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You're assuming people don't have safe sex or get tested regularly? If you wanna sleep with 1 person your entire life thats cool but if someone wants to consensually sleep with multiple people thats fine too.
a lot of young people are not always certain about whether they have an std or not and don't always get tested bc they are unaware which is a problem
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/health/...ted-study-says
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The girl also said the guys think she’s interested with them - she’s playing with their emotions / feelings.
Weak AF - no respect!
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Remember to NEVER SHOW YOUR FACE in nudes girl. Could be used as blackmail, might ward off future employers etc...

It sounds like you're unhappy with this, don't send nudes just because people ask for them. Make your relationship clear with them, tell them if your interested/uninterested in taking this forward/continuing to send nudes. Wouldn't say you're a hoe, would say that your just confused like a another person said in this thread.
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Remember to NEVER SHOW YOUR FACE in nudes girl. Could be used as blackmail, might ward off future employers etc...

It sounds like you're unhappy with this, don't send nudes just because people ask for them. Make your relationship clear with them, tell them if your interested/uninterested in taking this forward/continuing to send nudes. Wouldn't say you're a hoe, would say that your just confused like a another person said in this thread.
She’s not confused because she even said she knows that they think she’s interested but she hasn’t said anything - if she was confused she wouldn’t know she’s leading them on
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Allot fewer then compared to the vast amount of shaming that gets flung at women who decide to sleep around. because the consequences could be worse for women doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be allowed to have the same amount fun or sleep around like guys do.
Certain people are gonna cheat whether they have slept with one or thirty people. It says more about the Individual then have any relation to the amount of sex they’ve had.
What’s so terrible about a single parent family?
Also there are Plenty of non heteronormative relationships and which lead to no single mums or pregnancy. Yay for gay sex.
There’s Also nothing wrong with abortions.
In addition there is such a thing as safe sex, and providing that adhered to is the risk of STIs/can be minimised, & treatments can be given if you do get one.
You've missed my point, why should promiscuous behavior be promoted when it causes more problems. We should denounce promiscuous men as well as. It has no benefit, and encourages self-centered attitude.

yes people may still cheat but you'll be removing a contributing factor and reduce the chances of it occurring.

Being a single parent is more difficult than having a spouse to help you. I'm sure there are single parents who can attest to this

homosexual relationships are also negatively effected by promiscuous behavior cheating, STIs,

There's a lot wrong with abortions. It's a very unpleasant and costly procedure, I assume most women only turn to this as a last resort. we can reduce the need for this by encouraging people not to make an unwanted pregnancy in the first place. (Personally, i equate it to infanticide but i won't get into this too much since that's a whole debate on it's own.)

Contraception is not 100% successful. Let's say it works 99% of the time. That fine for an individual, 1% of pregnancy is negligible. In the bigger picture of country-wide population Let's say 1 million, that negligible 1% is 10,000 cases of unwanted pregnancy, potentially 10,000 abortions or abandoned children. now that's assuming everyone in this example uses contraception.

Sure STIs can be treated with antibiotic usually and they are relatively simple to treat but it's still embarrassing to the individual infected and unfair to those they may spread it to whether knowingly or unknowingly. (ikd what kind of sick person would deliberately infect someone)
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You've missed my point, why should promiscuous behavior be promoted when it causes more problems. We should denounce promiscuous men as well as. It has no benefit, and encourages self-centered attitude.
Hope this doesn't come off rude, but do you have any solution for promiscuous behavior?
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Allot fewer then compared to the vast amount of shaming that gets flung at women who decide to sleep around. because the consequences could be worse for women doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be allowed to have the same amount fun or sleep around like guys do.
Certain people are gonna cheat whether they have slept with one or thirty people. It says more about the Individual then have any relation to the amount of sex they’ve had.
What’s so terrible about a single parent family?
Also there are Plenty of non heteronormative relationships and which lead to no single mums or pregnancy. Yay for gay sex.
There’s Also nothing wrong with abortions.
In addition there is such a thing as safe sex, and providing that adhered to is the risk of STIs/can be minimised, & treatments can be given if you do get one.
I've refrained from replying to you so far, but this comment is abhorrent and about half-full of sh!t (maybe more).

I won't bother going into details to explain why. You sound far too indignant and set in your ways for well-founded arguments to change your mind, though I've got plenty.

You're entitled to think whatever you want, though please don't spread horsesh!t or to try to convince others on this site of it. I'm guessing you're doing this here as a means of passively self-affirming your own entrenched views by trying to convince other people of them who are still experiencing dilemmas on the subject (like the OP).

