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I just can't wait to go to uni in September as I am not getting on with my mum at all. She constantly shouts and insults others and she is very confrontational. Talking to her about this doesn't help at all and only makes her more angry and shout even more.
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I just can't wait to go to uni in September as I am not getting on with my mum at all. She constantly shouts and insults others and she is very confrontational. Talking to her about this doesn't help at all and only makes her more angry and shout even more.
Same here but sometimes it gets physical too,It’s probably that time of the month.(or its she is just like that)
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I just can't wait to go to uni in September as I am not getting on with my mum at all. She constantly shouts and insults others and she is very confrontational. Talking to her about this doesn't help at all and only makes her more angry and shout even more.
Well stop talking to her about uni for now. Just make as many plans as possible yourself. Clearly, your mum is really unhappy in her personal life! That much is obvious.
So you have to use tactics: learn to speak less often. When was the last time you and your mum put on face masks and went out for a drink or a picnic somewhere? When did you last give her any compliments or spontaneous gifts?
Change your approach and see!
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Don’t take it personally she probably has a gap in her life that she can’t fill so she takes her anger on the people who are close to her
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My mums exactly the same but I don’t have a place for uni this year and can’t go through clearing for the course I want. So I’m stuck at home for another year. Trying to get a job to move out as I don’t have any other family to stay with, but job hunting in this current climate is basically impossible. Just hang in there, not too long until you go off to uni now, I hope it helps you and you can catch a break when at uni
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Well stop talking to her about uni for now. Just make as many plans as possible yourself. Clearly, your mum is really unhappy in her personal life! That much is obvious.
So you have to use tactics: learn to speak less often. When was the last time you and your mum put on face masks and went out for a drink or a picnic somewhere? When did you last give her any compliments or spontaneous gifts?
Change your approach and see!
But I am not talking to her about uni, did you read my post properly :confused: What can I do that she is unhappy it is not my fault things aren't working out career wise for her. I do all the cooking and cleaning and she is never happy or grateful. I try to interact with her the least I possibly can as she claims she wants to be left alone.
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Don’t take it personally she probably has a gap in her life that she can’t fill so she takes her anger on the people who are close to her
Thank you I will try not to take it too personally.
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But I am not talking to her about uni, did you read my post properly :confused: What can I do that she is unhappy it is not my fault things aren't working out career wise for her. I do all the cooking and cleaning and she is never happy or grateful. I try to interact with her the least I possibly can as she claims she wants to be left alone.
Ok. I do feel for you but if your mum insists on being left alone then maybe you should say ok.
If her career is going pants then its understandable that she is so fierce. But you will be at uni soon and will be able to do what you want.
Her behaviour and career are her responsibility not yours!
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Ok. I do feel for you but if your mum insists on being left alone then maybe you should say ok.
If her career is going pants then its understandable that she is so fierce. But you will be at uni soon and will be able to do what you want.
Her behaviour and career are her responsibility not yours!
I am definitely leaving her alone. She mostly sits in her room while I am in the living room
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I am definitely leaving her alone. She mostly sits in her room while I am in the living room
Yes, i think this is your best policy. My dad was very much like that until i left home as a teenager and only went back once afterwards! Some parents have no clue why they are actually parents.
Slowly plan your exit to uni and live away from home when you are at uni.
You are not responsible for the attitude of your parents so don't let their behaviour or the behaviour of of toxic people destroy your self esteem or your confidence !
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