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So I have always had a problem with procrastination and wasting time. I can spend hours doing literally nothing. It feels like everytime I try to achieve something I have no motivation to actually achieve anything and I never ever get good at anything even tho I really want to.
What is the best way to change my mindset?
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So I have always had a problem with procrastination and wasting time. I can spend hours doing literally nothing. It feels like everytime I try to achieve something I have no motivation to actually achieve anything and I never ever get good at anything even tho I really want to.
What is the best way to change my mindset?
I’ve been feeling like that for a few months now. What triggered it was that I lost my job in really unfair circumstances and I had trouble coming to terms with it. Anyway, I’d been working flat out for months, so thought the tiredness was just exhaustion at first, but it didn’t go away. I wasn’t watching TV, reading or exercising, just playing computer games all day. I went on holiday alone and stayed in my room playing on the computer. I realised there was a problem, I was down, I’d been applying for loads of jobs but not getting any response, I felt useless and I think playing games just stopped me from dealing with my problems. I bought some serotonin and ginseng supplements, because that was a lazy way of curing myself. I sat outside one day on the beach, reading a book while my room was being cleaned, and felt so much better for it. On another day, I walked along the sand, I felt better for it. Still haven’t got a job, but I realised that just sitting around doing nothing was making me feel worse. The other thing I done was to withdraw from socialising, I became a recluse because I just couldn’t be bothered with people. Luckily or unluckily whatever way you look at it, I had some friends who insisted I go and visit them, and wouldn’t take no for an answer. I had to make the effort to talk to them, when all I wanted to do was sleep. I felt completely exhausted, but it was nice just spending time chatting and drinking wine, it did make me feel better, and we laughed a lot. So, unless there is a medical reason, I think you just have to force yourself to do things, until it becomes a habit. Wouldn’t say I’m back to my old self yet, but I’ve decided to get an apartment near a gym. What I have noticed is after I’ve exercised, I have more energy. I also make a point of listening to happy music because it does energize you. As for motivation, I signed up for courses in things I was interested in but couldn’t be bothered doing the work, I’m tired and can’t concentrate, but maybe starting with a goal, like making yourself each breakfast each morning, then adding to it, something like I’ll take the dog for a walk this afternoon will just get you back to normality, and then just keep adding things. Hope it works out for you, I find life is like a wheel, sometimes your at the top, other times at the bottom, but the wheel is always moving, all states are temporary.
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realise that motivation doesnt exit, its just a temporary emotion
what matters more is dedication
and dedication is a choice, dedication means doing it even though you dont want to, even if it pains you and makes you bored

secondly il give u a statement

if you want to pet the cat, you dont chase it, you let it come to you
so dont chase the goals but put inside your life things which will bring the goals to you
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(Original post by dyelbro)
realise that motivation doesnt exit, its just a temporary emotion
what matters more is dedication
and dedication is a choice, dedication means doing it even though you dont want to, even if it pains you and makes you bored

secondly il give u a statement

if you want to pet the cat, you dont chase it, you let it come to you
so dont chase the goals but put inside your life things which will bring the goals to you
Thank you for the reply. I will try to push myself to do stuff even if it is painful.

I don't get the statement about chasing goals tho.
Are you able to give some examples?
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Thank you for the reply. I will try to push myself to do stuff even if it is painful.

I don't get the statement about chasing goals tho.
Are you able to give some examples?
hmm i knew someone who was addicted to playing video games all day me and him were 19. his first advice was to stop playing and do a hobby. as u can guess. didnt work lol. but what worked for him was i bought him a dog, and i already knew this but he had an old hobby of sculpting. so i applied him for a group sculpting project.
why did it work?

with a dog u must buy him food, you must walk him and you must wash and pet etc etc
and he HAD to do these. so when he woke up he usually thought about opening up and checking the game messages. but isntead he checked the dogs bowl and walked the dog. if he was ingame and his dog barked or squeeled he would pause and go do what the dog wanted
he didnt realise why this worked but il tell you
he was able to suppress his desire for video games for a greater cause which he knew was more important. and he didnt have a choice.

hmm its a weird thing. he was able to stop playing the game and do the task. without a doubt or even thinking about the game

same with the sculpting club. when he got a call to come and do some stuff with them. it was as if he wasnt even addicted he just closed the game got changed and went.
so think about it he has trained himself to not be so focused on it

now u kinda get it. he didnt chase the goal of not being addicted
but he let other things pull him away from the game

u get it?
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Start a schedule. It doesnt have to be super strict, jut something like, "wake up at 8, draw for an hour, read a book for half an hour ( leaves you a bit of free time ), lunch at 12, exercise for an hour, facetime with friends at some point, dinner at 6pm, and off to bed at 10".
Just something to keep your mind stimulated and give you some motivation.
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How old are you?
How long have you been like this?
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There's this book called "The 7 habits of highly effective teens" - I'd defo recommend reading it!!

It has pictures, jokes and it's not a heavy read. It's also very relatable and gives you ideas/tips on how to organise your life (all very realistic btw).


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https://fliphtml5.com/lnym/dbxs/basic

Found this online copy, in case you can't get your hands on a physical one. Read it!!! It'll change your life/perspectives etc

Lool I'm not getting paid to promote this but I really loved this book/guide hence why I'm urging you to give it a chance 😊
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(Original post by sunshinehss)
There's this book called "The 7 habits of highly effective teens" - I'd defo recommend reading it!!

It has pictures, jokes and it's not a heavy read. It's also very relatable and gives you ideas/tips on how to organise your life (all very realistic btw).


Spoiler:
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https://fliphtml5.com/lnym/dbxs/basic

Found this online copy, in case you can't get your hands on a physical one. Read it!!! It'll change your life/perspectives etc

Lool I'm not getting paid to promote this but I really loved this book/guide hence why I'm urging you to give it a chance 😊
Thank you I will definitely try it out
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How old are you?
How long have you been like this?
Hi, I am 17 years old and it has always been a big problem of mine
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Hi, I am 17 years old and it has always been a big problem of mine
Do you study well?
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So I have always had a problem with procrastination and wasting time. I can spend hours doing literally nothing. It feels like everytime I try to achieve something I have no motivation to actually achieve anything and I never ever get good at anything even tho I really want to.
What is the best way to change my mindset?
The secret you are looking for doesn't exist.
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Do you study well?
Not well, I get very distracted and lazy and I always procrastinate leaving everything to last minute
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You just have to push yourself. Take away the things that help you procrastinate for a duration of time, e.g your phone.
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