Plus, final point: people do deserve to get shamed for repeated bad decisions of theirs that cause wider collateral damage. Social stigma is a powerful deterrent that actually works on most people... like there's a reason why the OP is keeping most of this information a secret even from her best friends. And I speak of 'collateral damage' such as leading other people on, for example. Or having kids just to dump them onto the taxpayer at someone else's expense. It's got little to do with 'slut shaming' for me. I already criticised that phrase earlier on. It's to do with just being a decent/responsible person.
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Yes by definition but u are still a virgin so im guessing on the road to being a hoe
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You're assuming people don't have safe sex or get tested regularly? If you wanna sleep with 1 person your entire life thats cool but if someone wants to consensually sleep with multiple people thats fine too.
i forgot to add this earlier but, the idea of monogamy has evolved over time. the definition used to be that you stay with one person your whole life, however currently, monogamy is about staying with one person at a time.
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Are you the mum of someone who throws paper?
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No offence you sound like a girl I like to stay away from, just like the boys many girls like to stay away from.
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who are you referring to?
i'm not a mother

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Are you the mum of someone who throws paper?
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Hope this doesn't come off rude, but do you have any solution for promiscuous behavior?
That's a great question. I'll be honest I don't exactly know, so i'll give some ideas on what i think would be a beneficial direction.

For a start don't promote it as something good (i.e. sexual liberation) that misguided in my opinion. Promote healthy, long-lasting relationship as something to aspire to instead. (i'm sure a lot of people do want something like this).

Portray dating as a search for someone you would enjoy your life with instead of "i just wanna get laid". Keep the intimate stuff for someone you can trust and once they tell you that they are committed to you and only you.

Reserve sex for when your married. Marriage is a strong commitment. It binds two people together socially, financially,and legally (til death do you part). A lot of people fear (men in particular) it because it is a massive commitment and give it a lot of thought before proceeding. Unlike a causal fling that you can get done while drunk.

If you get pregnant while married, it would be very difficult for your husband to just abandon you. You'll be protected legally, financially and socially. I'll admit it's not faultless divorces still happen but it's not an easy process
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Nah it’s misogyny plain and simple. Trying to make women feel bad for being promiscuous.
Post rude pics/Sleep with as many people as you want if you ain’t In a monogamous relationship, there should be no shaming involved.
If that misogyny (which it isn’t btw) then refusing to go out with someone because of their skin colour is racism.
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No offence you sound like a girl I like to stay away from, just like the boys many girls like to stay away from.
Is that really the case though???

Ironic how a lot of girls hate on these guys, yet these guys still get so much action. I don't think this is true to the same extent vice versa.

So, girls are to a large extent also responsible for rewarding this type of bad behavior... despite condemning it at the same time, then in some instances using it as an excuse to justify their own promiscuity. Mindfvck.
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Is that really the case though???

Ironic how a lot of girls hate on these guys, yet these guys still get so much action. I don't think this is true to the same extent vice versa.

So, girls are to a large extent also responsible for rewarding this type of bad behavior... despite condemning it at the same time, then in some instances using it as an excuse to justify their own promiscuity. Mindfvck.
Fair point, don’t like how most of the posters are defending her
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Fair point, don’t like how most of the posters are defending her
I genuinely mean it though. I don't like guys who behave this way. Though practically every girl I've come across who wines about them, could do her part by not giving those guys attention.

I'll concede, I've been in this position myself. Ffs. The more attention you get, the even more you get, even if you aren't necessarily looking for it, don't want it and did nothing particularly outstanding to earn it. It is stupid.
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I am a virgin BUT I send inappropriate pics and sext with guys on snapchat. I feel like a hoe because im not just sexting with one guy but many guys. I feel like im leading some of them on as well because they think im only interested in them and they tell me how much they like me. one guy even told me how he loved me so much which I found cringy and creepy but I don't wanna stop talking to him since he's a sweet guy. So does this mean I am a hoe?
Yes. Whether or not you think that’s a bad thing is another issue.
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That’s an awful label. You should be careful about sending pictures to people though because they can come back to haunt you. I’ve never done it, but I can’t imagine sexting is great for your self-esteem.
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I am a virgin BUT I send inappropriate pics and sext with guys on snapchat. I feel like a hoe because im not just sexting with one guy but many guys. I feel like im leading some of them on as well because they think im only interested in them and they tell me how much they like me. one guy even told me how he loved me so much which I found cringy and creepy but I don't wanna stop talking to him since he's a sweet guy. So does this mean I am a hoe?
i'll be honest with you. That is hoe-like behavior hence why you may feel like on. You've given these guys the false impression that you are interesting only them, so you've essentially lied to them. My advise, you need to be very careful with the sexting, it can easily be turned against you as revenge porn, saved intimate stuff like this for a guy you can trust and who has told you he is only committed to you.

As one virgin to another, save it till you married. It's unlikely for someone to betray your trust after they are legally, financially and socially bound to you
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