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Just finished first year at Notts Vet School and i dont think i can do this for the next 4 years. I love the course but i miss my family way too much, i have made no friends, my relationship is strained and i have absolutely no money to enjoy life or visit family and friends.
i've always wanted to travel but now i can't due to money and the nature of the course. i don't want to take another year out as i am already a few years behind due to poor health.
i feel stuck and no longer feel like its worth it? even though i dont know what i would do if i left.
I feel like i am loosing everything just to stay on the course. I am not happy at all.
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Tough one. Would you family or partner not pay towards coaches back once a week/fortnight? Or come visit you? Just to get through One term at a time.
University relationships do break up oftenn(usually half way through term One to be fair) so not worth packing in course for that.
How to make friends? Is there non university things you could join to meet people (football etc)
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my and my partner have been together for 5 years and he moved here with me but the lack of money and being unable to afford to go back and see friends and family or do any fun activities is putting a massive strain on us.
i dont know the area so i don't really know of places to go or things to do where i can meet people of a similar age, i have looked but there isnt anything around from what i can see.
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Just finished first year at Notts Vet School and i dont think i can do this for the next 4 years. I love the course but i miss my family way too much, i have made no friends, my relationship is strained and i have absolutely no money to enjoy life or visit family and friends.
i've always wanted to travel but now i can't due to money and the nature of the course. i don't want to take another year out as i am already a few years behind due to poor health.
i feel stuck and no longer feel like its worth it? even though i dont know what i would do if i left.
I feel like i am loosing everything just to stay on the course. I am not happy at all.
I would try and speak to someone perhaps a professional or close family member.
things are more difficult now then ever.

I would encourage you to try and find a way to mitigate the negative factors.
Perhaps try joining communi-tea which might help you find more mates.

Ultimately mental health and enjoying life is important and you cant be miserable for 4 years, not only is it not healthy its too long a period of your life to waste.

But given how competitive vet school is and the opportunities it provides I would at least seek out ways to make life enjoyable if possible.
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my and my partner have been together for 5 years and he moved here with me but the lack of money and being unable to afford to go back and see friends and family or do any fun activities is putting a massive strain on us.
i dont know the area so i don't really know of places to go or things to do where i can meet people of a similar age, i have looked but there isnt anything around from what i can see.
Ah bit more complex. Would it be sane if you were just working? I assume you probably pay more rent as not sharing with other students? Tough on a student budget.
But as a couple of 5 years, you at least have each other to keep company. Doesn’t they meet people in their work to socialise with?
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Just finished first year at Notts Vet School and i dont think i can do this for the next 4 years. I love the course but i miss my family way too much, i have made no friends, my relationship is strained and i have absolutely no money to enjoy life or visit family and friends.
i've always wanted to travel but now i can't due to money and the nature of the course. i don't want to take another year out as i am already a few years behind due to poor health.
i feel stuck and no longer feel like its worth it? even though i dont know what i would do if i left.
I feel like i am loosing everything just to stay on the course. I am not happy at all.
Hi there,



First of all I just want to say you are not alone in feeling like this. As a recently qualified vet my first year was awhile ago. Honestly, the first year is one of the toughest years of the veterinary course in my opinion. You are having to cope with leaving friends/ family, increasing workload pressures, living independently, maintaining a relationship, budgeting finances and making friends. I remember feeling totally overwhelmed with it all. However, there are likely to be tons of other students feeling the same way, I frequently had flatmates upset feeling homesick or stressed because they had spent too much that month. At the end of the day everyone is in the same boat and there will be other students feeling like you.



In terms of my advice, when going to lectures/ practicals chat to others around you in breaks or about vet stuff. It might take you time to find the people you click with but they will be there, you will find them and you will be friends for life. I would say I met my closest friends after 2/3 years on the course and we still speak every day, even though some of them graduated a year ago. Speak to your students union, its amazing how many clubs and societies are around for non-vet and vet stuff. Vet societies are great in that you can chat to others on your course whilst learning content you need for exams but make sure you also have fun, make time for your hobbies. Speak to your university, I know the RVC where I studied had an Advice Center for all the things that students struggle with, there may be free grants you can apply for to help with travelling costs etc. Every university will understand the importance of students being able to see their family on what is a very busy and potentially stressful course so speak to them and ask if there is a department that can give advice or guidance.



