disclaimer: i have a very anxious and worrisome personality and i have been told i’m pessimistic at times. so i have a bad habit at picking in relationships and sometimes i come across harsh with my partner.
I do love him as he does try super hard for me and he is very adoring of me and caring. physically he’s perfect and i do see a life with him as our morals and ideas allign. he’s great, but i don’t know how some girls can be SO sure that their bfs are the ‘one’. i see them post how much they love their bf and are sure they are the one of them and i feel like .... is it only me who’s worried? He’s my first love so how do i know he’s THE love???? Idk???
As he is sensitive it can cause tension and we do argue at least once a week. This will involve getting annoyed and bickering for an hour then making up in the evening or the next day. he can be very childish and bicker or say things that are petty. we are also long distance so most of these arguments are due to communication. we have read all the articles and know exactly what to do to stop but it’s been 2 years and we still bicker. i love him the same and so does he, we are both still very crazy for eachother but over time i just wonder if we are compatible. i worry a lot, and about if our arguments aren’t normal and if we just aren’t working. Every now and then we’ll have a full on argument where he will get angry and shout and so will i and i’ll end up crying etc but we resolve it the night or the next day. Sometimes we do end up saying maybe we need to give this up and go are seperate ways because we keep arguing weekly. But we also make up shortly after lol
when we are together we rarely argue for longer than 30 mins and it’s easier for him to reassure me after because he is next to me.
Is it normal? Arguing around once a week... about trivial things like his tone, a comment i’ve made that he’s misunderstood, maybe i’ve been too anxious and he feels like i’m asking for too much reassurance, last week it was because i didn’t ask him about his weekend (i forgot).
Or are we toxic? Is our love doomed??? Help
a worrier