Have your parents ever tried to split you and your new relationship up

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Loveslots1990
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My Mother has very high standards she can't stand my girl friend of three years. She says regularly that she'd love it if the girl and I split up so I could find a better girl friend. Is this common?
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(Original post by Loveslots1990)
My Mother has very high standards she can't stand my girl friend of three years. She says regularly that she'd love it if the girl and I split up so I could find a better girl friend. Is this common?
has she given you a logical reason why she doesn't like her?
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Why doesn't your mother like her?
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Because she dosent work that seems to be the biggest reason both my parents have worked most of their lives, so my mum classes her as lazy. Also my girl friend suffers from a lot of nerves and anxiety so she won't apply for jobs or do things such as driving lessons or shopping on her own. They do get on but don't at the same time!
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(Original post by Loveslots1990)
Because she dosent work that seems to be the biggest reason both my parents have worked most of their lives, so my mum classes her as lazy. Also my girl friend suffers from a lot of nerves and anxiety so she won't apply for jobs or do things such as driving lessons or shopping on her own. They do get on but don't at the same time!
I understand your mothers concern. Your gf needs help in managing her anxiety, and your mother may not be well informed on the toic of anxiety.

Is your gf getting any help to manage her anxiety?

You should quote the users you are repyling to, means they are more likely to see what you have written
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Although currently single, by choice by the way.
In the past my parents have always been supportive, even if they were not totally keen,
I'm very fortunate to have such great parents.
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You parents want what's best for you. They have more experience and are usually right. If you're young and you can't see marriage and longevity on the horizon, listen to your parents. Your parents are more important than any partner.
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I've only had one relationship and my mother and stepfather nevee tried to break us up, but I wish they would've done, as my ex was not someone to write home about.
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(Original post by Loveslots1990)
Because she dosent work that seems to be the biggest reason both my parents have worked most of their lives, so my mum classes her as lazy. Also my girl friend suffers from a lot of nerves and anxiety so she won't apply for jobs or do things such as driving lessons or shopping on her own. They do get on but don't at the same time!
I understand your mum's worries but it doesn't give her the right to openly proclaim she wants you to split up. That's just cruel and unnecessary.

Parents want the best for their kids, that's a given, so I feel her concern comes from the fact that your relatioonship comes across as you doing a lot of things for her. Her anxiety is understandable - is she getting any help for it? I'd imagine your mum is worried about the future - you always having to accompany her to do shopping, always being the driver and always the contributing the majority of the income. She wants you to be in a relationship that's equal. I'm sorry to say it but you can't let anxiety stop you from getting a job, that's just not practical in adult life.
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Well my parents don’t agree with me because I refuse to date my own race but they’ve gave up now but they expect me to date someone intelligent, good job etc. Whereas they don’t care about my older siblings dating life which is kinda strange.
But no my mum didn’t like my brother’s gf because she was a hookup that he got pregnant and she just caused a lot of problems with us. But he stayed with her so we had to accept her so we try the best to get along with her but yeah my parents secretly hate her.
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yes. i'm 13 and i was involved with a 17 year old guy from my school. they split us up unfortunately :/
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no my grandma has tho
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No. My dad wasn't a fan of my first girlfriend but not liking them and actively trying to destroy my relationship with them are two completely different things.
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Judging by OP's username, there's a very high chance they're already, or will soon become, 30 years of age...
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Yes, this is why mother in laws are typically loathed by wives
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(Original post by khadijaaaxxxx)
yes. i'm 13 and i was involved with a 17 year old guy from my school. they split us up unfortunately :/
Think that was for the best tbh
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(Original post by Daveological)
Think that was for the best tbh
yeah i guess, still was sad having to stop talking to him you know
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No.
I never let them find out when I was dating and made sure every bf knew that there was no chance of any contact.

One exes mother did her best to cause trouble; bombarded me with her negativity and took every opportunity to prove to everyone else how much she despised me.
She only managed to make herself look like a spiteful old woman, embarrassed her only son and her relationship with him never recovered.
I'll never date a guy with relatives that he has a close relationship with or any contact with parents/grandparents.
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