Finally, please don't give up! You should be so proud of the massive achievement you have already reached by getting to vet school. Your interviewers saw something in you that they thought would make you a fantastic vet. If you don't trust your decision trust theirs. The veterinary profession is one massive family and it's one of the things I love the most about my job. The whole ethos of being a vet is to help our colleagues and our future colleagues passing knowledge forwards. Please if you need anything at all or just have other worries or concerns, send me a PM. I would be more than happy to help.



From one sympathetic vet to my first year colleague,



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Just finished first year at Notts Vet School and i dont think i can do this for the next 4 years. I love the course but i miss my family way too much, i have made no friends, my relationship is strained and i have absolutely no money to enjoy life or visit family and friends.
i've always wanted to travel but now i can't due to money and the nature of the course. i don't want to take another year out as i am already a few years behind due to poor health.
i feel stuck and no longer feel like its worth it? even though i dont know what i would do if i left.
I feel like i am loosing everything just to stay on the course. I am not happy at all.
Hi, one does not usually drift into vet school - its one of the hardest programmes to join with only a handful of vet schools in the UK. You must have put a lot of thought into becoming a vet - becoming a vet is a calling, not just a profession.

If you do drop out, what do you plan to do instead? If you really want to drop out then no one can stop you but drop out with a backup plan please.
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Dropping out is bad for your future, you can't get a good job if you drop out
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The thing is, if you drop out, you might regret not completing the course. Struggle for 5 years and enjoy being a vet for a lifetime. Keep reminding yourself why you wanted to study veterinary medicine.
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Hi fellow Notts vet - sorry to hear you are having a tough time

I know lots of people who don't feel like they've met their group of friends yet at uni (and many more who probably feel that way but struggle to admit it). I'm always open to getting to know more people so you're welcome to drop me a message if you like

You might also be interested in a few FB pages: Vetfess, Vets: stay, go, diversify and Gals who graduate could all be helpful to you, making links and answering questions within the veterinary/university group. These can all be helpful at getting to know people before we get back to uni and while times are different due to corona.

In terms of getting the rest of life to work around the course, there's no magic bullet. Lots of us are struggling with finances right now thanks to COVID, but there are definitely ways of making money in and around SB. Would you be able to get a part time job on the uni shop on SB perhaps? Or do something different like online tutoring? This could perhaps tide you over and give you a bit more money as it sounds like this is one of your major concerns.
Don't forget there's lots of grants available too - maybe it's worth investigating if you qualify for any of those?
In terms of travelling, would it be possible to pair travelling with working/volunteering where some of the costs could be covered for you? Just something to look into.

When it comes to relationship/family, do you have a regular FaceTime call or anything like that? I found this super helpful for staying connected to family even when I couldn't be with them.

I'm glad you're enjoying the course - I think that's a real sign that you can persevere with it It's worth taking your time before you make any decisions; investigate some of the options that people have commented above and see where second year takes you. You never know what's around the corner and something good coming your way could have a positive dominoes effect e.g. a part time job to ease money worries, enables you to visit family, easing stress, etc. You never know where you could be a year or two from now.

If you are thinking about dropping out/taking a year out (I know you're not keen on this but if required to give you time to get on your feet) speak to the welfare team at the vet school. I've spoken to them about a variety of issues before and they're super helpful at letting you know what options are available to you.

Chin up friend - this stuff's never easy but you can find a way through❤️ xx
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Just finished first year at Notts Vet School and i dont think i can do this for the next 4 years. I love the course but i miss my family way too much, i have made no friends, my relationship is strained and i have absolutely no money to enjoy life or visit family and friends.
i've always wanted to travel but now i can't due to money and the nature of the course. i don't want to take another year out as i am already a few years behind due to poor health.
i feel stuck and no longer feel like its worth it? even though i dont know what i would do if i left.
I feel like i am loosing everything just to stay on the course. I am not happy at all.
I travelled to Africa on my own after uni, here is a post all about my experience: https://www.indialilyblogs.com/post/...-a-21-year-old
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