is it me?

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I know lockdown has been testing for many couples but I feel like my boyfriend has suddenly become very distant. He never wants to do anything and just slumps around the house but then again haven’t we all during lockdown. However the last few days he’s stopped talking to me, I seem to start every conversation and this morning he snapped at me when I asked him what was wrong. Instead I asked him how I could help and if there’s anything I could do to make him happy and he just said no. It’s really taking a turn on my mental health and making me panic that maybe lockdown has ruined my relationship because he’s had to spend more time with me. I’m just wondering if anyone has any suggestions about what I do next because I’m honestly exhausted and so so sad about it all. Please help.
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(Original post by samg09)
I know lockdown has been testing for many couples but I feel like my boyfriend has suddenly become very distant. He never wants to do anything and just slumps around the house but then again haven’t we all during lockdown. However the last few days he’s stopped talking to me, I seem to start every conversation and this morning he snapped at me when I asked him what was wrong. Instead I asked him how I could help and if there’s anything I could do to make him happy and he just said no. It’s really taking a turn on my mental health and making me panic that maybe lockdown has ruined my relationship because he’s had to spend more time with me. I’m just wondering if anyone has any suggestions about what I do next because I’m honestly exhausted and so so sad about it all. Please help.
He is ruining it not lockdown
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It’s just very worrying as he’s never been this withdrawn from me for this long, I’m just stuck on what to do
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Finish it
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(Original post by samg09)
I know lockdown has been testing for many couples but I feel like my boyfriend has suddenly become very distant. He never wants to do anything and just slumps around the house but then again haven’t we all during lockdown. However the last few days he’s stopped talking to me, I seem to start every conversation and this morning he snapped at me when I asked him what was wrong. Instead I asked him how I could help and if there’s anything I could do to make him happy and he just said no. It’s really taking a turn on my mental health and making me panic that maybe lockdown has ruined my relationship because he’s had to spend more time with me. I’m just wondering if anyone has any suggestions about what I do next because I’m honestly exhausted and so so sad about it all. Please help.
Hi, im sorry your going through this, it's a tough situation at the moment and 100% the lockdown has affected a lot of couples! I think it has been a make or break period, but that doesn't mean it's break for you guys.

If possible, organise a day out, even if it's a walk to your local park, or if your happy to organise a day out with friends or family. Just creating a new scene will completely change someone's mindset, he may just be feeling stuck and restless and doesn't know how to say it or deal with it. It isn't your fault at all so please don't let it affect you at all.

If you guys don't want to go out, maybe do something you haven't done together yet, like creative buy some paints and ask him to draw you whilst you draw him or buy some ingredients for cocktails and have a party together.. whichever is fun for you guys and something that takes you out of the same routine!

Finally, take some time out for yourself, go out and grab a coffee and sit on a bench somewhere and do something that you enjoy! I wish you the best and don't let it get to you too much!
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suggest some time apart and see how he responds
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You're not doing anything wrong whatsoever. Him refusing to communciate what his issue is, is the problem. Then you'll go around trying to please him and find out what the problem is when you've done nothing wrong. It's a bit abusive, can't be dealing with those sorts of games. He is a big boy, he can **** ing communciate to his partner who is trying to be accommodating. If I were you, I would try and keep busy with your friends and family until he decides to act like an adult, tell him he needs to communciate.
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(Original post by samg09)
I know lockdown has been testing for many couples but I feel like my boyfriend has suddenly become very distant. He never wants to do anything and just slumps around the house but then again haven’t we all during lockdown. However the last few days he’s stopped talking to me, I seem to start every conversation and this morning he snapped at me when I asked him what was wrong. Instead I asked him how I could help and if there’s anything I could do to make him happy and he just said no. It’s really taking a turn on my mental health and making me panic that maybe lockdown has ruined my relationship because he’s had to spend more time with me. I’m just wondering if anyone has any suggestions about what I do next because I’m honestly exhausted and so so sad about it all. Please help.
Lockdown doesn’t give someone the excuse to act like a ********. Also, we aren’t really even on lockdown anymore (most of the UK) so maybe he should get a grip?
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Well a lot of people have been breaking up in lockdown but I see it as a test to see if they truly like u because if they did they would make it work trust me. It might just feel distant because you’re not seeing each other as much or he could be losing feelings but not certain if he wants to end it causing him to snap at you but he should never do that. I think u should call him or meet up and explain that it’s upsetting u, if he doesn’t reassure u or change to show that he cares and wants u there, honestly drop him sis, throughout lockdown my bf FaceTimes every 2 days or so and when we don’t call he tags me in Tiktok’s that remind him of me which is cute. Don’t settle for less I used to be in a relationship like this and it’s not worth waiting around being unsure, communication is key and he should make effort to make u feel wanted you know.
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