Friends and Gap Year Watch
Currently I have a few friends and I'm woried about not having any friends while on a gap year.
My friends are going to be spread out as they are going to different places and all.
I am not a very outgoing person and i'm shy and not much of a clubbing person.
Should I just apply to 'lesser' unis or should I follow heart and apply when I know unis can base their decision on my grades?
Also my mum is a very traditional person in that sense and she has categoricaly refused my plan on taking a gap year so how do I get her to agree with my decision.
Please keep anon
the worst case scenario is you have a miserable time
but 5, 10 years down the line, you will have had a much better time at uni because you were where you wanted to be, and you will have much better prospects- the place you get your degree could affect how easily you find work and how much you enjoy your job- basically the framework or your life- 1 year wont seem anything then
aside from that, you want to get a good grounding at A-level so you can make the necessary transition to develop the skills you need at uni-level to get a good degree- also very important wherever you go- and your miles more likely to achieve that if you are happy at your uni and know you'll have your hard work recognized because the uni is seen as a good one (and the teaching and general education there will generally be better, the better the university)
never let difficult parents affect your plan for your life 18 onwards- make this decision for you- ignore anything she says to try and talk you out of it- theres no good argument for going straight to a worse university where you dont want to be when you know you could have done better- do you always want to be looking back thinking 'what if?'?
she must be very conservative if she is totally against the whole idea of a gap year without even giving it a chance
thats the worst that could happen. You could always get a placement and meet other young people in your situation that way.
for my gap year I will be doing something within the Investment Banking field and I am worried I might not make friends as it usually takes me a while to get close to people and I might not be able to keep in touch with friends.
if all your friends are going to uni they will always come back during holidays- you'll be part of the life they'll look forward to at christmas,easter and summer- and you never know- some of them might have a really hard time at uni and not enjoy it and might be really glad to still have you as a friend- particularly if youre a friendly ear- someone they can turn to when everythings new whose not too busy with their own first year