Hey, guys, I'm going to be one of those annoying thread starters who just have no kickass badass behaviour, hence why I'm anon, but hey? It's a long journey to self-love. So I've been friends with a guy for a year before we confessed to each other that we liked each other. We've been dating I'd say officially since September, but we confessed and been exclusive since April last year, if you get what I mean... Anyway, my boyfriend had an ex, who was pretty much present, he knew her a month before he met me, but, he liked her and I of course was okay with that, just sort of shrugged it off, it didn't really work, as she confessed that she just didn't feel the same anymore. So they lasted about three months from Sept I'd say to December 2018. We confessed 4 months after, and it caused problems hence why we took so long to date aha, because I found out the hard way he wasn't over her (he didn't cheat, but he got jealous over her moving on). Anyway, now him and his ex don't talk to each other, infact they've just blocked each other and moved on, which is best for the both of them I guess, and no more drama for me whoop whop. Lmao, anyway I still have her on social media, and I always felt like inferior to her, ;/ like I would always think why her? I knew from the get go, their relationship wasn't going well, he'd ask for my help and he'd end up so frustrated and confused, he'd jump to other girls not knowing what he wanted. And, I sort of felt like well it's not my place to interfere, so I never did, I always helped him because at the end of the day I was his friend. Anyway, ever since I met him and because I also knew his ex, I can't help but comparing myself to her. I once asked him why her, and asked whether it was because of her looks, he just said they were more similar, which kind of upset me as I thought me and him were similar without even trying, and we liked the same things and connected over so many things, such as music and hobbies. Anyway, I kept on comparing myself to her, especially when another bloke said I was peng but this girl was so much more penger, and that was also something that stuck with me, this wasn't my boyfriend who said this, it was his mate. So it kind of hurt me, I mean since then I always compared myself to her, doesn't help that today is Eid and she posted a full glam makeup look and looked stunning on Instagram meanwhile, I look like a literal potato. I have makeup, I just don't know how to rock it, a lot of people say I look really good without makeup and that natural always suited me, I have to say I do look like a clown with makeup on, eyeliner doesn't really suit me. Does anyone know, how to stop comparing yourself to your bf/gf's ex. I know an ex is an ex, and my bf thinks im literally so beautiful he tells me everyday, and I tell him too. He Struggles a lot, we both have low self esteem but, we always build each other up, I really appreciate that, but, sometimes you know despite what anyone else says you just don't see it, or you just don't feel it, in which case how do you overcome it ;/