Had an argument with my ex boyfriend and now he isn't speaking to me (advice?)

My ex broke up with my 9 months ago (togther 4/lived togther). He wanted to remain in contact though i tried to tell him we shouldn't remain in touch. However we have and I have been hopeful that perhaps we could work through things. We have met twice this year. Last time was about 6 weeks ago.

He recently got mad with me because i hadn't mentioned meeting up again. I feel bad because the reason I hadn't was because honestly I'm not in a good place and very depressed. However i have not wanted to tell him this.

When my ex through this up I said that I would like to meet him of course but that I hadn't been doing so great and this was the only reason I hadn't.

He got mad and said that the ball was in my court and that he thought I'd make more of an effort and how this was an issue when we were togther. This upset me and I said we should both be making an effort and told him he was the one that broke up with me so it is unfair to put such expectations on me.

I noticed him becoming distant, he wasn't responding to my messages over a few days or taking a full day and giving a few word responses. I stupidly asked him why he was ignoring me and he said he wasn't. I changed my settings on an app and he thought I'd blocked him (I hadn't).

He then told me to leave him alone, that he didn't want to talk and was busy. I know he isn't busy as he works two days a week...

Am I in the wrong for not suggesting to meet? I feel bad for him thinking i blocked him but I feel his reaction was a bit much. Now he's not spoken to me for 3 days and i don't know if i should message him or just leave it.

I'm really hurt now and confused. I know i probably jumped the gun but I could tell he was hardly contacting me compared with usual

Just looking for advice

he's your ex. why do you even want anything with him anyways?

Your first instinct was right.

You shouldn't have kept in contact with him. And you still shouldn't now, either.

He doesnt have any right to expect you to keep asking him to meet or to show an interest; he broke up with you, remember?

You are much better off protecting yourself and cutting him out.

I know, I guess I was hoping we could work through things

Hi, i'm sorry you are in a situation like this. You have to make a decision whether you want to be with him or not. He broke up with you for a reason, is it something you guys can work on? He sounds like he is keeping you hanging on a thread and then getting annoyed at you for not being at his beck and call (just my observation). It sounds like you are going through a lot personally and he isn't being very supportive or helping the situation. I would completely break off the situation, stop talking to him all together and work on yourself. Your mental health is way more important then any relationship (unless its a supportive one). I hope it works out for you and you start to feel better soon.

My ex broke up with my 9 months ago (togther 4/lived togther). He wanted to remain in contact though i tried to tell him we shouldn't remain in touch. However we have and I have been hopeful that perhaps we could work through things. We have met twice this year. Last time was about 6 weeks ago.

He recently got mad with me because i hadn't mentioned meeting up again. I feel bad because the reason I hadn't was because honestly I'm not in a good place and very depressed. However i have not wanted to tell him this.

When my ex through this up I said that I would like to meet him of course but that I hadn't been doing so great and this was the only reason I hadn't.

He got mad and said that the ball was in my court and that he thought I'd make more of an effort and how this was an issue when we were togther. This upset me and I said we should both be making an effort and told him he was the one that broke up with me so it is unfair to put such expectations on me.

I noticed him becoming distant, he wasn't responding to my messages over a few days or taking a full day and giving a few word responses. I stupidly asked him why he was ignoring me and he said he wasn't. I changed my settings on an app and he thought I'd blocked him (I hadn't).

He then told me to leave him alone, that he didn't want to talk and was busy. I know he isn't busy as he works two days a week...

Am I in the wrong for not suggesting to meet? I feel bad for him thinking i blocked him but I feel his reaction was a bit much. Now he's not spoken to me for 3 days and i don't know if i should message him or just leave it.

I'm really hurt now and confused. I know i probably jumped the gun but I could tell he was hardly contacting me compared with usual

Just looking for advice

Honestly, your ex sounds like a pain in the arse, he sounds like someone who really is demeaning, how are you meant to know he wanted you to meet up, you're not telepathic to what he was thinking, of course, assuming things and getting worked up over it is normal, we all do that, but, still remaining angry at it, when you clearly explained to him, that's his loss, he's being petty for whatever reason, and honestly, at the end of the day this is not your fault. You can't be too harsh on yourself, for not asking him when you were in a bad place, a person that wanted to work things out with you would sort their issue, rather than just point out your flaws, and it seems like he has issues himself he needs to fix, for instance not accepting your reason and in turn being so openly blunt about it, especially as he thought you blocked him when you didn't. Some people, are just so hard to please, dude. You just have to realise you haven't done anything bad. Leave it, let him cool off and when he wants to talk to you/ or if he wants to, then that's all good. If he doesn't he probably wasn't right for you anyway. You have to understand, not to be hard on yourself

I've messaged him and he is responding but coldy